Post # 1
Before my fi and I started dating, I was friends with him in high school and university. I dated his best friend and would try to hook up my friends with him (so we could double date). My hookup attempts worked and over a span of 10 yrs or so he ended up having drunken hookups with 3 of my friends. Fast forward to today (7+ yrs later) we find ourselves living in a different city (away from our friends and in our late 20s) and begin a whirlwind of a romance that develops into a deep love of 3 yrs and now engagement. It is crazy to think of him as the same guy I hooked my friends up with so long ago. My problem however, is that I am still close with these girls (one will even be my moh) and his friend who I dated will be the best man. It really bothers me to think that 3 of my friends have been sexual with my fI, however it was so long ago and so meaningless, but it still gets to me. My fi tells me that although the thought of me and his best man bothers him, he is over the past and ready for our future. He says that he loves us both too much to let it ruin either relationship. Has anyone else been in a situation like mine before? Abd how can I get over being so bothered by this before it drives me crazy?
Post # 3
@Newbee29: wow, what are the odds? It’s like a movie. Haha.
With that said, he’s right. The past is the past! As long as you are both devoted to one another and secure in your love, who cares? It could have been any of those girls for him or it could have been his bf for you…but instead it’s you and your Fiance. You were definitely destined and made for one another, that’s really special : )
I would feel awkward too though, but at this point, you have to LET IT GO. Your wedding marks the start of a new season together.
Post # 4
I agree! let go. Without that past, you guys may not have the relationship you have today. I’m a firm believer in everything happening for a reason.
Post # 5
Try not to let it bother you or you will end up sinking your own relationship. The past is called the past for a reason, right? It’s over, and it doesn’t sound like you have reason to question your FI’s current feelings toward the BM’s as being anything more than a friendship.
Post # 6
Thanks so much for all of your responses. I’ll try to remember your advice when I start feeling bothered by it! I’m so excited to marry my best friend, I just would never have imagined that my moh would have slept with my husband. Ugghhhh.
Post # 7
@Cupcakegurl: That’s a really good way of looking at it. Thnx for your response.