Post # 1
Fiance and I have been engaged a while (almost 3 years). We wanted to get married last October, but there wasn’t money, so we postponed it. Lately, though, I have been thinking of just having the smallest wedding I can, with just my nearest and dearest. I even joked that we should just get married in my pastor’s office after morning prayer! My aunts and uncles on my dad’s side don’t approve of my impending marriage because FI is Puerto Rican and is disabled. Money and status mean a lot to them, which is weird because my father didn’t make a lot of money, and we lived in public housing. He has issues with his family as well, his sister doesn’t have much to do with anyone except at the holidays, and his one brother and his wife constantly gossip about FI behind his back. The rest of his family is in Puerto Rico, and they have never expressed any interest in the wedding at all, except his younger brother and father. The only people who ever ask is people from my church. I have never told anyone who was/wasn’t invited, but we originally had a guest list of about 65 people. Now, I have in mind no more than 20! He was absolutely fine with it, saying we could save the money for our future, or even splurge on our honeymoon. Financially, it is the best choice we have. We just want to be married, and it will be no less legal if we have 2 people or 200 there.
My question is this: Would anyone else want to just throw the fluff out the window to marry the love of your life?
Post # 3
We are planning on a small wedding anyway (around 50 people), but in the event that it gets too expensive/dramatic/overwhelming, we have a backup plan that includes immediate family only, because yes, getting married is the most important part here, and I refuse to go crazy/hate my family because of it!
Post # 4
In all honesty it comes downt to what you and your FI want, but i get the feeling you are second guessing wanting the smaller wedding just by asking the question.
Alot of people can pull off really nice small intimate weddings whilst saving alot of money. It isnt personally my style but hey everyone is different and wants different things. My wedding wont be much bigger probably around 50 but alot of my budget is going to vendors as im not very into DIY and the hassle and stress of it.
So if you are pretty hands on and have alot of spare time you may able to also have a lil fluff.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I would happily throw everything out the window to elope or have a small civil service with parents only.
Post # 6
@miss-stacie-2013: I really do want the smaller wedding, I have from the beginning. Weddings are like weeds, if not properly taken care of, they get out of control! They take on a life of their own. Originally, we wanted just a small, simple ceremony at church, followed by cake and punch, or small sandwiches. Then, our honeymoon would be at a B&B not far away. The bigger wedding caused me so much angst, and when I think of going smaller, I breathe easier. I am an older bride, 43, and this is his second marriage (he’s 46), so the bigger wedding isn’t really that big a deal.