Post # 16
roughwater : NY is a tough city to exist in , much less thrive unless you are making BIG bucks. Get your experience and look at other places to live. By The Way, I just started a new job in a new industry and I’m 52. I’m learning a ton of new skills, I work remotely and spend my days at a tech incubator with lots of people who are young enough to be my kids. My experience and skills are highly valued and I love my new gig. Adaptability and Innovation are key attributes in the new economy.
Post # 17
Don’t let the assholes on the train stop you from achieving!
Also, have you ever watched Friends? It reminds me of when Chandler was an intern in his thirties and was older than his boss. If you haven’t seen it, I suggest starting from the beginning and enjoying the show 🙂
Moving to a new city alone is crazy hard and you are so powerful! You’ve got this!
Post # 18
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Don’t let your age bother you at all. I’m 34 and start an internship next week! I spent many years just working. And having a job and paying bills is a necessity, but if you have a chance to do something you truly enjoy, at any age, you should go for it.
Post # 19
NY is a lot harder than I thought it would be. I’ve always heard that the city will try to reject you, but I didn’t really get it until my apartment building caught fire three days before Christmas and 170 firefighters stomped down all the doors. It was awful, and the elevators still smell like smoke.
Keep fighting for what you need to succeed. I’m older than my manager, too, but I try to remember that we all make our own paths. Mine just started a little bit later.
Just think about all of the good things about living in NY you can’t get anywhere else when it starts to wear on you. No car insurance. Running in Central Park. Amazon Prime Now.
Post # 20
This reminds me of the episode of friends that Chandler becomes and intern and is the best one because he has life experience!
The younger folk won’t be bothered about your age (30 is Young!) and well done you for taking a chance and working towards your dream! Good luck 😀
Post # 21
- Wedding: September 2016 - Blue Hound Farm
I started an internship 10 days before my 31st bday. I choose to see the humor in it, what else could I do? Have you watched The Intern? It might give you some perspective, at least you’re not 70!
Post # 22
I saw this from the opposite side – when I was in my late 20s, I had a manager position and was supervising someone who was changing careers and interning at our office, and in her early 40s. I really respected her… and I also supervised some younger 20somethings (just out of college) who would say annoying things about how ‘old’ it would be to be ‘almost 30!’ :).
My advice is to pay them no mind… you are doing what you want to do, and that’s what’s important!
Also, re: living in NYC … have you looked into moving to one of the suburbs at all? For example, there are lots of very ‘livable’ places in NJ, LI, CT, or even north of the city in Westchester, where you’d find lower rent (or at least a larger space for your money) and have a much more civilized commute (on a commuter rail service or bus, where you’d definitely get a seat, etc.) I moved out of the city a few years ago and have never looked back! Plus, it’s nice to come home to green trees, quiet, etc.
You are awesome for having the courage to start something new. Just keep going! 🙂
Post # 23
You just went through a lot of big life changing experiences pretty fast. Take it easy on yourself and be kind to yourself. It takes a while to get used to a new city, especially such a large one. I’ve moved to a couple different cities for work without knowing anyone. It’s a huge adjustment and it takes a while to get used to things and meet people you click with. I joined a lot of meetup groups and tried to step out of my comfort zone and say yes to as many invitations as I could.
Try to remember why you wanted to change careers in the first place. Six months will go so fast. Try to enjoy the great experience you’ll be getting. And remember you don’t have to stay in NYC.
Good luck Bee!
Post # 24
Don’t be embarrassed, be proud!! Not many people have the stones to start again doing something they are passionate about.
Post # 25
lol I told my friend I felt like Chandler did in that episode. I need to go back and rewatch it. I LOVE the job, and I know I can do it well, I’m passionate about it, and this is what I want to be doing. I feel “in the zone” when I’m at work. It’s like all those things I do when I’m procrastinating — by some miracle I’m getting paid to do them!! But it’s hard having ten years on my cubicle mate lol. I’m the oldest person in my entire department.
