(Closed) Drama, Drama and Issues……

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who goes Who stays?
    Keep your best friends- they have been there for you, and you can count on them : (8 votes)
    28 %
    Ask your sister- You will hurt her feelings if you don't : (0 votes)
    Keep your BFF and ask your sister to be a bridesmaid : (21 votes)
    72 %
  • Post # 3
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    6825 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Do what you think is best. Me personally I would just keep your friends as Maid/Matron of Honor and maybe ask your sister either to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man or just help out some where else in the wedding. 

    Post # 4
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    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    you should let her know she wont be the Maid/Matron of Honor so she does not assume she is and ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Dont feel obligated to include anyone that you truly dont want to include.

    Post # 5
    Member
    28 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    This sounds exactly like my sister. She also ran off with a boyfriend at one point and didn’t talk to my family for months. She has changed a lot lately, but still has her moments.

    We were never very close, and I think a lot of it had to do with us living together at home. We both recently moved out, and get along pretty great now that we don’t live under the same roof. The thing is though, my friends were the ones who were there for me through the years, and I chose my best friend to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, even though my sister and I have gotten closer recently.

    She’s still a bit unreliable, and I also don’t think she would even know where to begin with Maid/Matron of Honor duties–I think it would just be overwhelming for her, especially since she is due to have a baby any day now! I think she is just happy and excited that I asked her to be a bridesmaid.

    Post # 6
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    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think it is rude to take yoru friend from the position when they don’t deserve it. I would just include your sister as a bridesmaid and give her the oportunity to step up and be there but know that if she does flake for whatever reason you still have your Maid/Matron of Honor there for you. 

    Post # 7
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    6893 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Just leave it as is, and officially ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. She doesn’t have to be Maid/Matron of Honor, and I think it’s a bit presumptuous of her to think she is. She shouldn’t have an issue with not having that “title,” and if she does, point out to her that the point of being in the wedding is not a title, but being supportive.

    Post # 8
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I would keep the 2 co-MOH’s as is and ask your sis to be the Bridesmaid or Best Man.  And you need to tell/ask her right away.

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