(Closed) Dreading my bachelorette party- please help!

posted 10 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
6880 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would explain to them what you want to do since it your bach party not your friends party. 


Post # 4
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Be honest with your friends.  While they may want you to have a wild and crazy night – tell them what you envisioned and what makes YOU excited.  They may still insist you need to get a little crazy, but just stay firm.  You know your friend’s best – talk to the planners of the group that will be the most understanding.

This reminds me a friend of mine… she hates alcohol and her BM’s took her wine tasting for her bachelorette party… and she didn’t drink anything and had a miserable time (but couldn’t bring herself to tell them she didn’t want to do that).

Speak up and ENJOY the time with the girls!

Post # 5
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

ALSO – I would most definitely EMAIL everyone that’s going with an itinerary of the weekend.  That way – they know what to expect (ie: no bar hopping).  

If they go into it, thinking it’s going to be crazy bar hopping they will be majorly disappointed and could end up pressuring you into doing something you don’t want to do.

It actually works out well that you are doing the planning!

Post # 6
297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Sorry you had to plan your own stagette, sometimes when you want something done right you gotta do it yourself.

This night is a party about you… that night out should be something that you enjoy. It is their job to make sure you are having fun not the other way around. 

Let them know that you do not want to get stupid drunk or have some rowdy, raunchy bachelorette party. Tell them that you would just not enjoy that and share your vision for the night. Remember that boring people get bored so if they are not having the time that they would like hopefully they will when it is their own stagette. 

Post # 8
3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Could you go out for happy hour downtown and just order a bunch of appetizers to split? That way your friends could drink and get the exrperience of going out without making you bar hop and act crazy. I think sharing a meal out with friends is a nice way to celebrate and would probably be a little more exciting for your group than ordering pizza in the hotel room.

Post # 9
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

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@summerbride12: don’t be bashful about what YOU want to do.  But, you are doing them and yourself a disservice if you don’t communicate well with them.  Think of it as doing them a favor to help them know what to expect.  It’s not unusual to expect a bachelorette party to have a lot of raunchy games and crazy drinking… but it’s not unreasonable for you to have the night YOU want either (especially when YOU are hosting it)!!!


Post # 10
2 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

u are opposite of me. my girls are making me feel as though i am unreasonable wanting a typical nite out experience with them. and are looking to dump me back home early in the evening. the main point here, it SHOULD be about what the b2b wants, but unfortunately it seems overwhelmingly to be the bridesmaids’ expectations of the nite, whether or not that meshes with what the bride wants. 🙁

Post # 11
3518 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I completely agree with oracle… these are your friends!  They should understand if you send them an email with more details.  Be prepared though… the rowdier ones might get you a stripper/exotic dancer. 

I’m like you, and my Maid/Matron of Honor and I have already planned to do a spa day, followed by dinner two days before the wedding.  Worse come to worse, confide in your Maid/Matron of Honor and have her crack the whip.  Good luck!

Post # 12
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

they are your friends and should want you to have the best night, I’m sure you would support their decisions on their parties, and they probs want to be there for you, so  try not to worry too much about what they want and just have a great night!! 🙂

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