Post # 1
I have 1 response card left that hasn’t been mailed back to me (I think that’s pretty good out of 200+ being sent out). I just can’t fathom it being a thing where he can’t come but he’s too shy or feels bad about replying No. I finally got his number from his dad b/c his dad forgot to ask him last time they saw each other, and I left a message only this morning. I need to know by end of week though. If I don’t hear back from him, should I just count it as a no or leave room for his family of 4 just in case? I hate having 4 empty chairs if they can’t make it.
Why is it so difficult to just send it back with a No???
Post # 3
@March2011BrideLA: I think it would be better to have 4 empty seats then 4 people without seats.
Post # 4
@Riot: Ditto. It sucks, but I would definitely count them in rather than out. Is it a family friend of your FI’s? Ask them to call too! It’s awkward, but they’re the ones who had poor etiquette for whatever reason. You just need to know!
Post # 5
Out of 200+ invites, you’re only waiting on one RSVP? That’s incredible!
I agree with the PP’s that it’s probably better to count him in rather than out. Personally, I’m anal about these things so I’d probably call repeatedly to get an answer!
Post # 6
You ladies are really nice 🙂 Maybe I’m a b*tch, but I would count them out if I didn’t get a response after several attempts…and leave him a message to let him know that I was sorry, but assumed that no reply meant he was unable to make it. Four seats is alot…that would be over $200 wasted at my wedding.
Post # 7
@March2011BrideLA: wow you are lucky. I had to hunt SO many down… the most bizarre one I got was the RSVP envelope with no RSVP card inside. Talk about major detective skills! Is there anyone else you could ask (that knows him and is attending the wedding)?
Post # 8
Thanks ladies for all the advice. I actually just got a call from him with an explanation of course. He and his wife are coming, no kids. So that’s the last of it for me!
Stranger 1 – My natural instinct was to cut them out like you, but b/c it’s family I had to think about the consequences of them maybe showing up without rsvp’ing.
And trust me, I bugged my mom and my in-laws so many times to chase down family members whose rsvp’s were slow. All our friends are so proper, those were all in on time, except 1 that my fiance had to chase down.
Post # 9
Since you are only unsure of 4 I say count them in. I think it would be worse to have no seats than 4 extra seats.