(Closed) DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA, this darn reception is DRAMA!

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Which date?
    Oct. 2 which is a shared date with a friend - DREAM venue : (33 votes)
    79 %
    Oct. 16 Original date, church school's cafeteria : (9 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think it boils down to considering which is more important to you on your day; where you have it, or who is there.  If you can live without these guests then pick the dream venue.  The other girl picked her date first so if I was someone picking I would have to go to hers.  If you absolutely need to have these guests, you need to pick another date or another venue.

    I know it is so frustrating when your friends are all getting engaged and married at the same time.  Our choices were instantly limited when friends that we absolutely wanted at our wedding were already committed to being in 2 weddings next year!

    Post # 4
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    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Is there a reason you can only consider 2 dates?  Have you thought about a different month to resolve all of these issues?

    Post # 5
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    2681 posts
    Sugar bee

    I agree with Lorenna – is there possibly another date maybe in September or November you could consider?  I guess you have to decide which is more important in the end – having the sisters you want there or having your dream venue and date.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee

    Do you know that the other girl would ask the girls you want to be BM’s to be hers too?  If not, you might just be asking them to choose between going to one wedding and being in one wedding.  I understand October is your dream month and your reasons behind it – maybe the first week of November would work?

    Post # 9
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    2641 posts
    Sugar bee

    I agree, you’ll have to decide what is most important.  I was also thinking that you should consider another date.  (And yeah, if your looking for venues now, less than a year away, I’m not surprised that so many are already booked.)  I can see getting stuck on deciding between the venue and the friends, particularly if the other choice is really a cafeteria.  However, I’m having a hard time relating to the rigidness of an October wedding.  If you get cold super easy, why not use that as a good reason to get married in the winter?  Then you can go someplace warm for your honeymoon ๐Ÿ™‚  (I get cold easy to.  And I got married in the winter.)  

    I guess in deciding what’s most important you might want to throw the date in the mix, along with friends and venue.  Also, if you were to move your date for these friends, are you sure they wouldn’t have something else come up to keep them from going?

    Oct. 2nd = dream venueSmile /no friendsFrown/dream monthSmile

    Oct. 16th =cafeteriaFrown/friends (hopefully)Smile/dream monthSmile

    Another month =dream venueSmile/friends (hopefully)Smile/dream monthFrown

    Post # 11
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    My dream date was going to be 9/10/11; however, when I saw the cost of the venue and vendors, I got over myself and picked a different date that is off wedding season and have saved myself a bundle and I am going to have my dream wedding because of the savings. Although it is sad to not have your first choice, it might be a blessing so that you can rethink things and get your dream wedding.

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    You really just have to decide which is more important to you: Your date, photographer, location, etc. or having those certain friends there. It’s a tough decision, I know, and it sucks that you have to make it, but I’m sure your friends will understand if you end up having your wedding on the same day as the other girl. 

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Yeah, I have to agree with other posters, I’d just go with a different month.  I understand that October is important to you for several reasons, but I don’t think pushing it to the first or second week of November would change things that much.  Plus, VA can’t be THAT cold in November (as compared to the Northeast or something) so no one is going to freeze to death.  Just my two cents.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee

    What time is the other girl getting married?  I got married on the same day as a relative/friend of some of my guests but I got married at 1:00 and she got married at 5:30 and the guests did both! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Also, I just want to say that Tanya123’s emoticon schematic sort of inspired my post Tongue out

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