Post # 1
Does any of you other bees have weird recurring dreams about the waiting process?
Last night was the fourth or fifth time that I’ve woken up a few hours before I usually wake having dreams that I’m looking at rings online. Nothing special, just looking at page after page of rings… and it feels really repetitive and endless. It reminds me of the kind of dreams I used to have in high school and college, where I’d dream of doing a never-ending assignment of math problems! The other times this has happened has been after I’ve looked at rings online that day, but last night was just out of the blue… I hadn’t looked at any. Needless to say, I’ve steered clear of ring-browsing today because I want some good sleep to make up for last night!
Every now and again, I’ll have a dream that my SO catches me looking at something wedding-related on the internet or tv, but the worst is when I dream that we’ve actually done something related to engagement — had a conversation about it or looked at rings together — and I wake up and realize it didn’t happen.
I didn’t think I was obsessing that much about the waiting process, but when I look back at my dreams over the course of the past two or three months, things feel pretty wack 😛 Does this ever happen to you?
Post # 3
This has happened to me several times over the past month.
I have dreamed twice about the proposal, and both times the dream included a hideous/weird ring (one was huge and bronze-coloured, the other one was made of black paper WTF??). In another dream, we were engaged and blissfully happy, then I woke up and realised it was a dream 🙁
I hope this is a signal that our subconscious minds sense that something is about to happen 😛
Post # 4
I also have recurring dreams about ugly rings!!! I’ve had like 3 or 4 at least. So weird! Maybe i’ll google the meaning of this…
Post # 5
I dream about the proposal alllllll the time! It is sad sometimes, when I wake up and realize that it was a dream, but I know it will happen soon…. But now even HE is starting to dream about it! Over the weekend he told me he dreamt about us getting married! Now when is he going to make it a reality???? hmmm…
Post # 6
I did a little google search, I didnt’ find anything really insightful about what dreaming about an ugly ring, or the proposal process means (besides you’re anticipating it of course) but i was astounded at the number of girls writing in about dreaming about getting an ugly ring. Interesting!
Post # 7
ha ha! thanks for posting this, i’ve been dreaming more and more about getting engaged and married. last night i had a dream that my boyfriend was arranging our wedding but completely skipping a proposal! i woke up confused after that one!
i dream often about the ring. usually its a tacky ring and my most memorable dream was when i dreamed that it was a flashing plastic ring. it initially looked like it was in a Tiffany box but the ring was gross! its was like this toy ring flashing green and red.
i studied psychology for 3 years and know a lot about free association. my interpretation of my dream was that i might not get the ring from anywhere i expect to and that the green and red colours might indicate a proposal at christmas? try and use free association on your dreams, what sticks out what season is it, do u recognise where you are? have fun with it, its got to entertain us while we are waiting!
Post # 8
I’ve been having engagement dreams/nighmares. It’s driving me crazy, ’cause I don’t want to talk to you SO about it and him think I’m totally obsessing over getting engaged. I just wake up annoyed all the time with it.
Post # 9
Oh yep… I know the feeling! My SO will roll over and realize I’m awake and ask what’s going on, and I can’t really describe it because it will make me look insane 😛
It’s good to know I’m not the only one awake at night dreaming crazy stuff!
Wow… the selection of ugly rings in these dreams are pretty impressive (especially the light-up red and green one and the black paper one…). Wonder what kind of crazy ones I’m going to end up dreaming up if this trend keeps going?
Post # 10
@BlueRidgeMere: I told Boyfriend or Best Friend about the ugly bronze ring, and he just laughed and said that if I don’t behave he will get me me a ring like that haha. He’s so adorable 🙂
Post # 11
I have had quite a few dreams about the actual proposal and I had the most vivid dream about walking down the aisle and could actually feel the happiness as I did so. I woke up and just laid there for ages going “wow” because it was so real.
I think it is all just our sub conscious telling us that we want this real soon!
Post # 12
i agree that ur dreams often reflect wats ur thinkin abt subconciously..
Post # 13
i’ve been having a lot of dreams lately too. i think it definantly reflects what we are thinking about subconsciously.
Post # 14
UGH, woke up in the middle of the night with a nightmare… guess that’s what I get for posting a message about dreams in the first place?
Dreamed that my SO broke up with me because I was nagging him about getting married too much. Never mind that in real life, I’ve made it a personal policy to never ever be the first one to bring it up and that I’ve never once asked him for an idea of his general timeline… in the dream, that’s what got it all started. I’m so glad he was here with me when I woke up, even though I couldn’t tell him what the dream was about — at least he cuddled with me and told me not to be worried about whatever I’d dreamed.
Yesterday, we were working late at the office and he was putting some pictures on a newspaper page — one of the pictures was of a local fine arts center named after someone with the same last name as his. We were joking around – I asked him when he donated an arts center, he said he probably would have donated something else instead and that I was more the fine-arts type than him, and I said “no, then it’d be the my-last-name center…”. He said “naw, not always,” then “is that you telling me I need to get my butt in gear and hurry up? We’ve only been dating a year. Are you going to run off on me?” — which he’s said a couple of times in the past week, since I got hired for a new job at a different office that starts in August.
So even though it sounds like my new job situation (which means not working with him) may have lit a fire under him and he *still* is the one who brings it up all the time, I think I’m still worried about him feeling stressed and pressured over it, even though feeling the pressure (hopefully not from me nagging!) may be what gets him to the sticking point.
Blarrrrrrrgh. Sorry this turned into a novel… just had to do some post-shower rambling to get over it 🙁
Post # 15
I feel your pain on the “only dating a year”…*sigh*
And about the dreams, I’ve had many many marriage/wedding dreams since being with my Boyfriend or Best Friend. I started literallly dreaming about getting married and my wedding day just 3 months into our relationship! Before I even knew I wanted to marry him.
I also had a dream that some random european guy (who I don’t know in real life) proposed to me and I accepted, after my current Boyfriend or Best Friend took too long so I was single again 🙁
Also a nightmare that I cheated on my Boyfriend or Best Friend. Which I would never do!
I also had a dream that my Boyfriend or Best Friend was proposing and my mom was coming over at the same time, and we had to hide the ring becuase he hadn’t talked to her yet. And a dream that my Boyfriend or Best Friend was playing with my niece and nephew at my dad’s house. They all live thousands of miles away from each other, by the way…
He’s literally the “guy of my dream”, I guess 🙂
Post # 16
Another one who has “only been dating a year” – my SO comparing himself to my friends who are marrying their childhood sweethearts who were together seven years is NOT helpful LOL. I had the worst dream the other night – luckily my SO saw the bright side of it.
I was standing at the alter waiting with SO to say our vows and our guests would NOT stop talking. I counted down from 10. No dice, the guests kept talking. I cleared my throat and said loudly that I was still waiting for quiet. Didn’t work. I stood there pointedly checking my watch and the guests finally started to be quiet.
Could you tell that I’m a teacher? It’s my professional and wedding nightmares combined!