Post # 1
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Newbee
I’ve read so many posts about MOH-zillas, bridesmaids-zillas, and although I feel for those brides, I’m also in awe because I couldn’t have asked for better girls in my wedding! I’m incredibly lucky.
Slight back story, my FI proposed the day after my now-MOH’s wedding. I was a bridesmaid for the first time ever, and I watched my friend suffer through having her future SIL as a bridesmaid-zilla. She felt obligated to include her, and unfortunately she suffered for it. I knew immediately after my engagement that I would only choose girls I knew would be there for me with love and support.
My five girls, my MOH from high school, my MOH from college, and my three best girls from a previous job, are THE BEST! They make me laugh when I want to cry. They are genuinely happy for me and can’t wait to support me on my day. I love each of them so much, that I just wanted to share a happy bridesmaid story here. I can’t wait to celebrate with them, and my FI couldn’t be happier that this wedding planning process has been a breeze so far 😉
Anyone else have awesome bridesmaid they’d like to share?
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
moedude:
My bridesmaids are GREAT! I think they have had a couple minor issues with each other (two are in one city and 3 are in another, so the who is travelling where debate) but anytime I’ve gotten wind of it they immediately shift to, ‘It’s your day!’, ‘We want you to be happy!’, ‘Don’t worry!’. haha… they work it out and are pretty amazing!
The one bridesmaid issue I’ve had isn’t even with a bridesmaid. I haven’t brought it up with the bees because I’m just trying to put it in the past but when I first announced my BMs, my brothers gf was apparently so upset that she stopped talking to me and made a big deal about me not asking her. I didn’t realized it bothered her for over a month… because we don’t talk that much. Anyways… still dealing with the after shocks of that wedding drama bomb, but the girls I actually chose are AMAZING! 🙂
Post # 3
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Newbee
- Wedding: November 2014 - Lacuna Artist Lofts
I have 6 girls and I love them all. Two maids of honor: both childhood and lifelong friends, one who I lived with for four years. One girl from the camp we used to work at together, and three more who I lived with during college. I feel so bad for all those brides with terrible bridesmaids. I don’t know how they do it honestly.
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
My MOH and only bridesmaid is awesome. She is my FI’s sister and she is working so hard to make my day special. She was so supportive when we got engaged- she cried tears of joy! She doesn’t expect us to pay for anything, though we will. Love her!
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
My bridesmaids are awesome. No one has thrown any drama around, they all get along. I could not have asked for better friends.
My mom is fantastic. She has been super easy going and very down to earth about the whole thing. I bounce ideas off her and she always has the perspective I need. 🙂 She is the furthest thing from a momzilla you could meet!
MOH is my sister. And, as usual, she has my back. She is my best friend and nothing has changed this. I love her and I can’t wait to return the favour for her someday.
Even my MIL and DF’s SIL/Sister have been super chill. Everyone is excited and just happy to be involved. There’s been no drama, no ‘musts’ no -zillas of any sort!
Post # 6
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Busy bee
moedude: Oh oh I’ll play!!
My MOH1 is my high school BFF, it’s her second wedding but she’s beyond excited to be in the wedding and has been super supportive.
MOH2 “grown up” bff, former roommate. I was one of her 2 MOH in Nov. To share just how beyond awesome she is, she flew from California overnight to spend two days with me to go dress shopping to help me find my yes dress.
BM1 I went to high school and college with and she has turned down several of her other friends saying she only wanted to be in one more wedding and that’s mine.
BM2 is my FSIL and has been fantastic.
BM3 is my “little” cousin who I love and am so proud of. She’s been on board with everyting I’ve shared.
All of my girls are amazing and so supportive. I only wish they lived closer so they could help with the wedding tasks!
