(Closed) Drama is beginning to unfold

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll: Should I be less worried about myself and more concerned for my friends' weddings?
    Yes : (97 votes)
    95 %
    No : (5 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    You were in 16 weddings this year and you’re only 18 years old????  That’s CRAZY!

    Post # 4
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    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    ditto to mandamack. i had never even been to a wedding before i was 18. honestly, i don’t mean to sound rude at all but you’re 18, you should relax a bit. i’ll be 28 at my wedding and i barely feel old enough to be married.

    Post # 5
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    IMO, 18 is too young. But that’s just me. You will do a lot of growing and changing in the next several years and what you think you want now, may turn into a silly want later in life. There is no reason to rush marriage. It’s a huge huge step. Just because all of your friends are doing it doesn’t mean you have to jump on the bandwagon.

    Some 18 year old marriages end up working out, but it’s the exception and not the rule. The divorce rate for your age group is against you. Sorry.

    Post # 8
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    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    And the fact that you seem to have this, “Well I want to do it because everyone else is doing it.” really shows how much you are not ready to marry.

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    Wow… they should do a sequel to 27 dresses with you as the star haha.  That’s an insane amount of weddings in one year.  I think I’ve been to 5…in my whole life…and I’m 25.  >_<

    Post # 10
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    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    That is a lot of weddings to be in.  Honestly, at 18, I’m impressed you can afford to be in all those weddings!  I know I wouldn’t have been able to when I was 18.  You’ve probably spent as much on dresses as some people have on their weddings!  But, you are still young and have plenty of time.  Don’t rush it just because everyone else is doing it.  🙂 

    Post # 11
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    6248 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 1900

    @MandaMack: Are they all 18 too?   <— Good question!

    Post # 12
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    2237 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @MapleMoose: I’m so confused right now…the last thing on my mind (or my friends minds) when I was 18 was getting married.  If they were all 18 I’ll be slightly blown away…

    Post # 13
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    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    I know the feeling and can sympathize.  I got engaged this past summer, but prior to that all my close friends got engaged or got married before me.  I am 10 years older than you, but the feelings of “being left out” didnt change. Of course I only todl my closest friends the feelings I was having, but I felt them nonetheless until someone told me something that really helped.

     

    My close friend (whose wedding I was just in) and I were talking. another of her bridesmaids got married 5 years ago. At the time she thought she wanted it, but now she says she really wishes she would have waited. She is working to make the marriage be everything she wants, but she said she just doesnt know who her husband grew into.  the benefit of being one of the last is you are more likely to know what your boyfriend is growing into at such a young age. 

    I think its also important to remember its about marriage, not a wedding (although the wedding is sure fun!) and you will likely have a better marriage if you both have a chance to grow first.

    Post # 14
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Why did you say yes to all these girls? I feel like that’s just asking for wedding meltdowns and overload. I think you set yourself up a little bit….

    And at 18, I think it is fine to focus on your friends, since you’ve go SO much time to get engaged. It might even give you something else to focus on outside of your pending engagement.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I agree – did all your friends get married right out of high school? That is CRAZY! My first friend got married at 25. I went to 10 weddings in 2008 when everyone turned 30. I’ll be 33 when we get married next year. My advice: RELAX!! You’re smart to take it slow.

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