Dream Ring is double the original budget – Is it selfish to want it?

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 46
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Victoria7 :  

I don’t  think  it is selfish exactly ,but not very sensible unless you are – or rather he is  –  pretty loaded.  Thats a crazy amount of money to me. 

Post # 47
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2019

Have you thought about a diamond alternative such as a Moissanite? Moissanite’s are so ethical, beautiful, lab grown – so you can get a perfect clarity, and SO budget friendly. My dream ring was a LARGE center stone, because I have really big hands and I also never want to have to “upgrade” from the ring I was married with. My ring is almost a 4 carat equivilent and the entire ring – including the setting – was $3,200 from The TrueGem Company. They were AMAZING to work with. They will customize anything you want. Once I discovered and researched Moissanite’s I’ll never look in the direction of a diamon again. You should look into it!

Post # 48
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t use the term selfish for just wanting a more expensive ring, but if you’re willing to put off the engagement for several months just to have a luxury piece of jewelry, that’s where it does sound a bit selfish to me.  You already had a great budget of $10,000; it’s not like you’re going from $500 to $1,000.  To go from $10,000 to $20,000 – for just a ring – seems crazy to me.  My first car didn’t cost that much.

I would also feel very guilty and materialistic asking my husband to pay for it.  It sounds like his bugdet was well thought out, like a PP said, and for you to just arbitrarily want to double it just because you like the finger coverage seems kind of rude.

I have a 1 carat oval in a halo (so a similar ring to what you want) and my finger is a 5.5 and it’s a beautiful size.  You could also get a double halo if you really want the finger coverage.

I don’t know Bee.  This just rubs me the wrong way.

Post # 49
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Busy bee

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Victoria7 :  Blue Nile had several in the $12k range with a setting. I would shop around for sure! 

Post # 50
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Helper bee

I was always taught that just because you want something doesn’t mean you’re entitled to it and it’s not the end of the world if you don’t get it. So no, I don’t think it’s selfish to want a more expensive ring, but I do think it’s selfish to ask or expect someone else to get it for you.

Post # 51
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

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Victoria7 :  I would never spend 5K on a setting you are getting ripped off!!!!! You can probably get a similar setting elsewhere for a third of the price. I would prioritize the center diamond over everything else to be honest. 

Post # 52
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018 - United Kingdom

$5K is waayy too expensive for just the setting! I agree with @jellybellynelly money-mouth

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