Post # 1
hi bees! this is my first post! 🙂
i just came from my first alterations appointments and am kind of freaking out-it did not got how i thought it would. I went in wanting to: take in the bust, shorten the train, hem, bustle and add something to help the straps be less irritating (the sales girl said it was possible). WELL, my seamstress said the bust just cannot be taken in-just add cups, said I don’t need a hem and was very reluctant to shorten the train. and let’s not even talk about how expensive this will be! She was kind of dismissive and made me feel actually feel dumb! I am concerned because i feel the bust does not fit right and it sure if cups will fix it. And the train is just so long-there is so much dress. but now I am rethinking it. She also said there isn’t anything to add to the straps for comfort. So now I am so confused and clueless. help bees, what do you think?
This topic was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by kixbean.
Post # 2
She doesn’t sound like a very experienced seamstress. You should make an appointment with someone else. Those are not difficult alterations.
Post # 3
I agree with PP. Find another seamstress. Use yelp or other reviews to make sure they are good.I woud not want to work with someone like that.
As for the actual alterations, are you wearing your wedding shoes in the photos or standing on a box or anything? The dress could be the proper length. For the bust, cups could potentially fix that. It dos not look super big, just a little wrinkly. For the straps, what is uncomfortable about them? The top of my dress is almost identical, but I had a tea length, so it could be the weight of the dress that is making it feel that way.
Post # 4
First, your dress is beautiful! Second, your seamstress sounds rude and not very knowledgeable. I agree with PP, find another who hears your concerns!
Post # 5
I agree with everyone above, take it for a second opinion elsewhere!
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Find a new seamstress! If you tell us where you’re located, someone may have a recommendation…
I did MAJOR alterations to my dress when I got married, and a qualified seamstress definitely wont ever tell you that what you want is “wrong”. I literally hacked off more than 1/2 the bottom of my dress, and it was a lot more complicated than yours because it was lace to the hem.
As for the alterations you mentioned, I would recommend trying cups first, I thought the same thing in my dress and my seamstress made me at least try them and it made all the difference in the world. The rest are very simple requests, I don’t see why any of them would be something to argue over on her part.
For reference, this is the progression I went through, so needless to say, my seamstress and I got to know eachother quite well!
Post # 7
yes, find a different seamstress, sounds to me like she just doesn’t want to work. Did this person actually do anything to your dress? Find out what a consultation rate is for your area and pay her that and be done with her. I am a seamstress and those are not difficult alterations.
Bust–it looks like it does fit in the pictures but if you want it to fit differently there is always a way to accomplish it.
Hem & Train–can absolutely be shortened. Wear the shoes you will wear that day or ones the same height. The skirt will be pinned, excess cut off or turned under depending on how much, and stitched/serged/merrowed, depending on what was originally done.
Bustle–there are many options for this. its a matter of what you want the bustle to look like, placing buttons & loops/ribbons on inside of skirts to be tied together to create a bustle, there are tons of options. If you don’t know what you want, google it so you have some ideas for your next seamstress.
Straps–can be covered on inside with soft, nude mesh so they are more comfortable for you.
I get so sad, frustrated and mad when I hear stories like this. There are experienced, accomplished seamstresses that will do what is asked of them and the ones like this lady give the rest of us/them a bad name. If you can leave a review anywhere, please let others know that she wasn’t very helpful. Look for reviews online, check with friends/neighbors/coworkers who have recently got married for seamstress recommendations, then check for reviews. You should also be able to call and speak to them or email them about what you want done, to get a sense of what they are able to do. Dont be afraid to ask for references, brides they have worked with that you can call, and/ pictures of their work.
Good luck bee! Beautiful dress!
Post # 8
My dress was very itchy. My seamstress had added a clear -bra like straps to pad around arms and it’s perfect. Dress sits more comfortbaly and it’s not visible !
Post # 9
I second (third? fourth?) the idea to get another opinion. I do agree with her opinion that cups would help with the bust.
Post # 10
any my dress was itchy to the point of rubbing off some of my skin! It can be done !
Post # 11
Thank you so much everyone! The funny thing is, she was recommended to me and she has excellent Yelp reviews. The dress is with her right now, unfortunately. It didn’t even seem like an option to take it with me when I left–and I was still processing everything when I left, I didn’t really think to take it with me. It sounds like maybe cups will help with the bust area. It’s not particually big, but there is definitely empty space inside the cup area. The straps are itchy and make my shoulders red, so something should be done about that, I think. Also, as far as the length goes, I will be wearing flats, so the photos are pretty accurate in terms of length.
Post # 12
Yep, what PPs have said.
Never work with someone who makes you feel dumb–that’s unnecessary and says all sorts of bad things about the person.