(Closed) Drama and more drama, not sure if eloping is best????

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@butterfly1988:  If you and your Fiance could name the top 3-5 most important priorities (location, feeling, whatevers) for your wedding day, what would they be?

Post # 4
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Newbee

@butterfly1988:  I am having a similar conundrum and everyone I’ve spoken to (online and in lire) who has eloped has not regretted having a more traditional wedding. Most of my married friends who did the big white wedding have told me to avoid that because of cost, stress, fights with parents ect.

I suspect you will be overjoyed and thrilled on your wedding day you could never have regrets.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@butterfly1988:  I went thru the same thing, not so much family drama but I just started getting stressed and everything was so expensive. I felt like we were putting on a party for our friends. We decided we just want to use the money to travel, so we are “eloping” to Hawaii then having a bbq when we get back.

I’ve felt great about my decison ever since. Maybe you could elope then have a dinner when you return? This way no one ruins your day. You’ll have a romantic ceremony and pics – just you two, if there is drama at the dinner who cares – it’s not your wedding day at that point.

What have you decided?

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@butterfly1988:  Give yourself some time and take everyone else’s opinions out of the equation, then it’ll be easier to decide if eloping is the right choice.

I was engaged mid-July and since then have planned like 3 different weddings. Originally I wanted a Destination Wedding and most family balked at this so then we tried to plan a more traditional wedding at home. I have been MISERABLE about it. I have tried to go through the motions and have kept up with planning, but in my heart I know it is not what I want. No matter how many corners we cut, we are still on schedule to pay waaaay more than I want to. We are house hunting and I can’t imagine blowing all that money on a wedding when what we really want is a home. So, after a tear fest on the phone w/ Fiance last week, we have decided to elope and then host a great reception at a fave restuarant for all of our family & friends. I will still wear my dress, Fiance will get a new suit, and we will keep our photographer so we have nice pics of us together and w/ loved ones. So we are keeping the elements that are important to us and nixing all the rest like crazy expensive flower arrangements, a formal ceremony, bridal party, limos for all of us, etc.

As a PP said, figure out the top things that you really want for your wedding and plan around that.

@CaymanGirl:  Your plan sounds great!

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