(Closed) Dr. Phil surprises reluctant BF & waiting GF w/ surprise wedding on stage.

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: If you had been the waiting GF, would you have been happy about the wedding Dr. Phil arranged?
    Yes! That sounds amazing, and she finally became a wife. : (0 votes)
    It wouldn't be my ideal scenario, but I'd be grateful to no longer be waiting. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I would be unhappy about not being proposed to and not getting an engagement ring. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I'd be unhappy with not having my family and friends there. : (4 votes)
    3 %
    I'd be unhappy about being married without bands we chose and in the clothes we were wearing. : (0 votes)
    I'd feel like SO didn't want to marry me and was forced into it. : (41 votes)
    35 %
    I'd be FURIOUS for multiple reasons. : (37 votes)
    32 %
    I wouldn't have gone through with it. : (33 votes)
    28 %

    117 votes

    • Post # 1
    Member
    534 posts
    Busy bee

    A couple went on Dr. Phil to discuss the boyfriend’s reluctance to get married. 

    The couple was in their late 30s, I’m guessing. 

    The Boyfriend or Best Friend had been divorced and was afraid of marriage. The Girlfriend had never been married and wanted to be married. He told her they’d get married if they lasted 5 happy years. They had been together for 6 1/2 happy years.

    Dr. Phil questioned the both of them and tried to coerce the Boyfriend or Best Friend into changing his mind about not wanting to marry. He felt that things were good how they were.

    Dr. Phil wasn’t making much progress bc the Boyfriend or Best Friend was still not agreeing that marrying isn’t so scary after all. He Boyfriend or Best Friend was also citing financial concerns about funding a wedding.

    Then it happened. 

    Dr. Phil started asking, “What if you could get married right now, right here. Would you do it?”  

    Maybe what happened next wouldn’t have been so bothersome if the Boyfriend or Best Friend had replied, “Of course! I would marry her this very second.” Instead he floundered and repeated the same things he had been saying all day.

    Dr. Phil was undeterred.  He kept plowing on and asked, “Is there a pastor in the house?” The audience started clapping as a pastor stood up and approached the stage. The Girlfriend caught on and looked excited. Her Boyfriend or Best Friend looked a bit shell shocked. People appeared with a bouquet, some floral arrangements, an altar, and the rings. The couple was ushered over and married in an extremely short ceremony, like 1 min. He said yes, but he didn’t look miserable, excited, angry etc. He looked a bit shocked. They were married; the wedding was over. Then Dr. Phil cut to a commercial break.

    So, she got her wedding! Would you waiting Bees have been grateful had Dr. Phil done the same thing for you?

     

    Post # 3
    Member
    14494 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Dr Phil is an idiot anyway IMO. 

    I’d have been pissed if he pulled that bs on me or my so, I would never want either of us in that embarrassing situation. I’d bet pennies to pounds they either get it annulled or are divorced in one year (if it takes that long). 

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    2634 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @IheartUFC:  I I would feel robbed in so many ways. Not an ideal. It would have been nice fir Phil to finance the wedding, or sent them away for elopment,  but on tv. Nope.

    Post # 5
    Member
    9115 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’d be furious for more than one reason. I don’t need some hack of a “doctor” on a TV show to help me get married. I wouldn’t want to get married on TV, in front of a billion different strangers and have my boyfriend forced into it.

    How ridiculous. I hope no one ever take his advice seriously. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    967 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Umm no thank you. I understand waiting and wanting to get married, but there is a difference between “getting married to someone who loves you and wants to marry you as well” and “awkwardly forcing someone into a marriage they clearly are not ready for”.

    Post # 7
    Member
    534 posts
    Busy bee

    Don’t you have to get a marriage license to be legally married? Was the whole thing a sham? At what point are you actually legally married? Is it when you sign the marriage papers and turn them in? I’m really curious.

    I would have been so embarrassed and caught off guard. I probably would have plastered a smile on my face, but I hope I would have been able to stop it and not gone through with it, despite the clapping audience, the crew with the flower arrangements, rings, and the smiling pastor. What a terrible situation to be in!

