Post # 1
Newly thrust into wedding planning and are close to setting a date. We just met with an AWESOME venue and absolutely love it. They are all inclusive but very reasonably priced, and offer a hog roast, a huge outdoor patio that will accommodate all our guests and the band, a fire pit for s’mores, lighting, and a historic town hall that was moved to the property with two levels, in case of rain. Literally everything we wanted.
It’s 30 miles (35 mins) from the town we live in. On top of that, my grandma’s estate (think: farm that no longer has livestock but has some nice, quaint gardens and lots of woods) is right outside the town we live in. I grew up there and have always dreamed about getting married in the backyard. Today, she suggested that we have the ceremony there (I hadn’t told her about my ideas). So she’s on board. But our guest list is 125 and she thinks it would be cramped for the reception. Plus we’d have to rent a tent and a stage and a dance floor and everything else. So we would have to find a different reception space and there is literally nothing in our small town that will accommodate our guests and let us have a band.
So we have three options, as far as I can tell. Do it all at the venue (35 min drive for family that lives in town, less for people flying in). Do a semi private ceremony at my grandma’s estate (45 minutes from venue), and then have larger reception at venue and make people drive. Try to cut guest list in half and do it all at my grandma’s.. Another option might be to have a small private ceremony the evening before at my grandma’s and then the reception the next day too, but I’m not totally sold on that.
Please feel free to suggest other options! It’s all my brain can come up with right now.
Post # 2
What about rehearsal dinner at your grandmas? I dont like the options of splitting up the guest list, and 45m is a pretty long drive between places, so I’d vote for all at the all inclusive or cut the guest list to do all at grandmas. But I think you could do Rehearsal Dinner at grandmas, and then ceremony+reception at the all inclusive place. Easier for guests, less work for you and grandma.
Post # 3
Having both at the all-inclusive would save so much stress with planning and implementing logistics…
Post # 4
I think this is a fantastic idea
Post # 5
That’s a great idea! We weren’t originally planning on having a formal rehersal dinner, but this might be a great way to incorporate the family farm and have our families meet (:
Post # 6
Everyone I know who had a wedding hosted at a family estate wishes they had a venue instead. The work of getting all your rentals together, and cleaning up the estate (even well kept farms need brush clearing, parking figured out) is stressful.
Post # 7
30/35 min drive to the venue is not a big deal at all, especially if everything is going to be in that one place. It sounds wonderful.
Post # 8
That’s a very good point! It’s a lot more to orchestrate. And plus I really don’t want the emotional burden of making everything perfect to fall on my Nana.. Even if she didn’t have to lift a finger she is the type who would be stressed.
I like the idea of a rehersal dinner or Sunday brunch instead, like a pp suggested. Which do you all prefer?
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Rehearsal dinner or Sunday brunch at your grandmother’s, do the rest at the hired venue!
Post # 10
I would suggest a rehearsal dinner and not a Sunday brunch if you’re even a little introverted. I was people’d out from the wedding and did not enjoy our Sunday brunch as much as I hoped I would.