I think maybe it’s not even being an old intern that’s getting me down, but everything all at once. I feel like I have nothing to show for my life. I’m single, struggling, a non-homeowner, away for everything familiar — AND on top of that, I’m interning at an age when most of my friends are in management positions at their jobs. I want it all bees – the guy, the kids, the house, to love my job. I’m gonna go eat chocolate now.
Post # 26
I think you’re awesome for being the 30 year old intern! I started in my dream career at 29 and although I had the occasional insecure feeling of being “behind” in life/career, I honestly think having some life experience behind me gave me an edge. I’m independent, a problem solver, a critical thinker, and I’ve gained a little bit of wisdom along the way, all of which I contribute to my job in the way that someone who took the “straight and narrow’ can’t. I routinely had to ask people in their early 20s work-related questions, and I respected them as professionals regardless of their age. Everybody brings something to the table, and I would bet the experience you have from your previous career is an asset to this job. Chin up! 🙂
Post # 27
roughwater : I’m glad I came across this post. I’m 31 and 30 is still young…not old by any means. However, in the context of your work situation, I completely understand how you feel “older” compared to the younger 20 somethings. Also, with the fact that it’s an internship in a new career field. We have some similarities. I’m from SoCal, but I’ve been in NY almost 4 years now. I ended up a new career field. I didn’t pursue that on purpose, it’s just the job I ended up getting and sticking with since I’ve been here.
However, the field I’m working in now is not what I went to school for and I’m not passionate about this. I’m doing it because it’s a career, not a bad one and I’ve been doing it the past 4 years. In my actual field of choice, I did 3 internships during college and worked a couple of entry level jobs in the field. I was unable to really gain any traction in that industry and ended up deciding that I need a BIG change (while in a psych theory class in a doctorate program). That change consisted of moving across the country to NY. Coming from the suburbs, this place is polar opposite of what I’m used to. I also moved here by myself, only knowing one person and lived on my own etc. the whole nine. I’ve always lived on my own until recently moving with fiance.
I feel you on the people on the trains and city life and I know it can be annoying. I met my now fiance in NY and we actually plan to move back to CA this year. The experiences I’ve had in NY have been valuable and your experience is valuable to. You don’t have to stay in NY forever, it can be a temporary thing if you so wish. You are brave for deciding to pursue your passion and I wonder too when and if I’ll go back to pursuing mine. At the moment, my life priorities have shifted since we are getting married, buying a house and moving states and hope to TTC after the wedding. I feel almost like I lost interest in my passion, which is alarming…I never imagined that could happen.
The best way I could sum it up, is just that life comes in seasons and we have different priorities at different times. It doesn’t mean I’ll never go back to it, I may at some point. I just wanted to reply to you because we have some things in common!
Post # 28
roughwater : Honestly you are not that much older than the others and you should feel proud for having the courage to go back to school and follow your dreams. Your peers should look up to you for that! And let me tell you a little secret, I was the opposite, the young intern, and I felt people didnt take me seriously because I was TOO young! So you actually have a leg up on them so use it to your advantage. I would love to say that age discrimination isnt real, but I can tell you first hand it is. I think you are actually in the better position!
Post # 29
When I trained to be a mechanic I was 36. I was on a course at college where the whole class were 16 year old boys! Even the college tutor was younger than me! It was embarrassing at times, especially when other staff asked me if I was the new tutor and one of the students accidentally called me mom!
Being so much older did have it’s benefits though. I was wise enough to not fall for the ‘go to stores and ask for a long wait’ trick, saving myself from embarrassment and being older meant I new it was something I really wanted so worked hard for my qualifications when most of the other students messed around, dropped out or failed the course
Post # 30
i wouldnt look to much into the age thing, you decided to switch careers at a later time in life and there is nothing wrong with that. I have superiors who are 4 or 5 years younger then me and i see nothing wrong with it, that got an earlier start in the field then i did so its to be expected.
i to changed careers/life goals, etc. when i was 24, so while everyone around me was graduating and starting in their fields i was starting all over with mine.
dont focus on office politics, just focus on your self and your career and what makes you happy, in the end thats all that matters, is being happy.