Dream dress or Practicality

posted 11 months ago in Dress
  • poll: How did you decide on your dress budget or justify your budget
    I bought my dream dress no matter the price : (17 votes)
    12 %
    I couldn’t justify spending a lot of money for one dress for one day : (40 votes)
    29 %
    I fell somewhere in the middle and found a dress I loved for a great price. : (82 votes)
    59 %
  • Post # 31
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    1679 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    ebbee :  my dress was $4000 but I bought the sample for $900.

    I ended up trashing it by dancing and getting hooked on a nail in the deck etc so I’m glad I didn’t spend a crazy amount!

    Post # 32
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    685 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    We had a pretty low-key wedding, so a really expensive dress would have felt out of place. I started looking at 50s style swing dresses on etsy and typical brands. Those would have been around 100 to 250€. I tried some on but didn’t LOVE them. My sister then insisted I should go to a proper bridal shop (she hated the idea of 50s style and the whole low-key wedding). I went with my two best friends and tried dresses for up to 1000€. I ended up with a dress that cost 650€ including alterations. Still a lot of money…

    Post # 33
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    443 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2019

    zzar45 :  this is pretty much exactly what I went through! I wanted to stay under $1200-$1500 as it’s only going to be work for A FEW HOURS!!! But then I fell in love with Hailey Paige dresses… I tried on a bunch of less expensive similar designs and just hated them. So I went ahead with the $3500 option.. because I don’t want to settle for less than perfect on the dress. It wasn’t really even a budget issue, it was more a mental block, which I got over pretty quickly😂😂

    Post # 34
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    2110 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I set a budget of $1000.

    it was my second wedding and my first dress was $4000 and I regretted spending that money so much for years afterwards so new I wanted to find something more reasonable. 

    I got my dress for $800 and got so many more compliments than my $4000 dress did! 

    Post # 35
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    135 posts
    Blushing bee

    I was hoping to stay around $800 by buying a pre-owned dress.  I fell in love with a $2000 dress on line and ended up finding it at a sample sale for $600.  Unfortunately the cleaning and alterations are probably going to push me over $1000.  Trying not to feel too guilty about it and hopefully I can sell it after the wedding!

    Post # 36
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    5583 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2018

    pearfectprincess :  Exactly! Although I didn’t necessarily go into dress shopping wanting to spend that much I thought about what it would feel like putting on the dress on my wedding morning and how special I would feel. The last thing I wanted was to think “I wish I just went for my dream dress” while getting ready to walk down the aisle!

     

    Post # 37
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    443 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2019

    zzar45 :  yes 100% absolutely!!

    I knew I wanted a ball gown style, which can tend to be heavier and hot. I found that the cheaper ones I tried on were either really heavy and hot with the fullness that I liked, or they were kind of limp and airy. My dream dress was the FULLEST and also the AIRIEST and most breatheable!! So that also really made it happen for me, I knew it was meant to be as my wedding is in spring outdoors and I am already a hot natured person. I want to look good on the day, but also feel good. 

    Post # 38
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    734 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    We saved money on the dress (which is now sitting in my cedar chest) and used that money for a crazy awesome honeymoon. Personally I knew my husband would barely notice what my dress looked like (he thought it was silver. It was ivory) and I got a gorgeous dress on sale for 600 from David’s Bridal. We used the rest of the saved money to put a down payment on my new therapy dog puppy, who will be coming home next week. I just felt like there were a lot of things I could spend the money on that would be better for us – but that’s just who we are. If you REALLY care about the dress and the photos get the one you want as long as you don’t cause financial distress in doing so. 

    Post # 39
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    2000 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    i didnt even bother to look at dresses that were far out of my budget, i did spend a little more then planned due to alterations, and my dress was about $200 over budget to start. 

    But if you have a budget i would say dont intentionally just try on everything regardless of what the price is, you’ll just lead your self to disappointment. 

    Post # 40
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    180 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: Fireman’s Pavillion

    I believe there is the perfect dress within the budget, or comfortably outside the budget.

    My “dream dress” was a $6400 ballgown. My budget was $500. Obviously, I didn’t buy the dream dress. Hell, I didn’t even try it on, but I showed a picture of the dream dress to my consultant. (Let me tell you my wedding dress choice was EXTREMELY out-of-the-box.) She brought a sample dress in perfect condition and had similar details to “the dream”, and I had the “this is my dress” feeling. The dress was $550 when it was originally $1200. I justified the extra $50, because after my wedding day, I’m going to have it altered to a tea length to wear for anniversaries (Lord willing my body to still fit in it haha.)

    IMO there are many better things to spend my money on: down payment for a house, a butt-kicking honeymoon, etc. I could not justify in my head spending $6400, but I could the $550.

    But it’s your day, your dress, and your money. I wouldn’t try on a dress that is nowhere near what you’re comfortable with spending. It’s just a waste of your time and you’ll be heartbroken if you fall in love with it. I believe with enough searching in the salons and preowned sites, I’m sure you will find something.

    Post # 42
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    638 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2019

    I went with my dream dress. I’m a dress person so it was really important to get what I wanted. I didn’t set a hard budget and tried on dresses from 1k-15k. I am fortunate to not have to work a “real job” but I went back to work for a few months so I could pay for it without dipping into wedding budget money. I also bought a designer that has some resale value so I’m considering consigning it after although my family and FH are against this idea.

    I swore I would walk away with a Hayley Paige but it turned out none fit me very well. I’m still a little sad about it but every time I look at the pretty pictures I remember how NOT pretty I felt in them!

     

    Post # 43
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    2080 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    It depends on what “dream dress” means to you. This was my second wedding and this time I didn’t really want to scimp as much as I had in my 20’s for my first time around. However, that didn’t mean the sky was the limit since a $10K dress would have made me anxious rather than excited. My actual dress was around $1800, but with all the alterations, accessories, shoes, veil, shaperwear, etc., my whole “look” (excluding makeup and hair) was around $5K, which I was comfortable with.

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