Post # 1
I have been spending lots of time on Pinterest, theknot and weddingbee… dreaming of my wedding… however– as much fun as it is…. I have come to terms with the fact that these dream weddings may not be in the cards for me. I am getting married in a small town (my hometown) and unfortunately there were only a hand full of venues to choose from. None of them are as fancy as venues in larger cities. I still think it will be wonderful, but sometimes I wish I had a larger selection of vendors, venues etc.
I thought I would definitely need a long engagement for all the wedding planning but I think that if you are getting married in a small town you can definitely plan in 6 months. It’s not nearly as stressful when you only have a couple of photographers, djs or florists to choose from! Anyone else in the same boat as me?
I am comforted by reminding myself that the funnest and most memorable wedding I ever went to was planned in only 3 months and definitely did not have any fancy frills.
Post # 3
Also be comforted by the fact that the vast majority of couples don’t have a wedding anywhere approaching the ones you see in magazines or blogs.
Post # 4
good point! It’s definitely easy to get carried away with what is realistic
Post # 5
I come from a small town too (one stoplight]. so i definitely know how you feel. i’m not 100% happy with the venue i got stuck with. it’s a community center. but i figured i could diy the crap out of it and make it my own. my photographer is coming from an hour away though.
Post # 6
My photographer is coming from away too! One advantage to having a wedding in a smaller town is that prices are usually more reasonable
Post # 7
Good things about small town weddings:
Small town folk will probably feel lucky to get dinner, let alone beer and wine. Open bar will have them delighted beyond belief, even if it’s Bartons-caliber with sodapop mixers
Small town florists are super cheap
You may end up having the social event of the year. Chances are, there won’t be many other weddings the same night due to lack of many venues and fewer people, so probably more of your guests will be able to make it. Especially since they will live nearby
Also since they live nearby, you won’t have to worry about them driving long distances really tired or possibly still a bit buzzed
Putting out-of-towners up for the evening won’t cost much
All the money you save on hotel, flowers, probably food, and definitely venue can go toward getting things like chiavari chairs, elaborate cake and neat favors
Some small towns don’t have restrictions on fireworks! Forget sparklers, have a Roman Candle sendoff!
On the other hand, I’m from a town of under 3,000 and am getting married an hour and a half away because I couldn’t separate myself from the image of the super grand venue. So there’s that option, too. Just keep in mind you may have to put up $ for lodging and transportation.
Post # 8
In a small town, people don’t have the same set of expectations that people from more cosmopolitan areas do. I grew up in a small town and have lived in other small towns. I’ve never seen a cocktail hour in my life, so I don’t get upset when there isn’t one. First cocktail hour I’ll ever be attending is my own.
A lot of the fun trends that the more cosmopolitan folks are over, would be new and novel in a small town. I’ve never seen a vintage wedding with burlap and mason jars, nor a candy bar, or a brooch bouquet. Something that’s supposedly been done, is brand new in a small town!
Another advantage, in a small town, vendors are usually related distantly somehow or another to someone connected to the wedding and I think they often give more effort because of that. And there’s nothing saying you can’t book a photographer that’s a couple hours away from a bigger city that meets your dreams either. My wedding photographer is coming about an hour or so away from Toronto to my wedding and they waived their travel fees.
Post # 9
Small towns are beautiful! I’m getting married in a small town on a huge farm and I know with flowers and people and food and drinks it will be magical!!
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I am laughing at myself because we are from a big metro area, but we chose to drive 90 minutes away for a historic small town feel. The grass is always greener on the other side, right?
OP, obviously you know your town best, but I encourage you to think out of the box when it comes to planning your wedding. Rather than lamenting what it doesn’t have, can you embrace anything unique or quirky that it does have?
Post # 11
We’re leaving the Baltimore-area to elope in a tiny little place in VA that doesn’t even qualify as a town…it’s a village. LOL
Post # 12
this is kind of funny….my SO was the one who couldn’t come to grips with the fact that we weren’t going to have a wedding like in movies or magazines. He just didn’t get it. He’s come to terms with the idea that isn’t reality for most people 🙂