Post # 1
OK, so this is really embarrassing, but I am wondering if I am the only one out there. Have any of you bees had dreams in which you cheat on your Fiance (not just a dream about hooking up with someone else, like in the dream, you are still engaged but cheat anyway)? Though the contexts and extent of the actions have differed, I have dreamed this twice in the last three weeks. I know I can’t really help it, but it makes me feel guilty, and Fiance would be sooooo upset if he were to find out! I am definitely obviously not consciously thinking about cheating on my Fiance, and our intimate life is great, so this is just really weird. Anyone else?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Yeah, I’ve had a few dreams like that. I feel a little bit guilty too, but I think that maybe it’s my subconscious telling me that it’s natural to find other men attractive, even when your’e engaged or married. And since I’d never cheat on him in real life, I don’t feel that bad.
Post # 4
Yup, sure have. It’s a dream, so I don’t really freak out. I think maybe talking to your Fiance about it might help you feel better. Or not, depending on whether he would feel slighted. But that’s what I do!
Marriage is a big commitment for everyone, so I think it is normal to have anxiety about it that could come out in a dream like that.
Post # 5
I’ve had those dreams, and I find them rather amusing. The dreams that freak me out are the ones where we break up!
Post # 6
I’ve had both – me cheating and FH cheating. And the one where he cheated, he wanted the other woman to move in with us. I was mad at him all day, even though it was my dream! And I told him about it and he said “Wow – dream me has some balls, huh?”
Post # 7
Ex Libris — I’ve never dreamed about breaking up! I guess that can balance out my guilt for these dreams haha.
Wow, I was so surprised to check the poll and see 7 yes and 0 no! I feel much better.
Post # 8
Sadly, yes I have had these dreams. They are very upsetting. During the dream I’m always thinking what I’m doing is OK and when I wake up I’m totally freaked out. Of course this would never happen in real life, but it really upsets me that I have the dreams and of course I would never tell Fiance.
Post # 9
After the wedding in real life, I had a dream that it was before the wedding and I went on vacation with my family to Mexico. I was really excited about the wedding and since my Fiance didn’t come with me, I jumped the gun and married a Mexican man. When the Fiance came down to Mexico, I told him about it, but assured him that we hadn’t consumated the marriage. Weirdest dream, ever. Lol!
Post # 10
Yes I have had these dreams. I definitely feel a sense of guilt in the morning, but then shortly after realize that it didnt really happen and it was just a dream! I think it’s natural to have dreams like this – like a PP said it is probably just our subconsciouses telling us that it’s normal to be attracted to other people. As long as it doesn’t happen in real life I think you’re fine!
Post # 11
Haha- I actually had a dream this morning about him cheating on me with some short blonde hair chick. LOL I woke up wanting to ask him who she is. 🙂
Post # 12
First let me say that I think it’s perfectly natural and you’re not a bad person at all, so don’t worry. I don’t think I’ve had any dreams like that since I’ve been married, but I did have some kind of a dream along those lines while I was engaged. I can’t remember the details, and while I did feel kind of guilty, I brushed it off as just what it was because I know I would never cheat on hubby in real life (I don’t think I was engaged in the dream though, but can’t remember).
I will say that I had an odd dream the other night about an old friend that I had a HUGE crush on before I met hubby. We never dated, but he knew how I felt about him. He moved away and I haven’t talked to him anymore, which is fine because I have a new life now, but the dream I had was unexpected and kind of out of the blue. I dreamed that he and I were sitting in a car, and he was SO excited to see me again (I was excited to see him too) and he just kept talking and talking about life in general, and when he finally slowed down enough, I said “Look” and showed him my wedding ring. His face froze, he buried his face in the steering wheel, and said something along the lines of “I knew this would happen! Man, I am so stupid” and I felt bad for him because I knew he was hoping that I was still single. We did not do anything in the dream except talk, and it left me with a sad feeling when I woke up because I had felt sad in the dream lol.
I don’t know. Dreams are sooo weird, and can feel VERY real. Just wanted to share 😉
Post # 13
Hahaha Vintage2010- I’ve had dreams about him cheating on me and catching him and I actually have to talk myself out of being angry at him when I wake up! I know it’s irrational, but I get sooooo mad at those dreams!
Post # 14
Don’t worry, it’s not symbolic, most modern scientists and psychologists will tell you that dreams have more to do with your brain “cleaning house” so to speak – every little thing that flitted through your head in the time you were awake, most of which you didn’t consciously register – has the ability to show up in your dreams.
It is crazy weird to wake up with that guilty feeling though! I’ve woken up mad as well, because I’ve had dreams that R cheated on me.
Post # 15
Yeah I had a dream just last night that I was getting it on with my dentist, who I don’t find the least bit attractive and who I haven’t seen in 6 months. Random! THEN I had a dream that I was in the Bad Girls house….they’re just dreams, no big deal!
Post # 16
I have had dreams about breaking up, and about him cheating on me, and me cheating on him. The dreams in which I cheat on him are the most bizarre, becuase they are almost always with one of his friends who I am not even remotely attracted to. I usually don’t share those dreams with him, becuase I don’t want to upset him unecessarily, especially where they don’t mean anything. The only ones I share are the ones in which we break up. I always wake up incredibly sad, and then I snuggle closer to Fiance to feel better.