(Closed) Dreams about an old crush?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oooooh I have had those too!  They’re harmless though.  It probably just means that you’re in a time in your life right now where you are committing yourself to one person and one person only.  Just make sure that taking the plunge with your Fiance is really what you want to do.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I had those dreams ALL THE TIME leading up to our wedding. When I talked to my husband about it though (he’s a psychologist) we both thought it was probably a reflection of my internal transition into a new chapter of life. The “unfinished” business from my exes/crushes kept coming up because internally I was making peace between them and my decision to marry my husband. I know it can be anxiety-producing, but it doesn’t mean anything. (:

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

When I have nightmares, this is one of the more frequent types I have and it always leaves me feeling really disturbed and annoyed!! The thought of ever doing something like that to the boy isn’t bearable. I tell the boy about it, and he (thankfully) doesn’t seem to weirded out by the fact. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am so glad someone has this issue too.  I have a recurring dream like the one you described every once in awhile, but when it happens, I usually dream about it 3 or 4 times a week every few months. I don’t think it means anything, but it really weird me out.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I would disagree that these dreams “don’t mean anything.” They do mean something! They do not, however, mean that your relationship is doomed. 🙂

The dreams are a manifestation of your unconscious mind making sure that you want to make the choice that you are making—it shows that your mind is evaluating all your options whether you like it or not. It can really help to talk about these dreams, but I wouldn’t necessarily do it with your fiance. It might really hurt his feelings, which is totally unnecessary because the dreams definitely don’t mean that you are doomed. I have had this type of dream quite frequently too…I have dealt with it by understand it’s just part of how my personality works. I am anxious by nature and often check and re-check everything—so this is my unconscious mind re-checking. Just remember that how things are in your dreams does not coincide with reality! In my dreams, the previous relationships that had all sorts of awful things in them in reality are all sunshine and roses. Talking with someone and remembering how things really were will bring you back to reality and even has the potential to renew your commitment to your fiance because you will be that much more certain you’re making the right choice.

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