Post # 1
Hi bees!! Me and my SO are talking about engagement rings. I don’t want him to spend a lot of money since we are young and recently bought a house. I’m trying to decide between these two options:
1.- The ring I’ve always dreamed about with a moissanite or harro gem (with the promise of upgrading to diamond in the future). The design & size (2 carat oval) I want is VERY expensive with a diamond. I’ve thought about getting this setting with a small diamond but I just can’t seem to like small ovals for my hand!!
2.- Another ring style with a small diamond, about a 3/4 carat, in a pave band or plain solitaire setting (it would look smaller that the one in this picture)
Post # 2
Your poll is what would *I* pick, and I’d pick the diamond, but I’m not a fan of sims.
Post # 3
Have you looked at lab diamonds? They aren’t quite as good of a deal as moissanite but are less than diamonds.
I think your answer depends on how important the ring being a diamond is. If it being moissanite is somethihg you feel you need to hide then I would go with the round diamond. Otherwise I’d get the oval, it’s beautiful!
Post # 4
bubbly2018 : I have! Although they’re cheaper than mined diamonds they’re still pretty expensive. I think I would like people to assume I have a diamond but it’s also not a big deal to me.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
I got a moissanite in my engagement ring and upgraded for our 5 year anniversary. It might be more challenging to save up for a 2 ct… have you thought about going for a 1.25 or 1.5? I feel like if you really want a diamond you’ll never be truly satisfied with a moissanite.
Post # 6
Have you tried similar rings in person?
Post # 7
jellybellynelly : +1
victoria07 : not a fan of simulants either. I would get a smaller diamond that you can afford especially because you’re said you’re hoping others will think it’s a diamond. The oval moissanite cut is particularly (obviously) different than a diamond although it’s unlikely anyone will actually *ask*. In addition, some moissanite can develop a rainbow stain.
Post # 8
victoria07 : Just curious, where is the first ring from?
Post # 9
chillbee29 : the pic she shared is of a $6k diamond (not good quality though as it is clarity enhanced) from Best Brilliance, they do moissanite too.
Post # 10
Since when was 3/4 carat considered small.. makes me feel sad..
My partner and I could afford a 2 carat diamond if I wanted one but the bigger diamonds tend to look gaudy to me so we chose a 0.5 carat solitaire. I think 3/4 carat is beautiful!
Post # 11
This is my NEO Moissanite. I love it so much. I really do. It is beautiful. I personally will never go back to owning any diamond jewelry again. Its honestly up to you. I compared my moissanite to my sister-in-laws canadian diamond and we werent really able to tell any difference at all. Its really a preference. 🙂
Post # 12
If it’s a mind clean thing for you then I’d agree that your better off getting a smaller diamond. You *could* always upgrade for a significant anniverary or whatever as DrAtkins has said/done. You mentioned that you’re young and just bought a house, depending on how well others know your finances-then getting a large moissy and trying to be ok with it looking like a diamond probably won’t look believable to yourself ?
Idk, I’m all for moissy and owning and rocking it for what it is despite everything. (Personally I have none but want to get one in the near future) But 3/4carat diamond is a beautiful size and nothing to scoff at either, especially when starting out, heck I got a .80ct anniversary ring and I love it soooo much-it’s not small by any means except in American society and keeping up with the Jones which is an unfortunate way to measure anything…
Either is a fine choice and you should love it because it’s going to be on your finger for a while, happy hunting-online is your best bet !
Post # 13
It you want people to assume it’s a diamond you should get the smaller diamond. If people know you’re young and recently bought a house they would probably also know the moissanite isn’t a diamond. If what people think is important to you then it’s best to get the diamond from the off. However if you want the ring to look a certain way and are happy to own what you have with pride regardless then get the moissanite.
Post # 14
I’m young as well and chose to go with a 2.5 carat moissy. Originally we were looking at diamonds around 1.5 carats in halos but my dream was always a big stone on a thin band. I haven’t seen my ring yet because my boyfriend hasn’t proposed yet but I recently went into a jewelry store and tried on my past favorite double halo rings and was so happy I ended up choosing what I’ve always wanted which is similar to your dream ring.
I would say to go with the moissanite since it’s your dream ring. And honestly I wouldn’t really pay attention to people who tell you “if it doesn’t match your lifestyle it’s not believable” because unless people think you’re in actual debt, then it is totally believable for someone to have a large ring with average finances. You guys just bought a house so in my mind it makes sense that you can afford a ring. I’ve heard that ovals in particular don’t look like oval diamond however most people don’t know what differences they’re looking for when comparing and in passing I’m sure no one will question it.
It bothers me when people say things like oh if you drive a Honda or have a small apartment a large ring is not believable. People save up for years for a ring lol it’s totally possible for someone to save up $15k for a ring and choose not to splurge in other areas of their lives. Also, if you’re heart is totally set on a diamond (which mine wasn’t) then you could always upgrade later on. victoria07 :
Post # 15
I went with a moissanite for my ring and had no regrets. It’s a beautiful stone, and I’ve never had anything but compliments on it 🙂 and you can always upgrade in the future if you want