Post # 1
Hi bees, HI NICE CARING CONSIDERATE BEES.
I’m having a dilemma. I post on here to get support from others, to hear kind words, and to feel better when I’m having a crappy day. But does this happen? Not so much.
I make a post about some issues, and get bombarded with nasty comments, snarky attitudes and just downright mean remarks towards what those bees THINK I am saying in my posts. If you ASSUME I feel a certain way, then DON’T make a nasty remark, just keep your mouth shut. If you are uncertain of what I mean in a post, please ask, I will clarify. But for example, I post about my fiance, and then get comments on how sentimental value is missing for my ring, and that I don’t love my fiance for who he is!? Really? I mean really? I don’t see why those things have to be said, AT ALL. I was not insinuating those things at all in my posts, and if you would have read them correctly, you would have known that.
I do really appreciate the bees who do comfort and have kind words to give, because it really does help lift the stress of wedding planning. But to all who are being inconsiderate, just don’t bother posting comments on my posts. If I wanted your nasty opinions, I would ask for them. I’m not trying to offend any of those who are nice and respectful in any way, I just don’t understand why some people have to be so catty and ignorant for NO REASON.
Please nice bees, can I get some support here? I want to know that I’m not alone with this, and that I’m not the only one who feels this way.
Post # 3
The girls on the Bee keep it real. 99% of the time they are not being mean they are being real. Maybe what they are telling you is real. Girls on here are not just out to jack you up they are out to give you honest opinions and they want you to know what real life is like not what you think is happening. Take everything with a grain of salt but know that with such a strong community these girls are giving you the best advice you can get.
Post # 4
So I read some of your previous posts and I kind of understand where you are coming from. There were some…ahem…weird comments made about the ring. And I did see where you’d be upset about comments about loving your fiance the way he is. I think the use of capital letters and bolded text is what bothered me.
I also understand a man who asks you to push him because he knows his own faults and knows that you are more responsible and would motivate him. Stay strong and try to take what people say with a grain of salt. Not everyone is trying to change their fiance (which is a female stereotype) and you have to keep in mind that your situation is different. Sometimes computers make it hard to see the whole issue rather than just what you’re typing.
It’ll be okay.
Post # 5
That’s the issue with the internet. We, as the audience, cannot fully interpret what you say because we can’t hear the inflections and tones in your voice. I posted some posts under my pre-wedding name that got a lot of people saying things I hadn’t posted about and while it got me upset at first, I learned to just ignore those posts unless I felt it was really something that needed to be corrected.
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way about your posts but I can guarantee you 100% you’re not alone 🙂
Post # 6
Hang in there. I have read your posts as well and I think people sometimes interpret or try to read between the lines a little too much at times. I have been guilty of it as well.
I would follow your own advice and just skip over those that post with comments you feel are inappropriate and snarky. The best advice I have ever received…”Only you can let people hurt you”. ((HUGS)) and love
Post # 7
Dont let it get to you. Since its just words and you can not see the facial expressions or hear a voice tone things that are written may be misinterpreted. 🙂 <—-
Post # 8
You’re going to get all sorts of opinions and comments when you post on a forum. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post personal info about yourself online. Not trying to be rude in saying that, but you can’t control what other people are going to say, so if you don’t want to hear it, don’t participate in it. Seems to me starting posts like this just puts more drama out there…
Post # 9
I disagree wholeheartedly the girls on the bees are victms of group think 89% of the time in my opinion. I love the site but their are a lot of followers.
Post # 10
@agirlwithdreams7: I also think that you should just ignore them. No one on here knows you personally so it’s just their opinion in which they are entitiled to. However, there is no excuse for people to be plain rude but since you can’t control it, just take it with a grain of salt. For me, if someone responds to my post in a way that I think is rude or "uncalled for", I simply ignore them and don’t respond. I am not going to waste my time or energy trying to explain over and over what I meant….especially if my posting was very clear. Keep your head up and try not to let others get you down. Everyone will not agree with you all the time so just agree to disagree and keep it moving 🙂
Remember, you can’t control what others write in your posting but you can control how you respond to it…. don’t respond….but if for whatever reason, you feel the need to defend yourself then by all means do what you have to do…but it will only keep the drama going….so is it worth it?
Good luck with all of your planning.
Post # 11
I hear what PP are saying about you cant put yourself out there and not expect ‘real’ responses, or ppl to interpurt things in a manner that isnt meant etc.
However, call me crazy, but it seems lately, there is a TON of snarky bitchtasticness going around. I get the impression that along with the anniminaty of being on the internet, posters feel they can say things they would not normally say to a persons face. That because no one can peg them for who they are in real life, they can ‘get away’ with saying whatever they want, regardless of how they come off. I dont find this to be acceptable either. As a whole, seems everyone needs to take a step back before posting and replying….
Post # 12
<—- agreed. While I’d love to tell you we’re all bubbles and hearts here sometimes things don’t come out quite as anticipated. Take peoples differing opinions and mix that with the limitations of the internet and intepreting text and you’re bound to be disapointed some of the time (at least). Plus, although we try to be helpful we don’t know you like we would our best friends so we’re only getting one aspect of the situation and your place in it.
Keep your chin up and don’t let a few off comments spoil your day!
Post # 13
What’s the point of asking a question or asking for advice if you just want everyone to agree with you?
Post # 14
Ha. You should’ve been here like 2 months ago. This is Disneyland, love, hugs, rainbows and butterflies.
Post # 15
I’ve noticed the addition of a few very snarky bees lately. I vote ignore.
Post # 16
“bitchtasticness”. Love this.
In response to OP, I say read the opinions, but don’t take them to heart. It’s the internet, people get stupid because there isn’t any recourse for anything they do.