- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
I apologize that this is kind of long, but I’m so bad at dealing with these kinds of things and could really use some advice.
Some background info: All through college I worked as a waitress at an extremely busy restaurant. Our clientele is mainly people who summer in the area (wealthy retirees with a second home, country club members, etc.) and I’ve always made VERY good tips.
However, I have always HATED the job. It stresses me out beyond all belief. As one of the senior most servers there, my manager has high expectations of me and asks me to do a lot. I don’t mind this- I can do the job, and when left to it I can do it well and do it without complaint. Usually, though, the manager is so micromanaging and has to correct every little thing. To give an example, he once chewed me out in front of some customers for describing a salad as being “topped with” fresh berries instead of “tossed with,” which for some reason he thought sounded better. It’s stuff like that, every single day. It drives me insane. I typically worked 5-6 days a week during the summer and weekends during the school year, 10 hours a day. Multiple times I’ve clocked close to 30,000 steps on my Fitbit. The job is physically exhausing and made mentally stressful because of the manager.
Honestly, the only reason I do it is for the money, which as I mentioned is very good. Now that I have my first teaching job, I really don’t have to work in the summer. Since we are saving for our wedding and eventually want to buy a house, though, I decided to compromise a bit and work just 3 days a week. That way I could make little extra money and still get to have something of a summer vacation. Already, though, my manager has been calling wanting me to work dinner parties, or weekends, or something, even though I already explained that I really was too busy with school right now to do anything there until the school year ended. He has this way of managing to convince me (and every else) to work way more than they want to by nagging and wheedling until someone gives in. I have a hard time standing up to him and saying no. I did recently agree to work one Saturday that they were desperate for someone to cover a shift and spent the whole time listening to the manager complain (about how my how I got a stain on my shirt after 20 minutes and it looked awful, how the new staff members were useless, that the customers were annoying, etc.)
To bring this long story to a close, I’m trying to decide if it’s worth it to deal with a job I hate for the sake of the extra money or if I should look elsewhere for summer employment. I know I won’t make nearly as much somewhere else, but I kind of don’t care at this point. I’m also wondering, if I decided to not go back, how do I explain that to the owner? She is the one who hired me, and I absolutely love her. She’s just never there and complaints about the manager kind of fall on deaf ears because he manages to keep things running well in spite of the ever changing staff.