(Closed) Drama Llama

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Yup. I have a friend who keeps dating the same type of guy over and over and over and wonders why it never works out. She is also the type who will go out with someone ONCE and if they don’t call her again she will obsess for months.

But I love her, so I listen.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I started cutting out my drama llama’s. I know that may sound terrible, but I just got too old to deal with their immature “it’s all about me” drama.  It was refreshing to let some of them go.  I feel like I grew out of some of friends and they never changed.

Example of the truly dramatic: I had one friend who is beautiful and smart, we had been friends for years. Then she got pregnant. She claimed the father was a friend of ours, who was in a long term relationship. There was so much drama surrounding the whole thing and I stood by her. Then her son was born and was obviously not his. 5 paternity tests later a discovery was finally made. Everytime she took a guess she was positive and bad mouth the guy and I just stood by her feeling embarassed but like she needed the support.  Then she starts dating a guy who beats her up. She leaves him, thank god and now 4 years later they are back together, packed full of drama, and she admits that she is now pregnant and did it on purpose with out him knowing it. Yep that was it. I was done.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

One girl I know is ALWAYS posting on FB about how sick her kids are. Her son was just admitted to the hospital twice in a two week span and then of course the YOUNGER one got sick and it’s never just like colds, she always says it’s pneumonia, or double respiratory infections or all this crazy shit. Every other status is her asking prayers again because one of the kids is sick again. I don’t think she has Munchausen’s necessarily, but I think if her kids get a little sick, she blows it WAY out of proportion. If they were really that sick would she be on FB all the time talking about it? Because I sure wouldn’t. She did the same thing when she was pregnant; always rushing to the hospital claiming early labor or complications… then was induced both times with absolutely no problems. She just needs the attention or something.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Omg yes. I have one friend who I love to bits and pieces, but some days I’m 100% positive she’s happiest when she’s unhappy. I realize life isn’t always rainbows and sunshine for everyone, but even when things are going well she finds something negative about it and complains. A few years back it got so bad I distanced myself from her. We renewed our friendship a couple years back and I realized how much I had missed her, and she seemed like she had changed (got out of a relationship with a jerk of a guy, amazing how that’ll make your life better!). BUT now she’s back in full out drama mode. I feel bad for her and I’ve tried to encourage her to find some hobbies, take classes, etc. She knows she can be negative, but I don’t think she knows how bad it can be. I’m hoping things will start to shape up for her soon and she can get back to being the really fun and caring person I know she is.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yeah. I had a friend who was in a relationship with a guy that was just a bad person. He was a cheater and a liar and a loser and everyone knew it but my friend. They didn’t live together at first but after they had their daughter they moved in together and things went from bad to worse. He was staying out late, spending their rent money on weed, cheating. Then to make matters worse my friend goes and gets pregnant again by him. I stood by her for a long time and finally had to seperate myself from her drama. When she finally left him we became friends again but I always ended up having to counsel her about something. It was just draining to always have to deal with someone else’s problems. She would never call just to chat, she always needed something. So we are distant once again… It’s just better this way. She keeps hinting about coming to my wedding but I’m not sure if I want her there. I just know she will find some way to make it about her.  

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

In order to get them out of my life I had to get them ALL out of my life. Even the ones with no drama were ones connected to the ones with drama and no matter what I was always dragged into it. Is it bad that I moved away and cut out EVERYONE? I don’t think so, I’m much much happier now.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@amyddlz:YUP! But then, 5% of the time, it means I get to be the drama llama, and know who’s ear to pour it all into.  ((crazy grin))

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@mwitter80: I feel your pain. I had a child hood friend that tricked her b/f into getting her pregant and he also repeatedly abused her. She also felt like everyone in the world was against her for everything although she brought most of her problems on herself. I continually stood by her side but after awhile it starts to get too exhausting and you realize your friend will never learn a lesson (sad). Thankfully I moved far away and have since let the friendship wear out. I know she’s upset with me and my other friends (who also cut ties), but I feel so much lighter now without her baggage. Sounds really bad but sometimes needed!

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Demarca11: It’s exhausting to have friends like that. However, so much better with out her.

Post # 12
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5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yes! I have been weeding people like that out and distancing myself from them. It is hard and hurtful, but it must be done. All Drama Llamas do is hold you back. 

@bakerella: I think you are right. Some people are happier when they are unhappy. My drama llamas made stuff up because they like drama. Then the blamed on the devil, and then it backed fired on them. lol

Post # 13
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3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I have a friend like this. We used to be “drama” buddies together… until I got tired of complaining about my life. She still wanted to complain about everything little thing, so it took a toll on our friendship. We’re still friends, but it’s just not the same! At one point I told her exactly how I felt, “You know, we used to be drama friends together, but I really want to try and have a better outlook on my life. I think it’s a good idea, plus we’ll probably be much happier. It’s not that we can’t ever talk about meaningful things that get us down, it’s just that we need to move past those things and give each other good advice instead of ‘rolling around in misery’ together”. Eh, she didn’t like that talk.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@amyddlz:

She’s fond of those too. “Worried…!” “Screw you, I’m done!” Okay, don’t care.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have a friend who makes EVERYTHING about herself. If you broke a finger she could somehow turn that into some sort of drama about her. It’s gotten really bad in the last few months. She’s driving me insane.

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