(Closed) Drama bees, wtf.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2790 posts
Sugar bee

The girls on the Bee keep it real. 99% of the time they are not being mean they are being real. Maybe what they are telling you is real. Girls on here are not just out to jack you up they are out to give you honest opinions and they want you to know what real life is like not what you think is happening. Take everything with a grain of salt but know that with such a strong community these girls are giving you the best advice you can get.

Post # 4
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390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Hi,

So I read some of your previous posts and I kind of understand where you are coming from. There were some…ahem…weird comments made about the ring. And I did see where you’d be upset about comments about loving your fiance the way he is. I think the use of capital letters and bolded text is what bothered me.

I also understand a man who asks you to push him because he knows his own faults and knows that you are more responsible and would motivate him. Stay strong and try to take what people say with a grain of salt. Not everyone is trying to change their fiance (which is a female stereotype) and you have to keep in mind that your situation is different. Sometimes computers make it hard to see the whole issue rather than just what you’re typing.

It’ll be okay.

Post # 5
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1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

That’s the issue with the internet. We, as the audience, cannot fully interpret what you say because we can’t hear the inflections and tones in your voice. I posted some posts under my pre-wedding name that got a lot of people saying things I hadn’t posted about and while it got me upset at first, I learned to just ignore those posts unless I felt it was really something that needed to be corrected.

I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way about your posts but I can guarantee you 100% you’re not alone 🙂

Post # 6
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273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@MsBrooklynA: Hang in there. I have read your posts as well and I think people sometimes interpret or try to read between the lines a little too much at times. I have been guilty of it as well.

I would follow your own advice and just skip over those that post with comments you feel are inappropriate and snarky. The best advice I have ever received…”Only you can let people hurt you”. ((HUGS)) and love

Post # 7
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1087 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Dont let it get to you. Since its just words and you can not see the facial expressions or hear a voice tone things that are written may be misinterpreted. 🙂 <—-

Post # 8
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

You’re going to get all sorts of opinions and comments when you post on a forum. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post personal info about yourself online. Not trying to be rude in saying that, but you can’t control what other people are going to say, so if you don’t want to hear it, don’t participate in it. Seems to me starting posts like this just puts more drama out there…

Post # 9
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486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@MsBrooklynA:I disagree wholeheartedly the girls on the bees are victms of group think 89% of the time in my opinion. I love the site but their are a lot of followers.

Post # 10
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862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@agirlwithdreams7: I also think that you should just ignore them. No one on here knows you personally so it’s just their opinion in which they are entitiled to. However, there is no excuse for people to be plain rude but since you can’t control it, just take it with a grain of salt. For me, if someone responds to my post in a way that I think is rude or "uncalled for", I simply ignore them and don’t respond. I am not going to waste my time or energy trying to explain over and over what I meant….especially if my posting was very clear. Keep your head up and try not to let others get you down. Everyone will not agree with you all the time so just agree to disagree and keep it moving 🙂

Remember, you can’t control what others write in your posting but you can control how you respond to it…. don’t respond….but if for whatever reason, you feel the need to defend yourself then by all means do what you have to do…but it will only keep the drama going….so is it worth it?

Good luck with all of your planning.

Post # 11
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579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I hear what PP are saying about you cant put yourself out there and not expect ‘real’ responses, or ppl to interpurt things in a manner that isnt meant etc.

However, call me crazy, but it seems lately, there is a TON of snarky bitchtasticness going around.  I get the impression that along with the anniminaty of being on the internet, posters feel they can say things they would not normally say to a persons face.  That because no one can peg them for who they are in real life, they can ‘get away’ with saying whatever they want, regardless of how they come off.  I dont find this to be acceptable either.  As a whole, seems everyone needs to take a step back before posting and replying….

Post # 12
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811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@KatyElle: <—- agreed. While I’d love to tell you we’re all bubbles and hearts here sometimes things don’t come out quite as anticipated. Take peoples differing opinions and mix that with the limitations of the internet and intepreting text and you’re bound to be disapointed some of the time (at least). Plus, although we try to be helpful we don’t know you like we would our best friends so we’re only getting one aspect of the situation and your place in it.

Keep your chin up and don’t let a few off comments spoil your day!

Post # 13
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1506 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What’s the point of asking a question or asking for advice if you just want everyone to agree with you?

Post # 14
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4311 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ha.  You should’ve been here like 2 months ago.  This is Disneyland, love, hugs, rainbows and butterflies.

Post # 15
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6351 posts
Bee Keeper

I’ve noticed the addition of a few very snarky bees lately. I vote ignore.

Post # 16
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1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@HardyPooleParty: “bitchtasticness”. Love this.

In response to OP, I say read the opinions, but don’t take them to heart. It’s the internet, people get stupid because there isn’t any recourse for anything they do.

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