Post # 1
I’m going dress shopping for the first time tomorrow and I am beyond nervous! Like I almost want to just call off the trip! I’m so self conscious and I’m terrified of what my bridal size may be in relation to my street size.
I started a weight loss journey well before I got engaged. I’m down 50 poundsand still going. While I’m really happy to have lost that much weight, I hate my body even more than before. I think it’s just because I don’t know how to dress this size. Even though I’m smaller, things fit me so differently than before.
I know that I should be excited but I’m just intimiated about the whole process, I guess. Anyone else ever have these types of feelings?
Post # 3
Sure, I was a little apprehensive, but you’re just going to have to remind yourself that these are bridal sizes and the number doesn’t matter anyway. I’d rather look AMAZING in a size 16 than like a sausage stuffed into a size 10.
Congrats on the weight loss!! Just try on a bunch of different dresses and silhouettes to see what works best for your shape. It might take a long time, so try to be patient and dont’ let it wear you down… or you could find it in your first three dresses – you just never know. Have fun!
Post # 4
First- congrats on your weight loss!
Second- take or wear good control top undies and a strapless bra (or a corset type bra thingy…) it will help you picture how you will look in your dress a little more easily.
Third- HAVE FUN! Enjoy your day, relish being the center of attention. Remember that your Fiance wants to marry you!! (S)He loves you for who you are, no matter what number is on the label of a dress or a pair of jeans or a pair of shoes. Have fun, relax, take a supportive friend, a bottle of water (hey-it’s hot under those dresses), take an open mind, and take a camera. Then post pics on here so we can all tell you how wonderful you look!!
Post # 5
@Dandelion D: Congrats on the weightloss!!!
As someone who lost a great deal of weight (120 pounds) I understand that it is difficult to know and like your new body. It will take time but eventually you will start to feel comfortable in your “new” skin.
When dress shopping tomorrow try it ALL! With your new shape you aren’t as familiar with what works so you will need to test the waters a bit more than usual. Don’t let sizes get to you, its just a number. Definitely try corsets they fit like a dream and enjoy the process. You will look AND feel beautiful I promise!
Post pictures when you are done. 🙂
Post # 6
I had the exact same feelings, and put off the dress shopping for 6 months because of my weight. I sympathize! For the record, I was exactly the same size in dresses that I am in street size. So it wasn’t quite as horrendous as I thought it would be. I actuall really liked how I looked in 1/2 the dresses I tried. You will, too!!
Post # 7
My wedding dress is a size 14, though I wear a 6, 8 or 10 dress from shops like Macy’s and Talbots.
People who make wedding dresses are on crack, they are randomly sized and depending on the sillhoueets, fit totally different (or don’t fit at all). I have large hips, and I found that I couldn’t even get into a bunch of dresses because manufacturers are so cheap that they make the inner slip smaller than the skirt…so…even if the dress should fit you (because it is A-line), it might now…because of the liner.
Buying a nearly plus size dress was kinda depressing, but, I will be able to breathe, and I don’t look like a stuffed sausage. Nobody but my mother and sister know the size…and I don’t think they care too much!
Let the salon clerk pick your size, and try everything on! You might be super surprised!
Post # 8
Congrats on the weight loss!!! Try not to think too much about the sizes and focus on how you feel in the dresses! You’re bound to have at least one dress that when you look in that mirror you will feel like a princess and at that moment, the size of the dress is going to be the last thing on your mind!
Good luck… and HAVE FUN!
Post # 9
Congrats on your weightloss! tell the consultant tomorrow that the first dress you want to try on you want it to have corset backing. its going to shape you so well you are going to LOVE your body and you will finally be able to appreciate your weight loss for what it is.
Post # 10
I hated dress shopping. I didn’t like all the people telling me what to do or think, and everyone looking at me. I just wasnt up for it at all.
The best advice that I got is to bring as little people as you can. I found that the person helping me from the store was the best person to talk with. They see people of all sizes and all types of people.
Once I got my first few shopping times done it was much less stressful, and I actually began to enjoy it. Evern with people looking at me in the body that I have never liked.
Post # 12
i agree with that, only bring one or two people MAX. if you bring 2 people, theres really 4 thoughts….you, the consultant, and the two people you brought. With all these strong opinions you will get confused.
Post # 13
I wanted to check in and see how it went… did you find “THE” dress?
Post # 14
Thanks for everyone’s support! You are all so kind!
I was very fortunate that I had an amazing consultant who knew exactly what to do to make me feel great. The very first dress I tried on was a corset back with some great ruching and it looked great! The rest of the day went so smoothly and I think I found the dress! Actually, I know I found it but it’s beyond my budget so now I’m just trying to figure out if I can reasonably splurge!
Post # 15
Ooooooh! YAY! Do you have any pics? Oh HAI- I see you’re in VA… where did you go shopping?
Post # 16
Congrats! I’m glad your dress shopping experience went well!!!