Post # 1
So, we found a venue in San Francisco. Super expensive. It’s like $200 a person. The soon-to-be-hubby found it and sent me the link. We talked on the phone for like 4 hours about our wedding last night. LOL!!! Given we are so in love with the venue and it is where we can have the ceremony, cocktail hour and the reception and the brunch the next morning. It’s perfect. And the style of the hotel is somewhat vintage. He actually sent me a text that said, “hey Queen, I found a hotel in the City that has that vintagey old skool look you like. Call me.” LOL!!! I absolutely love it. However, we’ll have to cut the guest list down to 50. Have any of you had to make such a drastic guest list cut to stay within budget for the venue of your dreams?
Post # 3
I’m happy that you found such an awesome place! If you are not starting with a huge guest list, it’s doable.. We had about 50 guests, too! It’s wonderful and intimate and if you can do it, you’ll enjoy it.
if you cant cut the list, maybe your guests can sit on each other’s shoulders and get counted as one 😉
Post # 4
We’ve cut from 100 to 70. If I could make it 50, I totally would but my mother would kill me.
We’re doing a vintage hotel too! It was built in 1926.
Post # 5
Getting our guest list down was the hardest challenge so far in the wedding planning. We also have a dream venue in San Francisco that can only hold a small number of people—our house. The down side of it being an unofficial venue is that we don’t have any way to really *know* what our house can handle. The up side is that there’s no one telling us a concrete number, it’s a little more flexible.
For us, it has also meant that any bodies in the space that are paid vendors are taking up a spot for a loved one. So, no outside photographers, coordinators, musicians, DJs, or anything like that. We asked a dear friend to be the officiant, and we may even be taking up some friends’ offers to take on the catering.
It also complicates the catering: there’s no room for a seated meal, so the food will all be passed finger-friendly appetizers. That’s much more labor intensive, but I think it’s what will work best for us.
Even with all that, our hearts lurch at the thought of all the people we’re unable to invite. (Though it’s also a godsend to have a very understandable reason for those who feel left out.) Our plan is to handle that by throwing a Great Big Fake Wedding (my fiance has a band, so it’ll just be tucked into one of his shows) that everyone can attend.
Good luck paring down the list!