DRAMA: I dont want to go to my Brother in Law's wedding.

posted 2 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I go?

    Just go and be classy

    Go but make it a party with BFFSIL at the reception

    Dont go if it's gonna make you uncomfortable but let them know

    Retaliate, dont go to spite them and dont let them know

    Tell them you're attending, then dont go

    Go on vacation during their wedding as an excuse

  • Post # 16
    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2019

    I had a situation very similar to this with my ex’s family. 

    Youngest brother and all. After 4 years of complete shit (way too long to list but think from petty social media stuff to outright harassment and illegal things) from the then girlfriend, you can bet I was not going to attend the wedding. Good thing I guess cause the cops had to be called at the end of the evening. 🙄

    Let her be and plan a spa day for yourself. 

    Post # 18
    2912 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    This reads more like a story about high schoolers than adults mature enough to be married.

    If you don’t want to go to the wedding or don’t feel like you can attend without being drawn into catty, childish behavior – don’t go. It really is that simple. 

    Post # 21
    8991 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    Miss Moxy :  
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    Miss Moxy :  I don’t understand why you and the BFFSIL kept bugging her to come to events when you don’t even like her. You don’t like her and she doesn’t like you, so her declining invitations is a win-win. Also unless the “BIG purchase” was a kidney or someone’s ransom, I don’t blame them for balking. Regarding the wedding, what if you go and enjoy the food and liquor but don’t talk shit about the bride? Is that a possibility? Either go and behave or just don’t go.  I’m not sure what it being in your “birth month” has to do with anything but that’s neither here nor there.

    Post # 22
    5582 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2017

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    Miss Moxy :  

    You can either suck it up and deal with it for one day, or you can hear about it for the rest of your life. If it’s going to be a problem either way, the less drama would be to just suck it up, go, and behave. It’s only one day. You have to remember that life goes on after the wedding and you will have to deal with the fallout of your actions.

    Post # 26
    4705 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    Miss Moxy :  How have I gone 35 years without celebrating my birth MONTH! I feel absolutely cheated 😥

    OP, you are obviously in the know about birth month celebrations. Is it considered rude to host a make-up, belated birth month party to celebrate the previous 35 years of missed birth month celebrations??

    Seriously though, just attend for the sake of not creating more waves than necessary for yourself and your husband with his family. It sounds like a lot of people in this family like to gossip and behave questionably in a lot of circumstances. If you don’t go you will be stooping to everybody else’s level of pettiness. Be the bigger person with the comfort and  knowledge that you did the best thing  you could with the situation. If you don’t go it sounds like your husband will cop a lot of stress as a result. Save him from that if it means all you have to do is put on a dress, eat some food, dance and wear a fake smile. You also have your BFFSIL to enjoy the day with so it won’t be so bad. 

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