Post # 1
I am getting married in two weeks. The nerves and stress of planning are really getting to me and I am mentally exhausted and keep crying. I am really dreading being the centre of attention all day and especially the walking down the aisle.
Just the thought of having all those eyes on me is making me panic and feel sick I am at point now where I just want it to be over with :(.
How are you all coping with nerves?
Post # 2
katrin174 : Remind yourself that “all those eyes on you” are like a web of love surrounding you on that special day, and that they are happy and honored to witness and share your happiness!
Post # 3
The last time you went to a wedding do you stare at and judge the bride? No.
These are your nearest and dearest. Relax
Post # 4
I had feelings like this before my wedding, too. I’ve always thought of myself as ridiculously socially awkward — likely to trip at the worst moment, to shake and flush and stutter when giving public talks. I am also really really bad at small talk, and always walk away from it feeling like I’ve made an ass of myself. So the idea of being the center of any event gives me nightmares.
What I didn’t realize until the wedding was HAPPENING is that a wedding is NOTHING like any other public event where the attention is on you. At a wedding, everyone there has arrived already planning to admire and cheer for you, and then the wedding atmosphere sweeps them up and makes them even more happy and loving toward you. There is no judgment, there’s just people feeling really good about beaming their love and affection at you all night long.
This sounds weird, but I’ve never felt as “safe” as I did on my wedding day, with everyone — all the guests, all my family and friends (and even strangers, honking and flashing thumbs-up at my gown as I walked to the wedding!) conspiring to be happy for me and my husband.
So, whatever you’re dreading and envisioning, I promise you, it won’t feel like that. It may surprise and amaze you, how wonderful it feels when you know every. single. person. around you is wishing you the best.
Post # 5
katrin174 : every bride feels those nerves set on. I does not help if you are not having much help plan. Take some time. Enjoy a nice bath and a glass of wine, or go get your nails done, whatever makes you feel more relaxed and beautiful after. And remember, just breathe. You are about to marry the person you love more than anyone else in the world! Good luck and congratulations!
Post # 6
I’ll be honest… I wasn’t knotted up with nerves, but I knew it was going to be a stressful time getting ready and then making the big entrance and aisle walk, then the ceremony. I really wanted to be relaxed and be able to remember everything. So I took half a xanax 🙂 It was just enough to take the edge off and put me in the right state of “not-nervous”.
Post # 7
katrin174 : both of my cousins took chill pills on the way to their ceremonies. I’m so not kidding they went to the doctor. How many people are you having? i hate being the center of attention and am eloping a no guests
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek
I’m also getting married in 2 weeks and haven’t panicked at all (yet). I think what’s helping me stay clam the most, other than having practically everything done (we just have a couple of details to finalize, which we’ll do this weekend), is knowing that everyone who is coming loves us and understanding that things aren’t going to be perfect, but at the end of the day, Fiance and I will be husband and wife!!!!!
Post # 9
I am getting married in 3 weeks. I am an introvert and I antipate the wedding weekend emotionally tiring me out (FH and I are most looking forward to hopping in his car & driving to our honeymoon for a private dinner lol) but I think I am not nervous because I know everybody there has good intentions and loves us and they’re excited to see us tie the knot.
I think that’s what makes me excited to walk down the aisle and say my vows and all that. I felt very similarly about our engagement party.
Post # 10
Deep breath bee!
The people that come to a wedding come because they love you.
Post # 11
katrin174 : I got sick from nerves right before my wedding. But you know what? The second I was going down the aisle I didn’t even actually see anyone but my husband if that makes sense. I mean I could see them but I looked straight ahead. I hated the idea of being center too and people are looking at the venue, the groom, the family. You can’t always see over people either.
Point being I get it but it will actually be ok!
Post # 12
katrin174 : I’m in the same boat!!! I’m terrified & keep having meltdowns. Mine is in one week
Post # 13
My wedding is 2 years away and I am already thinking “I don’t really want to do the aisle, I don’t like people looking at me”. But then I just think like PP’s have said, these are my family, they are here for you so don’t worry about it. That being said we are only having a small wedding and I have considered elopement a few times. 🙂
I’m sure it will all be ok on the day. I’ll be telling myself when my turn comes around not to think about it before hand and to focus on something else. It’s only a small portion of the day and will go by fast. Just enjoy your day!
Post # 14
I smoked hella weed the two nights before the wedding.
Post # 15
Beta blockers are your friend. I take them before major performances and they help a lot. I HATE being the center of attention as well. See a doctor and get a prescription if it’s causing you this much trouble already.