(Closed) Drama over kid free wedding…Please help!!!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1088 posts
Bumble bee

@arametta127:  yeah your solution sounds reasonable, if you’re willing to pay for a babysitter then they shouldn’t complain..

we had kids at our wedding and we also had an open bar, and honestly the kids got the party started haha they started dancing on the dance floor before anyone else and when the wedding party was being introduced they were high fiving all of us.. it was cute..

but if you want a kid free wedding, a babysitter sounds like a great idea!!!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Is the 13 year old the only kid in the family? If so and if *you* wanted to, you could have him and say it’s ‘family kids only’?

I think your solution is fair, but I’m wondering what the 13 year old will do with a babysitter – I definitely wasn’t still babysat at 13 so it might be pretty awkward for him to have some random person there when he may be used to taking care of himself? But I guess a lot of hotels now have video games etc that you can bring into the room so if he’s into that kind of thing it maybe wouldn’t be a big deal.

Post # 5
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915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We are having a kid free wedding but we are inviting my 13 year old cousin, I guess I don’t really consider him a kid…..

Post # 6
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1088 posts
Bumble bee

@kittyface: that’s true, didn’t even think of that, a babysitter for a 13 year old might be awkward.. my parents let me stay home alone once i was 12..  

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Darling Husband and I invited his children (obviously); all of our nieces and nephews; the children of my two matrons of honor, who have all thought of me as their aunt since they were babies; and the two minor children of my first cousins. We did not invite any other children. It is perfectly fine for you to invite children of close family without including other children.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Tell your mom to pay for the babysitter, but definitely stand firm & don’t let the kid come to the wedding!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t budge. Have been in a similar sitch with my mom, and she wouldn’t let go of one particular younger cousin. I finally circumvented my mom, talked to the cousin’s mother myself and she was completely understanding about it.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

If I were a guest at your wedding, and you didn’t invite my children but had a 13 year old cousin there, I would understand.  I would just think that you maybe invited (close to) immediate family members only (which includes the cousin). The whole “kids-free” wedding can be touchy for some people, but I think most currently understand that you can’t/don’t want to invite everyone’s kids a lot of the time.  There’s just always not enough space, and costs get high.  It’s your wedding day, it’s not a party for the kids in my mind. 🙂  Good luck!

Post # 13
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1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Ps…We’re  also doing adult only reception except for our neices/nephews (8 of them) and first cousins (about 5 of them that are under 10) only. 🙂  However, on all the invitations it does say “We are requesting an adult recption.  Thank you for your support and understanding.”

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MadTownGirl:  With all due respect, you are actually not having an adults-only reception.  You’re having 13 kids present.  If I were a guest with kids at your reception and saw that many kids after being told that I couldn’t bring mine, I’d be upset… and I don’t even like kids.  Just prepare yourself for some feedback on that choice, that’s all.

 

OP, stay strong.  A 13 year old isn’t exactly a kid, but he’s not an adult either.  It’s not worth it to piss off your fiance, which you could do since his best man can’t bring his kids.  Just stick to your guns. A 13 year old can stay in a hotel room with an XBox by himself for a few hours, no big.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

The babysitter solution is totally reasonable. You’re right that other people will be mad oone offended or whatever if you let this one exception in.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@arametta127:  you’re not being a bridezilla on this – sounds like you’re being quite thoughtful.  You’ll  never make everyone happy, best you can do is be considerate and it sounds like you are. 

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