    Post # 8
    Member
    241 posts
    Helper bee

    His show is turning more Jerry Springer every day…

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    594 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @IheartUFC:  That definitely wasn’t a legal marriage. I’m not sure where they were at and what the laws are there, but in Pennsylvania, you need to get a marriage license, which takes at least 3 days and both parties need to be present to apply and give consent that they are not being forced to marry against their will. Then the actual marriage certificate needs to be signed by all parties. If it’s Vegas, then maybe it would be real, but there would still need to be papers signed PRIOR to the ceremony. Dr. Phil’s show is such garbage anyway, they will do anything for views.

    Post # 10
    Member
    7339 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @SarahTee:  +1 on all counts. Dr Phil tapes in LA and while there’s no waiting period, you do have to go to the county clerk’s office to get your license. I guess someone wanted a free trip to LA!

    Post # 12
    Member
    594 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @IheartUFC:  I completely agree. Fake or not, I’m not saying “I Do” until October 4, 2014! That would really bug the crap out of me. Hopefully for their sakes they are just actors doing it for the money.

    Post # 13
    Member
    8675 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @IheartUFC:  I think Dr Phil is one of the worst therapist there is. In a lot of cases he is nothing more than a bully.

    I would give this couple 12 months before they seperate. I bet the Girlfriend pressured him onto the show and then Dr Phil pressured him onto a wedding (real or not). Poor guy.

    I just don’t get women like this. If he is saying and showing that he doesn’t want to get married (which he clearly was) and you want to be married then leave and find someone who has the same vision as you.

    Post # 14
    Member
    9954 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Wow, that sounds truly awful on all fronts… a real train wreck

    (I may just have to find this on time-delay so I can see for myself)

    By your description, the guy didn’t sound like he wanted to get married at all

    And now the girl has him as her Husband… but at what cost ?

    He must surely feel duped / conned

    This won’t bode well for their future…

    So ya, really dumb sh!t if you ask me !!

    — — —

    Lol, IF Phil had read Greg Behrendt’s Book… He’s Just Not That Into You… he would have told the poor girl the truth…

    The guy is either a I Don’t Want To Be Married Guy… OR

    I Don’t Want To Be Married TO YOU Guy

    That would have been the better road to take IMO

    (lol, but a lot lower in regards to Tv Ratings !!)

    — — —

    I used to be a HUGE Dr. Phil fan

    But then somewhere around 2005 or so **, he got addicted to the Money & Fame, IMO

    And his show has gone down hill ever since

    It is now all about the DRAMA & TRAUMA

    As someone else said it’s become very “Jerry Springer-ish”

    ** The turning point in my mind was the 2006 Season when he introduced The Dr Phil House segment to his show… after the runaway success he had attracting & keeping viewers with The Dr Phil Family (Teenage Mother Alexandra) in 2004.

    And that was about the time that I stopped watching.

    I do however have some faith in his books… many which were written long before all the Reality Tv direction he took the show to… and I still find the guy in writing to be a lot more grounded than he is in front of a camera (I think fame went to his head) and I regularly recommend his book Love Smart ~ Find The One You Want – Fix the one you got here on WBee often.

    — — —

     To @Hyperventilate:  Re – DOCTOR Phil

    In reality, he does have a Doctorate (PHD) in clinical Psychology… but ya he ain’t a Medical Doctor or a Licensed Psychiatrist.

    That doesn’t mean that he isn’t a well educated man tho… he is.  His credentials are quite real in that regard.

    I think that the Doctor to his title was a Marketing Tool (gimick) if you will… catchy nickname.  I don’t believe that most people actually believe him to be a Doctor.

     

    Post # 15
    Member
    11747 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @IheartUFC:  I don’t know of a state where you don’t need a marriage license first so they aren’t legally married. Dr. Phil’s an idiot. No one should be coerced into marriage. If he doesn’t want it and she does, she needs to move on.

    Post # 16
    Member
    471 posts
    Helper bee

    it’s probably not going to last very long. If he is still weary after 6.5 years, the probability of him NOT proposing marriage is very high (IMO). Also, he probably didn’t want to seem like a jerk on national television so he went a long with it. which sucks for the girl because she’s caught in the middle of a scared of marriage man and a overzealous tv host.

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