- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2017
So my Maid/Matron of Honor and I have been best friends FOREVER, probably since we were 8yrs old. We have been through everything together…shared lockers in high school and shared our shoulders for years. After our senior year in high school, I went to college and she moved to a different state with her then bf. All through college we would talk nearly on a weekly basis. She’d always have “boy issues” and I would be her crying shoulder and talk her through it. When she was being dumb, I would tell her the honest truth, and she would believe me. It always turned into a phone call about her, but would rarely get 2words in about my day. Which i grew accustomed to.
Well a year ago I got engaged to the love of my life. Before we even started dating, she met my now Fiance and said why arent you dating him yet, hes amazing and perfect for you. Little would we know 3 1/2yrs later I’d be marrying him. We talked about marriage all the time and it was always a joke that we’d be each other Maid/Matron of Honor and if we weren’t we’d be pissed.
I got engaged over a year ago and naturally asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. Now she lives far away…a few day car ride or a plane ticket. I asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor because were were best friends, and talked about EVERYTHING together. I just wanted her to be there and call to talk to me. I didn;t want…nor expect her to be there for every waking breath. After I asked she questions not once..but TWICE if “I really wanted her to be my MOH”. The first time I was upset but understood that she wanted to make sure I knew she couldnt be there for everything. After the 2nd time i was very hurt. I balled my eyes out to my Fiance. I was to the point that if she asked me a 3rd time I would have told her I’d find someone else.
So the year went on and I was very hurt but wanted to push it to the side and just enjoy my engagement and the planning. She’d call and I’d clam up because I was hurt, and it got to the point that we didnt even talk. I ignored it but still hurt. So fast forward to the bachlorette party that she wanted to help plan..fine, but I told her that i didnt want anything to do with it. She would constantly text me with ideas and asking if i’d care if we did this. Well time was getting closer and my other bridesmaids were getting on top of her to plan things. So she pulled the “poor me card” and called me crying that my other Bridesmaid or Best Man were being mean to her. So that just made me spill the beans on EVERYTHING. Oh and when she did call she LOVED to talk about her bf and ask where hed sit and what he was going to do at the wedding. I DONT CARE!
Now, its a few months after and I am having a hard time even talking to her. I make excuses and am short with her. I am getting married on Saturday and I am dreading seeing her on Thursday. Shes flying in, and Im still really hurt. I just want to enjoy my wedding and I secretly am afraid to see her. Am I crazy? Should I be this emotional over what happened??? I just want my wedding to be one I will remember for marrying the love of my life, not dealing with my Maid/Matron of Honor. Advice? Comments?