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
moedude: Mine are pretty darn awesome! My MOH is one of my closest friends, who isn’t girly at all, but has tolerated my random outbursts into BUT THOSE FLOWERS AREN’T IN SEASON AND WHY CAN’T I FIND SILK FLOWERS THAT ARE PRETTY!! haha! All 3 of my girls have been great to each other, and willing to do the small things I ask of them. My MOH I asked to help with choosing the beer we’re serving (neither FI or I drink beer, but a ton of our friends/family do). BM A is fantastic with makeup and hair and just looking fabulous, so she’s been very helpful and excited to talk about looks and decor. BM R keeps me grounded and has hilarious insights onto what I can expect from my guests. They’ve all been sooooo understanding and willing! The dress pick-out day is in a few weeks, and I asked them to travel to my city (for dress discount purposes) and all three said heck yes! though it’s a couple hour drive. When FI popped the question, I got spastic phone calls from all three after I sent them a picture of the ring. 🙂 They’re awesome girls!!!
I’ll never truly understand how some brides end up with absolutely horrendous sounding BMs. I’m sure there’s always more to the story, but sometimes I wonder why the bride would pick a person that 99% of the time they describe as having some issues/attitudes/whathaveyou before the whole wedding process.
Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
I had 6 bridesmaids and they were amazing!
They threw me an awesome shower at a nice restaurant, got their dresses with no issues, never complained, AND I had the best bachelorette in Jamaica!
love them then, now, and always!
Post # 9
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Newbee
@gillykat824
love how our girls can talk us down from the crazy bridal ledge! My girls are spread apart distance-wise, but somehow all managed to plan my bachelorette party in Boston for next month. I can’t wait to have a night on the town with all five!
and I agree with your comment about bad bridesmaids. I think a bride knows somewhat what’s coming, but sometimes there is a lot of pressure from family to include certain people. I got pressure from FMIL to include FI’s teenage cousin, but I immediately said no – even after I found out FMIL asked her already before talking to me! Worked out in the end, but I was able to be adamant on who I wanted standing next to me. Some brides aren’t as stern I guess!
So glad there are more brides with great bridesmaids!
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
moedude: I think you hit it on the nail. Sometimes brides see a bad situation coming from miles away, but find it seems impossible to avoid. Of my BMs, only one of them caused drama, but it was also a situation that I should have expected based on past behavior. I specifically included her because I do care about her, but also because I knew it would end our friendship NOT to ask her. In the end, I had the same results and way more stress/sadness over it.
With that being said… my other ladies are fantastic women and have been so sweet, supportive and genuinely excited. I am really proud to call them my best friends 🙂
Post # 11
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Newbee
you are very lucky. in hindsight i wish i had picked girls who were more interested in wedding stuff , rather than my closest / oldest friends , 3 of which never want to get married and think weddings are a waste of money (not that i really disagree). so, you are very lucky! don’t get me wrong , i love my friends, but weddings are not their strong point and so it’s challenging.
Post # 12
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Honey bee
moedude: My bridesmaids are awesome! So far I haven’t really asked anything of them, so it’s been no stress, but I know that when I need something they’ll be there. What helped, I think at least for me, is that early on I tried to let go of any preconceived notions on what bridesmaids were “supposed” to do and instead focused on what my ladies could do. I’m managing my expectations and not expecting anything crazy of any of them. We’ll see as we get closer to the wedding how this holds up 😉
Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
i had zero drama. my bridesmaids and MOH were awesome.
Post # 14
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Blushing bee
My bridesmaids are zero drama! I love them to bits. They make me feel calm, and happy, and loved <3 I don’t expect much from them and am always great full if they offer to help in anyway.
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Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter's Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
I have two amazing girls to stand up next to me – my best friend and my sister. They both live three hours away from me (in my home town) so I’m not asking much of them but they’ve offered to help in any way they can; we’ve picked a dress together after I found a few options I liked and we all agreed on one and I know they’ll keep me calm and laughing on the day. Can’t imagine the day without them so I am super grateful they’ve agreed to travel and be part of the wedding for me.
