(Closed) DRAMA: I dont want to go to my Brother in Law's wedding.

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I go?

    Just go and be classy

    Go but make it a party with BFFSIL at the reception

    Dont go if it's gonna make you uncomfortable but let them know

    Retaliate, dont go to spite them and dont let them know

    Tell them you're attending, then dont go

    Go on vacation during their wedding as an excuse

  • Post # 2
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

    I wouldn’t go if all you’re going to do is bitch about the bride.  It will make you look terrible.  Stay home and stay away from the drama.

    Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    Please don’t go just to ruin the wedding. That’s just as immature as what she did.

    Post # 6
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    3383 posts
    Sugar bee

    I wouldn’t go. You don’t owe an explanation. 

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

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    Miss Moxy :  I would just go to support your husband and just refuse to engage in any drama. Just be pleasant. She will be too focused on her wedding to be worried about you. 

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee

    Everyone in this story sounds extremely immature. 

    Also, why does it matter that their wedding is taking place during your birth month? WTF is a birth month anyway? Just like weddings birthdays are only 1 day.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee

    I just wanna know why the fact that the wedding is during your birth month holds any relevance 🤷🏻‍♀️

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee

    I wouldn’t go. And I think that’d be your wisest choice. However, if push comes to shove, maybe attend the ceremony and skip out early before the reception/after ceremony.

    Post # 11
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I don’t attend any events, especially weddings, during my birth month.

    This is a crap ton of drama. She’s a diva but you don’t have to play the game, just ignore her.

    Post # 12
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    429 posts
    Helper bee

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    Miss Moxy :  if your husband is in the wedding and he asked  you to go I would go and keep it classy. Kill them with kindness. It’ll make everyone so uncomfortable because they will realize they are being assholes. If you don’t get invited and your husband doesn’t ask you to go or he’s not in the wedding I wouldn’t go. Just don’t be a bitch. Take the high road. Any party you throw because it’s family just send the invitation. Don’t let it get to you that they decline. Oh well, it’s not like you wanted them there anyways and at least you sent an invite to try. When you see her, you can still be indifferent but kind. She will grow up and see she’s a bitch. 

    Similar thing happened with baby daddy and his new wife who started some drama and she (new wife) told me that because custody was 50/50 that she spent as much time with my daughter as me and was my daughters mother and that she was allowed to be be called mommy. Needless to say I was pissed BUT I still have to deal with this bitch because she’s my exes wife and her husband and I have a kid together. So what did I do, I became indifferent where all the drama they spewed I really just didn’t gaf anymore. Why? Because that’s just what they do and who they are. Their assholes. But I’m better than them. Just like you are better than them, they sound like trash (BIL and stupid stripper wanna be). So I’ve been kind but I just don’t care either way and guess what I got? I took a while but I got an apology for her over stepping her step mom boundaries. They will mature out of their stupidity eventually (hopefully) and if they don’t, oh well, that has no effect on your life and just keep on moving forward and growing yourself and your marriage. 

    Also keep in mind, people only usually hate when their jealous so you’ve had the upper hand all along and you keeping your class will drive them insane 

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee

    I lol’d at birth month. Come on now…

    My advice: rise above. Don’t engage. Attend the wedding bc not going will be noticed and will look bad for you and the family. Be classy and leave shortly after dinner. No reason to add to the drama.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee

    She sounds like a hot mess, but some of what you listed just sounds like you’ve decided you don’t like her and are finding fault with everything. Why is it such s big deal if she doesn’t want to go to coffee with you and the BFFSIL? You guys all clearly don’t get along so I can’t blame her for not wanting to hang with you guys. Especially when you are contemplating the ‘payback’ plan at her wedding, I can assume you guys wouldn’t all magically get along and have fun. Same goes for not coming to Christmas- I think almost a months notice is enough time to decline an invite without getting yelled at via text. 

    Suck it up, go, and be polite. 

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