- 13 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
Wow, what a weekend! My guy went to Vegas for his batchlor party, I thought it would be cleaver to have my bridal shower the same weekend, keep "things" off my mind! It was this last Saturday, and as I have posted in previous posts, my mom is health wise not doing too good, she has a torn hernia and is waiting to be fit in for surgery. She and my future mother in law were to throw the shower and it has been in the works for months! Well, my mom had to pass her duties to my sister who is my matron of honor, so most of her worries was some preparing of food. Ok, so my mother in law, was going to be at his aunts house (where we had the shower) early to get set up, the shower began at 2pm, and we were going to get there an hour early to set up the food. As soon as we get to the house, I see my mother-in-law taking things out of the trunk, already looking stressed! I guess she had just gotten there herself, had NOTHING ready, and didn’t even say hi, just litarley started naming off jobs for me and the girls that were with me to do. I mean, NOTHING was done!! She wanted someone to iron a tablecloth, arrange the flowers, which had thorns, and were scattered all over the dining room table,,,set up dishes put food into containers and decorate. Just some of the stuff,,,Ok, I was supposed to be the guest of honor,,but didn’t mind helping, because I was so embarrassed in front of my friends that my mother in law was being so crazy! I had a girlfriend ask me who is this lady?!? I told her it was my man’s mom, and she was freaking out! I set up everything with the help of some of my friends. Then I notice all the food that is on the table, I can’t eat any of it!! I can’t have any dairy and everything had cream cheese, cheese, sourcream, seafood (which I don’t eat) I was a little upset because I had told both my sister and mom-in-law that I can’t eat anything like that,,no one listened. Then to top it off, my mom in law brought her two old poodles, and had left the front door open, and all of a sudden starts screaming at the top of her lungs "Muffy!! She’s gone!! Muffy!" OMG,,she looked like she was insane, running out the door across the street screaming! One of the dogs ran off, (I told her coming in, we should close the door because of the dogs, she said that they were fine, wouldn’t go anywhere…um hmm.." All my friends were tripping out on her, just like me! My sis saw I was getting upset, and snatched me away excusing ourselvs that we had to go buy toliet paper for a game,,,we drove a couple of blocks to the store, and I begged her to buy me little bottles of tequila to sedate me somewhat from the craziness I was going to have to endure!! She totally helped and got me little shots that I chugged in the car coming back. I’m not an alchoholic whatsoever,,,but I thought I might be by the end of the day. My mother and her sisters finally showed, but all of them were expecting to be catered to, my mom in law found the dog, but was never around any of the guests to meet them! While people were outside eating ( the weather was nice! One good thing!!) she was curling ribbon and throwing it around the tables,,,I tried to get her to stop and be with us, but she was out of it! I can’t explain it! I know she loves me, and she tries so hard to please me, but she gets so flustered and nervous? I don’t know. I didn’t want to tell my man about how is mom was a physcho at the shower, but she was supposed to be in charge of our Rehearsal dinner!! After Saturday, I absolutley knew that would not be happening. I also didn’t want him to be mean and say something to her that might hurt her feelings. Finally the party ended, and we were packing up, and we were going to take the flowers, and leftovers, because we were having an after party later at a girlfriends house. Well, my mother in law gave everything to my aunt, because "she’s going to be having a party tomorrow, so lets just leave everything for her!" I did my own flower arangements, and wasn’t able to keep them…flash forward and that night I made sure I drank a few!! I didn’t want everyone to think my feeling were hurt, I’m not even mentioning that my sister, was very snarky to me all weekend, making fun of me, or every gift I recieved announcing "I already have that!!" (She just got married in June, I was her maid of honor) My sis is very bossy and would ask me why I was being so "bitchy" and not being a good host when she asked, wait told me to do something for her. Like find some jewlery, or iron,,,- My other sister showed up 2 1/2 hours late, didn’t even say sorry, (she is always late) – I felt like the people closest to me didn’t care, and I can’t help but think about the wedding in a few weeks! I picked up my guy on Sunday, very hung over, and eventually spilled everything to him, he was a little concerned why I was so hung over , but I told him, once you hear how my weekend was, you will know why!! He was very upset at his mother and wanted to call her,,I convinced him not to, it wouldn’t change anything, and that I know she ment well. We should learn from it and know her limits, not to stress her out. I was such a mess last night, crying, just feeling so overwhelmed. My guy is so good to me, assuring me that he will always be here for me, and I can always depend on him, that he is my best friend. I’m still really sad and can’t help but my feelings to be hurt. But I won’t go advertising that, just put my smile on and know that I will be with the love of my life and that’s all that matters.