(Closed) Dream wedding not possible in my small town

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Also be comforted by the fact that the vast majority of couples  don’t have a wedding anywhere approaching the ones you see in magazines or blogs.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I come from a small town too (one stoplight]. so i definitely know how you feel. i’m not 100% happy with the venue i got stuck with. it’s a community center. but i figured i could diy the crap out of it and make it my own.  my photographer is coming from an hour away though.  

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Good things about small town weddings:

Small town folk will probably feel lucky to get dinner, let alone beer and wine. Open bar will have them delighted beyond belief, even if it’s Bartons-caliber with sodapop mixers

Small town florists are super cheap

You may end up having the social event of the year. Chances are, there won’t be many other weddings the same night due to lack of many venues and fewer people, so probably more of your guests will be able to  make it. Especially since they will live nearby

Also since they live nearby, you won’t have to worry about them driving long distances really tired or possibly still a bit buzzed

Putting out-of-towners up for the evening won’t cost much

All the money you save on hotel, flowers, probably food, and definitely venue can go toward getting things like chiavari chairs, elaborate cake and neat favors

Some small towns don’t have restrictions on fireworks! Forget sparklers, have a Roman Candle sendoff!

On the other hand, I’m from a town of under 3,000 and am getting married an hour and a half away because I couldn’t separate myself from the image of the super grand venue. So there’s that option, too. Just keep in mind you may have to put up $ for lodging and transportation.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

In a small town, people don’t have the same set of expectations that people from more cosmopolitan areas do.  I grew up in a small town and have lived in other small towns.  I’ve never seen a cocktail hour in my life, so I don’t get upset when there isn’t one.  First cocktail hour I’ll ever be attending is my own.

A lot of the fun trends that the more cosmopolitan folks are over, would be new and novel in a small town.  I’ve never seen a vintage wedding with burlap and mason jars, nor a candy bar, or a brooch bouquet.  Something that’s supposedly been done, is brand new in a small town!

Another advantage, in a small town, vendors are usually related distantly somehow or another to someone connected to the wedding and I think they often give more effort because of that.  And there’s nothing saying you can’t book a photographer that’s a couple hours away from a bigger city that meets your dreams either.  My wedding photographer is coming about an hour or so away from Toronto to my wedding and they waived their travel fees. 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2000

Small towns are beautiful! I’m getting married in a small town on  a huge farm and I know with flowers and people and food and drinks it will be magical!! 

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I am laughing at myself because we are from a big metro area, but we chose to drive 90 minutes away for a historic small town feel. The grass is always greener on the other side, right?

OP, obviously you know your town best, but I encourage you to think out of the box when it comes to planning your wedding. Rather than lamenting what it doesn’t have, can you embrace anything unique or quirky that it does have?

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’re leaving the Baltimore-area to elope in a tiny little place in VA that doesn’t even qualify as a town…it’s a village.  LOL

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

this is kind of funny….my SO was the one who couldn’t come to grips with the fact that we weren’t going to have a wedding like in movies or magazines. He just didn’t get it. He’s come to terms with the idea that isn’t reality for most people 🙂 

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