- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Ok so we downsized our wedding, and thrw away 1000 deposit and decided to have at our own house. We are private people and the big show thing is not for us. Still going to be nice, but intimate
I have 1 maid of honor and 2 bridesmaids. When the one bridesmaid “thelma” found out i was downsizing she texted me and said hopeully i dont take this the wrong way but she would not be offended if i only wanted my maid of honor in wedding…. she than said that she is sure “karen” (bridesmaid #2) would feel the same.
I said I didnt intend on downsizing the wedding party…… and if she didnt want to be in it, that is fine, and i wouldnt have asked her to be in it if i didnt want her in it.
I asked if her and KAren had been talking and she said no they dont talk about the wedding, only the bachelorette.
I am hurt by her randomly texting that. It makes me think there is a hidden meaning behind it. I asked KAREN if she wantd to be in it still and she said Yes of course.
I dont think it was Thelmas place to text that in the first place, even if she meant no harm by it.
She said she clearly offended me by texting that, and i said no i am not offended i only wondered why she would say that……. made me wonder if there was a hidden meaning. She said it was not her intention at all.
I feel like I cant trust her now, and I feel things are different, but I have not seen her in real life only text, since we are busy shift workers.
Thelma and Karen are close now…. where as it started out I was close with Thelma, than the 3 of us all hung out, now Thelma and Karen seems closer. I am not jealous, I just feel slightly left out and hurt and probably too sensitive. I hope I didnt make the wrong decision asking Thelms to be in it. She did seem genuinly happy when I asked her…… she teared up.
Ok just my vent session, since I cant really talk to Karen about it, I dont want it to get into she said blah blah….. So hear no one knows….
Thank you guys