(Closed) Drama over event dates…are we being inconsiderate?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

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@ futuremrsl8   Stop responding to her and block her on Facebook already. This has gone way too far.

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Some people are just insecure, selfish and crazy and there is no point wasting your time trying to justify yourself to them. I wouldn’t engage with her again, I would block her on social media. Your fiancé can be friends with her husband but there is no requirement to be friends with her.  Invite her to the wedding only because they are a social unit, but speak with her as though she’s just an acquaintance (thanks for coming, nice to see you, bye)

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

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@ futuremrsl8   Lol! Wow, some people..

No, you did nothing wrong. You didn’t plan your wedding or any other event on their wedding day, so you’re good. 

I don’t know why she’s acting like that, I hate when people jump to “she’s just jealous” when someone is behaving rudely, but in this case I wonder if she is. Are you having a bigger wedding? Is she maybe insecure about her rushed and causual wedding? 

It’s nice of you to still invite her to your wedding. You’ve been more than polite and accommodating. She can’t reserve an entire month for the rest of her life, that’s insane! 

I think you should just back away and stop trying to tak to her. You don’t need the stress right now. Just relax and focus on your little one and Fiance. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

This woman sounds like a real peach. Don’t respond to her again. In fact, I’d probably block her so she couldn’t even contact me. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

She’s mad you you will be married in the same month? A year later? LMAO!! She’s nutty. She doesn’t own the calendar.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Unfriend, unfriend, unfriend.

Why would you even want to talk to this person?

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

She sounds insane and is making a fool of herself. I’d cut her out completely, nooo problemo

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

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@ futuremrsl8   Wow… I would cut ties. No need for that drama or negativity!

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i would cut off all communication.

but i wouldn’t have gone back and forth like a crazy person on fb.  whatever craziness she said.  i would have said, “i’m sorry you feel that way.”  and moved on.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

This lady is crazy, but if she wants to be petty fine.  I absolutely would not want her at my housewarming.  Her husband is welcome but she is not.  And if he would like to know why I would absolutely show him the conversations.  As far as the wedding goes – I would go with the PP and say treat her like an acquaintance – courteous, but distant and leave it at that.  You are not required to have a relationship with her.  She does not get the entire month off limits because she married on a whim, that is absolutely ludicrous.  And she wants a whole weekend for a vow renewal in the backyard 7 months after she got married in the backyard?  No that is not acceptable.  I don’t know what planet this lady is living on, but she is delusional.  She seems bitter that your events may be better attended than hers and the only conclusion I can come to is pure jealousy.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

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@ futuremrsl8   Oh man I’d have a printout of that psyco’s messages and send them with the wedding invite you feel you must send.  (And she wouldn’t be invited, at all)  Really, I would print it out and block her then, you don’t need this stress over her insecurity and thats all it is. Good luck!!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t even entertain this nonsense.  Ignore, ignore, ignore.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

lol did you also plan a trip to Iceland even though you KNOW that Iceland is THEIR COUNTRY and now you’re going to ruin their honeymoon by posting photos of it all over Instagram?

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Stop engaging her. There is absolutely nothing wrong with any of your dates or anything you’ve done and I’m sure you realize that. There is just no need for you to be justifying your dates to her. If it were me, I would probably not invite her to my wedding after these exchanges, but if you insist on doing so, just politely tell her that you understand if these dates do not work for her and if she can’t make it. Ignore everything else she says about you “copying” her, she’s obviously trying to bait you into arguing. Don’t get caught up in trying to win this argument with her, it’s not worth it.

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