Post # 1
…and inevitable ugly cry.
BF’s parents just book a family cruise for the end of July, inclunding me. I’m so excited! I really do love BF’s family so it should be a great time. I am already shopping for bathing suits, dresses, and sandals!
Only problem is that now I have it in my head that this is going to be his opportunity to propose. But it’s sooo far away from when I have been hoping. It’s another 6 months, and since he still claims he wants to get married next summer – that leaves a year, maybe less, to be engaged and plan. (I have always wanted a least a year and a half – HE KNOWS THIS!)
Of course, I have no idea what his plans actually are, but I want to make sure he knows that it would make me very happy to be engaged before we go on this cruise. I know I can probably hold out for a while longer before I tell him this – and I can probably just slip it in as a little comment. But last time I tried to have “a talk” I asked, “Are you not thinking about it yet? Or do you have something planned and I’m ruining it by asking about it?” He said, “Maybe. Not like I’ll be able to plan anything with you asking all the time.” Ouch. Haven’t brought it up since, but still no purchase of a ring, I’m almost sure.
Anyway, I feel like this cruise opens the floodgates to more engagement worrying and brings in a new financial worry. With the cruise plus 3 weddings this summer, we are going to have a lot of expenses. Not really sure where an engagement figured into that.
Anyone else have something that’s possibly impeding potential engagement? I guess I just have to remember that it will be a great time…and hopefully I won’t be worrying about it by then.
Post # 3
We all do, our men!!! haha kidding, kinda 🙂
Post # 4
It’s so, so hard to not think about it. I know how that is a million times over!! UGH.
I would try your best to not say anything, it sounds like it’s impending regardless of the cruise! Don’t stress about it and just rest assured in the fact at least you know your man is sure about wanting to be engaged and you’re not on the fence about that. I see some posts on here that involve men that “aren’t ready for marriage” or “aren’t sure” and it breaks my heart :/
I’m hoping for a spring or summertime proposal and am just trying to sit back…. and wait….. I’ve done some “online” planning, etc in my head so it curbs the urge to talk about it to him and gives me something to focus on, haha.
Post # 5
Good luck- I hope he is planning an engagement before the cruise.
Post # 6
Thanks ladies. It is really difficult still being in this unsure stage of the waiting game. At least shopping for bathing suits is taking my mind off of shopping for bridal gowns.
Post # 7
@pisces36: Heck yeah!! Shopping for bathing suits is SO fun 😀
And you are such a lucky girl being able to do that! I’d kill to go on a cruise right now. 😉
We have inches and inches of snow on the ground and I am so beyond ready for springtime.
But, back to the waiting… yeah. There’s no way around it, it totally sucks. Especially when there’s so much anticipation. I try to see it from his point of view.. that he wants it to be so special and is just waiting for the “right” time. I imagine it puts a lot of stress on the men to make it perfect and everything us ladies could want. But in my head, I’m thinking… I seriously wouldn’t freaking care if you did it while we were sitting on the couch, lol.
I am cheering for you to get the ring before the cruise, I can only imagine how AMAZING that would be!
So just know I’m in the exact same boat as you, definitely keep us updated!!
Post # 8
If it were me I’d hope for a proposal on the cruise, ’cause I think that’s super romantic. But for your sake I hope it comes before then!
Post # 9
@gocubbies: So just know I’m in the exact same boat as you
I hope there was no pun intended there! Haha
Post # 10
I ended up having “the talk” with my Boyfriend or Best Friend now Fiance and it turned out OK. We were in a situation where we’d spoken several times about getting married and he had told me that he was going to ask but hadn’t indicated when. So in September or so he started dropping hints, asking my ring size and sending cryptic text messages to my friends which of course sent me into wedding planning mode. I started getting worried about how much time we’d have between the engagement and the wedding, if I’d have enough time to get everything ready, if we were going to end up with a super short or a too long engagement, if we could have it before I finished grad school… I turned myself into a huge ball of nerves and it finally got so bad that I was having trouble sleeping I was so anxious.
I had to sit him down and tell him that I didn’t want to rush him but I needed him to give me an idea of when he was going to ask or to stop dropping hints. To his credit he took this in stride (sign that we’re meant to be, all he cared about was that I wasn’t feeling well) and informed me that he was planning to ask in Jan, at our 3 year anniversary. While in the end I’m glad we discussed it, I felt like an a** for days because I thought I was putting pressure on him or that I’d ruined the proposal, but at least I was sleeping
Then he surprised me in November so we both got our way!