Post # 1
I have had my heart set on this particular venue as once we first got engaged. However knew it was above what we wanted to spend. The thing is, nothing even comes close to comparing to it. My question is – should I settle for an ok venue that’s cheaper, or have the venue I really really want. We have the money to spend, we just didn’t really want to! With the venue I love, everything is included – food, drinks, te whole manor to get ready that day, lunch on the day, accommodation, breakfast the next day – plus all the organizations and getting things ready. It would be a much more stress free venue. (Good for me bscause I suffer terribly from stress and anxiety)
so what would you do? Your dream location? Or your dream budget?
Post # 3
Well I know what we did but that isn’t to say that it is right for you.
When we started planning we had no idea how much weddings cost but I did have an idea of what I wanted. Our original budget was $25k and we quickly realized that this wasn’t going to cut it. As we could afford much more we went all out. I went from cutting costs to adding many. In the end we spent over $75k on our wedding and neither of us regret it for a moment. We had an amazing, over the top, dream wedding and we could afford it ourselves. It was our priority and our money so we did what we thought was best for us.
In the end you and your Fiance have to decide if you would rather have the perfect venue or keep the money for something else.
Post # 4
If I really loved it, I would cut back in other areas to be able to afford it or not go over budget. Maybe you could cut back on flowers, less expensive invites, friendors, finding vendors on Kijiji etc. I would find a way to make it happen.
Post # 5
@BabyBrain: Well, I guess it would comes down to personal financial goals and expectations. Fiance and I could have spent up to $25k on the wedding alone and we would have been comfortable financially, but not personally. I saw an amazing venue that including everything, but would have pushed our budget toward the $25k.
Instead, we decided that buying a home soon was a smarter financial investment for us. So we cut the budget down to $10k and we are sticking to it. We found a great venue, I will do some DIY stuff and it will work because at the end of the day, we will be married and still have $15k to put toward the home of our dreams.
I think it depends if you will be comfortable at the end of the day with spending that much more. It’s not always if you can afford something, but if you are comfortable affording it.
Do you two have upcoming big expenses that you would rather put that money towards? Like buying a home, going on a trip, having a child? If you are fine with spending the money and it wouldn’t affect those goals, then you could go for it.
Post # 6
The venue you really want seems to be better in a lot of ways which are priceless, such as being more hasslefree and organized. If we’re not talking a huge difference (by huge, I mean like $50k or something), then I would just pick the better one.
In our case, Darling Husband and I didn’t have a set budget but he did have a general number he wanted to spend (which in our case was totally unrealistic). We ended up spending way more but really, we had a beautiful, wonderful day and it was all paid in cash. Everything was exactly what we wanted and we were not happy with vendors that came in cheaper.
Post # 7
@jayjaybee: well, this “dream wedding” is still only going to push the budget to $10000. We were going to do super budget wedding. Everything diy. I just can’t decide between having a stress free day to worry about nothing but getting married and looking pretty Or saving money. We do want to buy a house eventually. But that depends on how soon after the wedding I fall pregnant. We may be renting for a whIle. That sAid, we will still shave $10000 in the bank after the wedding I want. Fiance says to not worry about the money Nd to have what I want. But I have always worried. About everything. I’m just so stuck. I don’t want to regret missing out on my dream.
@Future_Ms.Bostonceltics: most of my other things are being done by friends/family. My photographer is an old friend who is currently studyinphotography – so she and her boyfriend are both going to photograph for us for under $1000 for the entire day. And my aunty is an interior/events designer so she can do our flowers. 🙂
Post # 8
If you can afford it, I would go the stress free route. I think you will look back on a more relaxed day with happiness, that feeling will be better than the money you will save.
Post # 9
@lilbluebird: that’s right – I know I will be stressed enough on the day about anything there is to be stressed about. I have ruined other occasions for myself (like my 18th birthday) by stressing and then making myself ill. I was not brought up with money and never really thought I’d have a proper wedding. So now being told by Fiance to spend what I want is hard for me to swallow! I’m leaving toward the better venue – I just hope I don’t get negative comments from my parents about it
Post # 10
@BabyBrain: I was in the exact same position as you. But my venue was the one thing that I really wanted. It was actually disgustingly expensive, but you’re only doing this once. So you might as well do it right. While it is a lot of money, I know I will have zero regrets about it. You just have to be concious about the rest of your budget. Think about it this way, the venue essentailly takes care of pretty much everything for you. I definitely went with my dream venue, and didnt ‘completely’ ignore my dream budget. I’m cutting in areas that I dont care as much about. ie. if you’re not too particular with what kind of flowers, let the florist pick which ones are cheapest in april so long as the colours are right.
I vote dream venue!
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
If you can afford it and it’s important to you personally due to your anxiety issues – go for it!
Post # 12
It wont let me reply to anyone properly!!! So I’ll do my best to let you know who I’m talking to!
atao: my aunty can do our flowers for us, and my photographer is an old friend. So they are both places I’ve cute back. My dress (while it still was pretty much all I wanted to spend on a dress – it was half price, I can’t complain. Plus, it’s absolutely magnificent!!!!) Invites I will make myself, bonboneirs (how do I spell that? lol)I will do myself – lots of DIY on those types of things! Which equals lots of girly days with my beautiful bridal party! 😀
lolot: my aniety is a big reason I want to go with this venue – it’s a lot of money, but I don’t want to ruin this! you can always have another birthday party to enjoy, but I’m sorry. Only one wedding!!!
Post # 13
@BabyBrain: then it sounds like dream venue is the right choice!! 🙂
Post # 14
@atao: I know, I know. I just can’t get over the price!! I hate that Fiance is so supportive and tells me to do whatever I like – he wants to be married, he doesnt really care what kind of wedding we have, as long as I’m happy with it! Which is so sweet, and i love him for it. But I can’t handle these decisions all alone! haha
Post # 15
@BabyBrain: If your dream wedding is 10,000, what is the dream budget? How much of a difference are we talking about here?
It really depends on what’s most important to you.
Post # 16
@BabyBrain: It’ll take some time to settle in but you’ll adjust! Hopefully, your parents don’t say anything negative. Darling Husband didn’t grow up with a lot of money either and he catches a lot of flack from his folks when they think we’re being frivolous with our money. You can try not telling them the exact truth. We didn’t tell his parents the exact cost of everything in our wedding because they probably would’ve passed out!