(Closed) Dress Alteration appt freak out

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
9524 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

She doesn’t sound like a very experienced seamstress. You should make an appointment with someone else. Those are not difficult alterations.

Post # 3
1294 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I agree with PP. Find another seamstress. Use yelp or other reviews to make sure they are good.I woud not want to work with someone like that.

As for the actual alterations, are you wearing your wedding shoes in the photos or standing on a box or anything? The dress could be the proper length. For the bust, cups could potentially fix that. It dos not look super big, just a little wrinkly. For the straps, what is uncomfortable about them? The top of my dress is almost identical, but I had a tea length, so it could be the weight of the dress that is making it feel that way. 

Post # 4
836 posts
Busy bee

First, your dress is beautiful! Second, your seamstress sounds rude and not very knowledgeable. I agree with PP, find another who hears your concerns!

Post # 5
139 posts
Blushing bee

I agree with everyone above, take it for a second opinion elsewhere!

Post # 6
3470 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Find a new seamstress! If you tell us where you’re located, someone may have a recommendation… 

I did MAJOR alterations to my dress when I got married, and a qualified seamstress definitely wont ever tell you that what you want is “wrong”.  I literally hacked off more than 1/2 the bottom of my dress, and it was a lot more complicated than yours because it was lace to the hem.  

As for the alterations you mentioned, I would recommend trying cups first, I thought the same thing in my dress and my seamstress made me at least try them and it made all the difference in the world.  The rest are very simple requests, I don’t see why any of them would be something to argue over on her part.  


For reference, this is the progression I went through, so needless to say, my seamstress and I got to know eachother quite well! 


Post # 7
2171 posts
Buzzing bee

yes, find a different seamstress, sounds to me like she just doesn’t want to work. Did this person actually do anything to your dress? