- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Am I the only one who had this whole idea in her head of how a wedding should be/has to be? I have had to get over a few disappointments within my year of being engaged. Weddings aren’t all the fun and joy you see in TV and movies. For example:
#1: My bridesmaids would be my best buddies every single day until I got married.
I have hardly seen my bridesmaids in the past year. I had it in my head that we’d be doing stuff together all the time, they’d be as interested as I am, and when I needed someone right then and there, they’d appear like a genie or something.. I know that’s totally irrational but as a first-time bride (and hopefully only-time lol), that’s the image I had in my head when I thought about bridesmaids.
#2: I’d get the venues I wanted at affordable prices on the day I wanted.
The day after I got engaged, I started venue hunting. I knew exactly which church I wanted to be married in and which reception hall would make my dreams come true. Well, most churches around here, you have to be a member of them before you can use their sanctuary (I guess that’s what I get for not going back to church). We decided to go with one of the few who allowed outsiders to be married in their church. The reception hall of my dreams only holds 99 people. Our guest list reached 300 after my parents invited all of our extended family (we’re talking third cousins twice removed and their best friends), their coworkers, and their entire bible study. So after that little dream was squashed, I decided another venue was alright. And at this point in time, I’m happier that we went with this place instead. It’s truly beautiful.
#3: My fiance and I would be floating on Cloud #9 for our entire engagement.
We are not fighters. We’re both laidback, easy going, goofy people. But wedding planning has brought out the worst in both of us. It has introduced my innocent soon-to-be dear husband to the monster I can be when I get stressed out and it has taught me that “Wait, what? You don’t care what color my nails are on our wedding day?!” He doesn’t care about the little details. Wedding planning has brought out the pure female in me and the pure male in him. I guess it’s good to experience those things now lol.
#4: I’d lose weight and look PERFECT on my wedding day.
I am not overweight nor have I ever been. But of course I planned on losing an irrational amount of weight before my wedding, like a lot of brides. I’m 5’3″, 130 lbs. I lost 12 pounds which I’m happy with but I’m not going to be the supermodel bride on my wedding day and frankly, I don’t care at this moment. I like me for me (isn’t that a line in a song?) and I’m happy with my body. I love the way my dress looks on my frame and my fiance wants to marry the real me – not some hungry, pale, stressed out skeleton version of me.
#5: The wedding of my dreams from the time I was 5 will be brought to fruition.
Nope. The things I thought I wanted and the things I actually realized I wanted are totally different. And my preferences are still changing. When you are putting dollar signs to ideas, you start to prioritize. I thought I wanted to release butterflies from little boxes and hire a choreographer for my bridesmaids and me and rent a Rolls Royce to wisk us away to the city’s ritziest hotel and… Just kidding, I didn’t want to do any of those things lol. But there have been many things that I realized were not as important as others. It was more important to me to have a wonderful photographer and real flowers on the tables and in our bouquets than to have an extremely fancy served dinner.
Anyway.. I’m sure this is common knowledge for every bride doing her best to plan her wedding. I never expected to look forward to the day being over. I’m excited about it. But honestly, I’m counting down the days until my future husband and I wake up next to each other with rings on our fingers. That’s what I’m most excited about. 🙂