Post # 1
I don’t know what my deal is. Last night and in the recent past, I’ve had dreams about kissing other guys. Last night I dreamt of this guy I went to college with who is TOTALLY gay being so into me! He designed a display for me in this barn/basement. We made out but I remembered my SO and didn’t go any further with him–though I liked the thrill of romance and really wanted to! Before that I had a dream about kissing this guy from my past who I always wanted to but we were never both single at the same place and time.
It’s just odd because last night (in real life) SO was working on my car for 4 hours. I was with him to help him (afterall, it’s my car not his) and I was admiring his body. For some reason, the dirt and grease was really sexy to me. Later we showered and I, uh, returned the favor.
So I guess what I’m saying is that this dream isn’t revealing my inner feelings about losing the spark…because there was plenty of spark last night!
Any dream interpreters out there?
Post # 3
@missjuli: I have totally had a dream wherein my SO cheated and I was devastated… but he has NEVER cheated or even given me reason to believe he did. I told him about it, and he was like… don’t worry, never ever! Just really unsettling is all!
Post # 4
I have had dreams where my husband cheated on me and where I have cheated on my husband. Sometimes I know the person, sometimes its an old boyfriend, or sometimes its some random guy. Most of the time in my dreams I remeber about my husband like he is in the back of my head and then when I wake up I feel so guilty like have done something wrong. Or if I had a dream that my Husband cheated I wake up angry with him…..
Neither of us has ever cheated on the other, I never worry about my husband cheating and there are a ton of sparks between us.. We are not insicure about our relationship, I dont know why we have thse dreams but its nice to know that others have this same problem!!
Post # 5
I wouldn’t read into it honestly. I have risque dreams all the time – sometimes about Fiance but often about random other people. Sometimes I even tell him, like “OMG guess who I had a dream about last night?” and we’ll laugh because it’s not anyone I would be attracted to. I think the mind just combines recent thoughts with old memories into a weird mish mosh. I don’t think it means you are unsatisfied or unhappy – I obviously love Fiance dearly too! But I think it is also human nature for the mind to wander, even in the happiest of monogamous relationships. There’s no law that said you can’t find other people attractive – as long as you don’t act on it of course
Post # 6
There’s no law that said you can’t find other people attractive – as long as you don’t act on it of course.
ZOMG! I always tell people the same thing!
Thanks everyone for helping me feel not so weird. Dreams are funny–maybe God gave us the ability to dream so we’d have funny stories to tell.
SO and I were planning the menu for the week and I bought a box of whole wheat pasta specificall for a dish I planned. Then I had a dream that he was in the kitchen when I came home and he gave me a taste of something he had in the crockpot. It was my pasta coated with honey!! As if that wasn’t a weird enough combination, in a slow cooker no less, it was completely against my plan for the week.
I said “That was for a dish on Thursday!” and he seemed to not care, just blew me off with an, “Oh. Oops.” Then I said, “You were with me when I put it on the menu. Do my plans mean nothing to you???”
He said, “Nope.” and walked away.
In real life, I wake up and he leans in to kiss me good morning but I pull away in anger. Hahahahaha!
Post # 7
I wake up angry about things I’ve dreamed too. I always feel like such a dork. Glad I’m not alone at least. 🙂
Post # 8
I’ve had those dreams too! Usually I can brush them off but sometimes I get upset at my dream-self for being a floozy.
Are you taking melatonin or any other sleep aids? Those can cause some really freaky dreams.
Post # 9
Don’t worry, tha same happens to me and my Darling Husband.
He someyimes waked up and says “i dreamed i had sex with someone else, i feel so guilty”
and i just tell him to hush.
No big deal, you cant control what you dream.
Maybe you’ve been frisky lately and that’s why you have erotic dreams (that happens to me a lot) but you can’t help who you dream about.
Don’t worry about it