- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
Hello bees! This is a slight rant and a slight WTF really?! I know that I probably should not have responded to the ignorance that I experienced tonight but I did and well oops! Let me fill ya in!
I’m a Bridesmaid or Best Man in BIL & FSIL’s wedding. Her Maid/Matron of Honor approached to me a few months back at a party at their house about gifts for them from the bridal party not only just for their wedding but also their 3rd shower. YES 3rd… and I have got a gift for them at both others as have most of the bridal party. SO anywho… I’ll all ok with it and offer any help needed since my Darling Husband is Best Man & the grooms brother. So anywho… about 3-4 weeks ago I had a few wedding party members message me about what do they owe for the gifts? Apparently my offer to assist was taken as me handling the whole thing… OK well I can do that. So Darling Husband and I goto pick out a new patio set (wedding gift) and a patio cooler & fire pit (shower gift). We spent around $800 total and were splitting it up between about 14 of us. So we get the gift, the day we are shopping for it FSIL’s Maid/Matron of Honor was texting me about it… I filled her in and we were all set! So I had been sending out messages to those involved making the final count. So FSIL’s Maid/Matron of Honor text me asking why she was not CC’d in these messages because she is Maid/Matron of Honor and WOULD be included… I ignored her and sent the messages to her.. all is set and done until……
The shower is THIS weekend and Darling Husband finds out that the other supervisor on his shift has taken vacation and he HAS to work, no way out of it no way around it! So we arranged to have his parents meet us (BIL & Future Sister-In-Law live 2.5hrs away and this is where the shower is) to get the gifts. We had originally planned to let him get off work Sat morning at 7 sleep for 3 hrs leave, head up for about 2hrs then drive back for him to be back to work around 9pm… his mom would not hear of it so they offered to meet us. We thought we had it completely done and ready to go. So here it comes… tonight I get a message from Maid/Matron of Honor saying as follows “I just found out that you wont be at the shower, so are we not having any gifts or what?” I nicely reply “yes we cant come unfortunatley, but we have arranged to get them there”. She follows to ask who is doing this, I reply this EXACT message “MIL & Father-In-Law are getting them, we have it under control” she says “Oh ok great, I was worried, so sorry you cant come” Im thinking its done and over with… WRONG!!! Let me quote these messages I received from her WORD BY WORD… Yes I was in the wrong for responding but comon!
Maid/Matron of Honor to me “I dont appreciate being lied to. You said the gifts were taken care of and now Mother-In-Law & Father-In-Law have to drive to get them? SERIOUSLY? Can you think about someone other than yourself? This is ridiculous and so are you. You made me look like a fool and I’m pissed. I would have done this by myself had I known you were this dumb” ?
So at this point im LOST! 1. What did I lie about, I had previously told her Father-In-Law & Mother-In-Law were coming to get the gifts for us…. 2. Why am I answering to this girl? Yes she is Maid/Matron of Honor BUT she voluntold me I was incharge of getting all of thid together? and most of all 3. WHO THE HELL talks to me that way?!
so I unforunately respond… : ( “Well for one, I had previously told you that Mother-In-Law & Father-In-Law were getting them for us if youd check your previous messages. I offered to help and you put me in charge of getting gifts. I do not and will not ever answer to you about anything. I wont accept you talking to me this way, nor will I ever let you speak to me this way again. I have it handled and if you dont like it well then get over it but dont text me like this again” Yes that last line was uncalled for I get it, however I have had ALOT of trouble with these people and I’m sick of being put in the middle of NOTHING!
She responds one more time.. “Seriously your a f*cking bitch, go f*ck yourself. I’m the maid of honor so you will answer to me”
Really?! I offer to help, then cant come so arrange to fix the problem and then she yells at me!? Now Future Sister-In-Law is yelling at me because my Darling Husband called Maid/Matron of Honor and told her the situation nad that noone lied and that she could not talk to me this way. HE SPOKE TO HER NICELY!!!!! She cried told him she didnt like me or him and hung up! So…
BIL calls yelling because we should have just ignored that she spoke to me this way and just let her say what she wants…. we then find out that the entire time she was yelling at me via text *i tried ot speak to her and she wouldnt have it* she was at BIL & FSIL’s house! So they know its all about these gifts, they know we are going out of our way to get them there evne with Darling Husband working midnight 14hr shifts! I want them to have their gifts even though it is their 3rd shower that people have had to buy gifts for along with both having out of town bachelor/bachelorrette parties that we are suppose to buy gifts for!
I do not let anyone speak to me that way, especially when I did nothing wrong. Future Sister-In-Law was yelling at me for being mean to Maid/Matron of Honor and said it should just be ok, and to drop it. I told her it was done but I cant control Darling Husband if he wants to take up for me…. NO more than she controlled her Fiance at my wedding when he cussed out my mother. But it was dropped and I would not speak to this girl again. However I was taken by surprise when she first went off on me because I didnt do anything and its DH’s fault we cant go but somehow Im the one being cussed at! Again I know I shouldnt have responded the way I did, and just been nice but I have been WAY to nice to people and have ignored MOH’s completely rude & hateful messages about how I was not handling things her way… if she wanted it her way she should have done it! Why is it when I am nice and offer to help I’m horrible!?!!
Ok bring on what else I did wrong! LoL Anyone out there think this is immature and ridiculous?!