- 11 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Warning: this is probably going to be long.
I have a best friend who is younger than me by four years. Now, I love her dearly, but she’s going through the same thing I went through when I was in my early (gulp – was. sad.) twenties (I’ll be 25 next week), so I kind of get frustrated with her.
Case in point.
She’s very much about the drama. Her love life is drama, her life is drama, work is drama, it’s all drama. There isn’t a happy moment with her, sometimes it seems. I was going to make her my maid of honor originally, but I didn’t for two reasons 1) My Maid/Matron of Honor would have kiiiillleeed me. She’s a planner and she’s literally been planning my wedding stuff since before Fiance and I got engaged, and 2) I knew that my friend couldn’t handle the pressures, the work, the organizing. It’d be too much for her, especially given her life situation and, well, drama. So, instead, I made her kind of a deputy. But more on that some other time.
Anyway, fast forward to today. She’s already sent my Maid/Matron of Honor an email saying that she’s overwhelmed with the amount of work and money my Maid/Matron of Honor is asking her to pitch. My Maid/Matron of Honor has been really frustrated with my wedding party recently, as no one will voice an opinion – so, she took her most high end plan and made a budget for it, thinking that it’d at least start some debate. Well, it did, which turned out to be fruitful, but there I go on a tangent again. That was the first sign of trouble, my friend being “overwhelmed”. I received six texts saying the same.
Now, my birthday is coming up next weekend. My Fiance planned a group cabin trip for our closest friends. He’s been planning it for months. He asked for final numbers a month ago, and got confirmations from everyone. He’s arranged groceries, games, beds, everything. He’s put in so much work.
Then my friend called me at work three times before she gets a hold of me (and sends me a text saying for me to pick up) and tells me that she can’t come to my birthday because of all of the time she has to put in for the wedding shower (I know from my Maid/Matron of Honor that her tasks have been reduced to minimal since the aforementioned “overwhelmed” feeling), the time for the shower, the time for the wedding, the time for some minor day surgery, she’s having, everything. She said that because she’s moving a week and a half after my birthday (so are Fiance and I, and half of our guests), she just wants a weekend to watch movies with her BF and be lazy. So she ditching out on my 25th.
I’ve never asked much of her up until the wedding, really. Ever. She’s never shown up for my birthdays, I always go running when she calls, I’m always there on BBM every second of every day. I just feel like this was a hurtful blow – and maybe an indication of things to come?
Am I blowing this out of proportion? Do I need to stop being a birthday baby?