(Closed) “Down with the strapless wedding gown”

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m down with that. I have never understood why strapless wedding gowns are so popular. They very rarely flatter anyone, even slim, fit brides would usually look much better in a different style. Also the women who wear strapless wedding gowns usually don’t have too many *other* strapless dresses (presumably because they are unflattering?) so I do not understand why they choose this for thier special day.

Post # 4
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I think she’s basing a lot of her opinion on strapless wedding dresses on strapless ready-to-wear, which is an entirely different story. A strapless wedding dress (any wedding dress) is expertly fitted to you, which means you aren’t always trying to keep it on and in place. A strapless neckline is traditionally very formal, allows freedom of movement, and offers a beautiful neckline. Most of the problems she points out (spillover cleavage, etc) are based on bad alterations and some women even do it on purpose because they want more cleavage. That’s not the fault of the strapless neckline. There’s a reason strapless is so popular. Besides, on myself, the edge of a fitted sleeve against my upper arm creates more of a dramatic fat-buldging effect than a strapless dress does at my back.

Post # 5
2601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

LOL–my dress was strapless and in no way do I have buff arms or shapely shoulders! I guess another style might have worked out better, but I was on a time and money budget so we went with one that was strapless.

…Can’t they add straps to most strapless dresses?

Post # 6
4324 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I added sleeves to my gown. Hate strapless. Scratch that. I don’t hate strapless, I just hate the forced lack of options available! 

Post # 7
5177 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

Whatever. I have a great back and shoulders/neck and a strapless dress was very flattering on me. And no tugging, or spillover despite being a 32Dirty Delete as it was altered/fitted to me.

It was the dress that I felt the most comfortable and beautiful in, and I very much loved having my shoulders and back “free”. Any of the halters, sleeves, and so on were just too much “up there” and overwhelming for me. I don’t wear dresses normally, so being in something that did not take over and that I felt comfortable in was very important for me. My wedding was rather informal, but it is not like I looked like I rolled out of bed either.

Post # 8
1916 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I personally think they are more popular, because when you try on a sample size it is easier to envision what you will look like.

I tried on several sample dresses with straps and even though they clip things and tuck, it still looks unflattering.  I’m sure if I ordered the dress in my size it would look great, but it’s hard to see yourself that way when you’re wearing a dress a couple sizes too small or too big.

Post # 9
3 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had no intention of going with the popular strapless style – it was my only rule….needless to say I have a strapless :-/ The plan is to now work on the arms!! Every single bride I know wore strapless and when I told the shop attendant that I wanted sleeves she kind of done a half shrug/ snigger and when I looked around it was clear that they were all strapless. I think it’s so popular because that’s all there is to try on in most shops!

Post # 11
1736 posts
Bumble bee

I’m in the “no strapless” camp, but it really only applies to me. I have seen others that look stunning in the strapless look, but it’s not a wedding dress style I would choose for myself. I purchased a dress that has lace straps (side note: I really don’t like the word “straps” – it doesn’t sound pretty!) and I’m in love with it. To each their own, I say!

Post # 12
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

there are some lovely strapless dresses out there that do look fabulous but I was not even remotely interested in a strapless. That was the first thing I told my consultant.

Post # 13
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Not liking this article at all. If you are too flat chested, get cutlets/bra sewn into the gown. If the dress cuts into your armpits, then you need to have it altered to fit you correctly. And there are a ton of variations of how the neckline looks on a strapless dress. And if it fits you correctly, then there is no reason why it would be falling off. Not to mention has she never heard of double sided tape? And virtually any strapless dress can have sleeves sewn onto it.

Post # 14
3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@mrsSonthebeach:  I have to agree.  I know that was my thought process when I went to try on wedding dresses!  I was soooo against having a strapless dress because of my experience with everyday strapless dresses in my past.  Once I got past my bias against them and actually tried on a strapless dress, I found that I liked it MUCH better then with sleeves, and because it was tailored to me (or rather in my case, because it was a corset back) it fit like a dream and I had no worries about it slipping or falling off of me.  Everything stayed exactly where it was supposed to be!

I get though that some people just have a vision of what they want and that a strapless gown, no matter how well it fits them, just might not fit the bill.  This article though makes it sound like she never even bothered to try on anything strapless to find out.

Post # 15
1575 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I really don’t care what other brides wear but more wedding dresses with sleeves are definitely needed!

Post # 16
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

The author is allowed to have an opinion… She doesn’t think that strapless dresses are universally flattering… and more specifically, she doesn’t think that the style is flattering on HER.

Now every Bee-Bride I have seen post photos has looked beautiful – with or without straps on her dress!

But with that said (and I mean it!) I’m in the same camp as the author – I’m not a fan of strapless dresses.  Not for myself at least.  I don’t find them comfortable (yes, even high quality, correctly tailored ones) and I don’t think the style is the most flattering that I can wear.  So am I frustrated that the majority of wedding dresses are strapless? – Absolutely!  Would I have liked it if there was a greater selection of dresses that featured other necklines? Certainly!  Do I wish that people understood that “adding straps” is not going to solve this bride’s concerns about a strapless dress? Oh, I pray for the day!! 

But I’m only going to wear ONE dress.  And I’m not going to change what’s fashionable.  Neither is this one internet article.  But even if strapless dresses did start to become slightly less popular, would that be so bad?  It would just mean that there were more options available, not that brides would struggle to find a beautiful gown, sans straps.

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