(Closed) Drama! Am I being mean??

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should we figure something else out??

    No, you're fine, you're including them in the majority of events.

    Yes, you are being mean to not include them

    I don't think you're being mean, but I have a suggestion below)

    It's your party, do what you want. :) haha

  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    She needs to get over it.  If she’s that upset about it she can blame the 98th Congress for raising the drinking age in 1984.  She’s just being immature, which is what 19 years olds often do.  Ignore it and proceed with your plans, which sound very inclusive to me.

    Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee

    What exactly is not fair? She’s underage, she wouldn’t even be allowed inside most bars. You’re spending the day with everyone and then making extra time for the adults. 

    I would try to sit down and really talk to her about it and show her you’re concerned about her feelings. If it boils down to her being mad that the day isn’t about her and she’s not mature enough to understand that people hang out with different friend groups at different times, well, tough cookies.

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee

    It’s really nice of you to include them as much as you did.  She’s young, let her throw her hissy fit then calm down. Just ignore it and have your fiancé talk to her. Don’t think you’re being unreasonable at all!

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    She is being such a brat!! You are well within your rights to bar hop and leave her at home. She’s being selfish not you. Have you asked your Fiance to have a word since its his sister?

    I don’t think you should waste a second feeling guilty. She’s being very immature. It’s not her party. She doesn’t get to spoil your night because she can’t join in. Don’t sweat it, sweetie and don’t give in to her. She gets a whole day of fun. Boo hoo. I’m all the way on your side.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee

    Ah…youth. She just doesn’t get it. Does she really think that you are going to tailor your entire bachelorette party around her age? Wait..she does. 🙂

    You’ve done just fine including her. Continue with your plans–they’re quite reasonable!

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I wanted to vote for the top one and the bottom one. You sound lovely by the way. 

     

    Post # 10
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    MsCandyGirl:  She’s being a total brat. Who’s planning the bachelorette? I would just have it fall on that person. Sorry – this is what Maid/Matron of Honor has planned!

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee

    You are doing everything you can to include her.

    Don’t sweat 

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    What you are doing, is what I would have suggested doing.  You shouldnt miss out on the party you want just because your sister is unable to attend.  You are including her in a majority of the activity, and her age is not something you can change.  

    Honestly, I think it is lovely of you to involve the under age sisters at all. 

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee

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    MsCandyGirl:  Yep, tough cookies. Sounds like this is just an excuse to whine and draw attention to herself more than anything else, so don’t take it too personally. Keep your plans as they are. 

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    honestly, dont even stress about it. Your bachelorette is about you. your frineds should be planning a fun day/night in your interest.

    Im sure one day she will understand also when its her turn to get married, and she wont want to have her bachelorette at the mcdonalds play park just so your kids can be included.

    bachelorettes are not catered to the young (underaged teens or kids) and its also not catered to the old (no gradmas) The bridal shower is the occassion to include all of the ladies.

    I dont think youre doing anything wrong or mean here. The fact that you are including her in the day activity is sweet and thoughtfull.

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