- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
I need to VENT.
My FH invited some of his mother’s siblings – I say ‘some’ because she requested that we not invite a few. I wasn’t really OK with that but I complied.
Anyway, we found out she’s putting up a HUGE stink about her brother sitting at the same table as her. HUGE.
So we tried to talk with her calmly about it.
Oh my god that accomplished NOTHING.
She didn’t listen to a word we said, talked over us, made us more upset, and then tried to guilt trip us. I am furious at her – really? Now? Four days before the wedding???
She said that he’s always saying things that start fights and she and her sisters have no choice but to say something back to him, which turns into a huge argument.
When I said “Yes, but sounds like an excuse to pick a fight at our wedding” suddenly she changed the story to him always screaming profanities at them, and she and the sisters are all helpless and defenseless.
What?? That’s not what you said two minutes ago.
She said he’d just start hollering and shouting curses at our wedding – why would you say this to us? What does saying that even ACCOMPLISH???
When we explained that we really just expected her to behave like the bigger person, she dodged it – oh, well I can’t just let him say these things, oh well he started it, oh well his girlfriend is a b*tch, oh well I want you to have a great wedding and he’ll ruin it…
She told us that seating him at their table would make them all uncomfrotable for the entire wedding, that she’d have a terrible time with him there, and blamed us for putting them all in a permanant “hot seat.”
She kept saying she asked us to have him at a different table – NO, she did not.
She was actually the one who wanted us to invite him in the first place!
And I don’t know how many tables she thinks she has all to herself, but there’s only one other table where he could go and that’s her friends and coworkers (and there’s literally no room there).
At the end she started moping and said “Oh, well, I’ll call my sisters and let them know the situation” (she acts like this when she doesn’t like what she’s hearing)
Which I know means: “I didn’t get my way so I’m going to go complain about it to someone – we’ll still pick the fight if we want to”
We have been SO GENEROUS to her.
She has 13 people at this wedding who are guests just for her – that’s an entire table.
FH & I are paying for this whole wedding ourselves, and so we’re paying for them out of pocket. They are all our most difficult guests – changing their minds, cancelling, handing in RSVP’s three weeks late, already skipping some events when they said they’d go.
(let’s not get in to how she asked us on Sunday if we could invite so-and-so’s son, and said she put him on her original list – no, she can’t and no she didn’t)
I am so disappointed and it’s really tarnishing my view of my FMIL.
She is SUCH an angry person.
Like amazingly, blindingly angry sometimes.
I already had some issues with her, but if she’s going into my wedding LOOKING for a fight, I will never forgive her.
WHAT THE HELL