Post # 1
I apologize in advance for the very serious, very un-fun, very Not Wedding Related nature of this post. But I had a pretty intense dream last night and I just need to let it out and (possibly) hear some similar stories from other bees.
My mother passed away suddenly on July 3 of this year. She was my inspiration, my best friend, the absolutely most amazing, strong woman I’ve had the honor of knowing. Thankfully, to help me cope with this loss, I’ve “felt” her presence around me often. These are mostly “signs” I feel she sends me (which, again, could very well be a coping mechanism, but it has helped me do just that… cope).
In any event, last night, I had a very realistic and emotional dream regarding my mother. (Now, bear with me, I know this is going to sound bizarre…) She and I both knew she wasn’t supposed to be there (in public, I guess?), because everyone knew–she and I included–that she had passed on. But she looked the most beautiful I had/have ever seen her and she hugged me and cried with me and told me goodbye. I never got to say goodbye to my mother, so I figure this is way of me… getting closure? I don’t know, I’m quite confused. This dream really shook me.
I’ve never thought of myself as a spiritual person; however, I’m really starting to become that way. Do I sound absolutely nuts? Has anyone else had experiences similar to mine? Did you ever “get over” them?
Sorry, Bees… just needed to let it out and hopefully gain a little insight.
Thank you 🙂
Post # 3
@jwdesiree: That could have just been her way of letting you know that she didn’t forget about you & that she is okay. It could also just be your mind giving you closure. I think it kind of depends on how you want to look at it. Personally, I believe that there are things people can’t explain. Hope you got the closure you needed.
Post # 4
I’m really sorry about your mom passing. It sounds like this is your way of getting closure. It sounds like a very nice dream actually. You do not sound nuts at all.
I had a similar experience before my best friend passed on. I dreamed that he told me I was going to get pregnant and have a little boy. I went to see him the next day, while he was in hospice and I promised him that if I got pregnant with a boy, I’d name his middle name after him. Well literally the next month (first opportunity) I got pregnant with a baby boy.
I believe that we all have some sort of spiritual sense about us. Maybe this was just the first time you got in touch with yours.
Post # 5
@cbco: @Schatzie821: Both of you… thank you. Thank you so much.
Post # 6
@jwdesiree: Welcome. I hope things get easier for you.
Post # 7
@jwdesiree: There are a LOT of spiritual people out there who were never spiritual until they suffered a major loss.
I think it’s perfectly normal and very touching!
Post # 8
@BrandNewBride: Phew, thank you! I was really hoping I didn’t sound like a crazy person. It’s just so hard wondering if you’re just imagining these things to make yourself feel better or if there really is something… else… doing it. Definitely an internal battle!
Post # 9
@jwdesiree: I am so sorry for the loss of your best friend, your mother.
My dad is my best friend & I have been so afraid of losing him my entire life (literally, I would worry constantly since I was a very small child), so my heart goes out to you in every way.
I’m really not sure what I believe as far as passed loved ones coming back to share their spirit & final messages with us, but I do know that you were meant to have that dream, & hopefully it serves to give you the closure that you need. Even if it was just your conscience relieving you from the burden on not getting to say goodbye, I know your dream is something your mom would have wanted you to have. Always remember how much she loved you…
Post # 10
I think it’s beautiful that you had that dream and you’re lucky to have had it.
I lost my twin brother 7 years ago and I was comforted by some very spiritual experiences soon after he passed. I chose to believe that they were real signs from the universe telling me that everything was okay…and he was at peace.
As time passes on, those experiences don’t feel as comforting as they once did. I miss my brother, I am angry that he died, I’m afraid of death, and I want more signs that he is okay….that death is okay.
I question God’s existance and really struggle with my spirituality…but the other day I begged the universe for a sign of some sort. That night my brother was in my dreams. I don’t care how or why he was there. All that matters is that I got a visit. It made me smile.
Take comfort in the visits you get from your mother in your dreams. I choose to believe that it’s real. She was there.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Post # 11
Yes, I believe our subconscious mind processes through sleep and dreams. Your dream sounds beautiful! Nothing to “do” but take comfort. I’m so sorry for your loss, though.
Post # 12
@MrsSkeletonKey: @mousiegirl: @BlondeMissMolly: And, again, thanks. MrsSkeletonKey, it really was the biggest shock I have ever had in my life. She was 48 and healthy. I never expected it. Not to say that your pain isn’t any less real, but, please, maybe try to worry less and give your dad some extra hugs/”I love yous” just… because 🙂
And, Mousiegirl, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I couldn’t even imagine losing my brother or sister, let alone my twin. I’ve heard so much about the special bond that twins share… I can only imagine it feels like half of you is missing. Thank you for your kind words. I will take them to heart and instead of questioning my dream, I will treasure it (and welcome more) 🙂
BlondeMissMolly… I will do nothing but be thankful for her “visit” … whether it be the workings of my subconscious or moms saying “hello” ! 🙂
Post # 13
When my brother passed away I had a very strong feeling that he was still around – present around us but only felt instead of seen.
There have been a number of ‘signals’ I’ve experienced, like you mentioned, along with just that general feeling. And I’ve had really significant-feeling dreams after he ‘passed away’ wherein we both know he’s no longer in the physical world with us, and he’s been reassuring me that he’s ok as I’ve been an emotional wreck.
In one of the dreams, the night before we were going to bury his body, he had told me not to worry and that he’s ‘with the good ones’. In another, a while later, we were talking at the kitchen table and I broke down crying; he was really frustrated that I was still crying and said he’d stop visiting if all I was going to do was be sad. He insisted he was alright.
Since then, the dreams have been mostly really nice, happy dreams where I wake up so thankful to have spent time with him. I love dreaming about him and take them to be visits… Could just be a coping strategy, but I’m really grateful to have them.
I’ve never been particularly religious, but I’ve definitely felt a larger spiritual awareness, I suppose, after my brother passed.
I completely identify, OP. I’m really sorry for your loss. I never got to say bye to my brother either – I hope your dreams continue and can provide a great deal of comfort to you as well.
Post # 14
@lorelai: This was beautiful. Absoultely beautiful. And just put the perfect last bit of reassurance I needed on top of what the other posters have graciously given me.
I’m looking forward to seeing my mom again. Thank you, because I wasn’t feeling that way this morning.
Post # 15
I’m so sorry about your mom, OP. One of my close friends lost her mother unexpectedly, and I’ve seen how hard that can be. It takes time, but it does get easier. As for the dreams, my mother had a similar experience when her cat and her sister died fairly close together. The cat passed first, and my mom said she felt the cat come to sleep with her every night, just as he did in life. Then after my aunt passed, my mother had a dream (after having some strange experiences for a few weeks) that my aunt came in through the sliding glass window in the back yard, got the cat, and said a last good bye, leaving out the back door with the cat. The weird experiences stopped and my mom never felt the cat again. My mother isn’t a particularly spiritual person. Nor does she believe in ghosts, per say, but she swears this was real. I had a similar experience to yours, except it was a visit from my uncle who was sort of guided by my grandmother. They died within a year of each other. I wasn’t close to my uncle, but he told me some stuff to say to my mom….really weird. Took me about a year to tell her it happened. I know this kind of stuff is weird, and regardless of what you believe, I think you should take what comfort you can get out of it. Personally, I was upset after my weird dream thing, but it was because after my grandma died I wished so hard to see her in my dreams, and I never did. Instead I got a brief “hello, how are you?” and a bunch of info that wasn’t for me from my uncle, who I didn’t even like. Go figure.
Post # 16
My favorite uncle passed away- WAY too young- 6 years ago. He comes to me in my dreams. It always provides me great comfort.