Post # 1
Lately in the last 2 years or so I’ve been having dreams about an old high school crush. We never dated, and we don’t even talk anymore really. But I always have dreams that I am cheating on my SO with this old crush. I always tell him in the dream that I can’t be with him because of my SO, but we’ll always end up making out or something. It’s gotten really annoying because the last week I’ve had this same dream 4 times! Anyone else ever have something similar?? How do I make it stop? Anyone a good dream interpreter and know what it means? I feel so embarrassed, I’d never want my man to know about this.
Post # 3
Oooooh I have had those too! They’re harmless though. It probably just means that you’re in a time in your life right now where you are committing yourself to one person and one person only. Just make sure that taking the plunge with your Fiance is really what you want to do.
Post # 4
I had those dreams ALL THE TIME leading up to our wedding. When I talked to my husband about it though (he’s a psychologist) we both thought it was probably a reflection of my internal transition into a new chapter of life. The “unfinished” business from my exes/crushes kept coming up because internally I was making peace between them and my decision to marry my husband. I know it can be anxiety-producing, but it doesn’t mean anything. (:
Post # 5
When I have nightmares, this is one of the more frequent types I have and it always leaves me feeling really disturbed and annoyed!! The thought of ever doing something like that to the boy isn’t bearable. I tell the boy about it, and he (thankfully) doesn’t seem to weirded out by the fact.
Post # 6
I am so glad someone has this issue too. I have a recurring dream like the one you described every once in awhile, but when it happens, I usually dream about it 3 or 4 times a week every few months. I don’t think it means anything, but it really weird me out.
Post # 7
ohhh that does make sense. thanks. I have dreams all the time, but usually the standard “have a final exam but never been to that class before, and i can’t find the room, even though i haven’t been a student since 2006” no one else around me has ever had this cheating one though so it’s been a mystery to me.
I love to talk about my dreams with my SO, because he says he never has dreams…but never felt like I could share the cheating one. Hmm, maybe if I do talk about it I can come to peace with it, maybe it will go away.
Post # 8
I would disagree that these dreams “don’t mean anything.” They do mean something! They do not, however, mean that your relationship is doomed. 🙂
The dreams are a manifestation of your unconscious mind making sure that you want to make the choice that you are making—it shows that your mind is evaluating all your options whether you like it or not. It can really help to talk about these dreams, but I wouldn’t necessarily do it with your fiance. It might really hurt his feelings, which is totally unnecessary because the dreams definitely don’t mean that you are doomed. I have had this type of dream quite frequently too…I have dealt with it by understand it’s just part of how my personality works. I am anxious by nature and often check and re-check everything—so this is my unconscious mind re-checking. Just remember that how things are in your dreams does not coincide with reality! In my dreams, the previous relationships that had all sorts of awful things in them in reality are all sunshine and roses. Talking with someone and remembering how things really were will bring you back to reality and even has the potential to renew your commitment to your fiance because you will be that much more certain you’re making the right choice.
Post # 9
i did decide to tell him because i figured it was just a dream. i agree with those of you that said that it’s probably because of entering a new stage of life and comitting to him. but i figured, he can’t really get mad, because i would never actually do that to him.
well guess what? after telling him i endured 20 minutes of 7th grade style teasing: “kericita and mike sitting in a tree…..k – i – s – s – i – n – g…etc”
so I guess it was all okay after all. I feel like such a dweeb now! well he thought it was hilarious and i didn’t have the dream last night so hopefully i can keep that dream away.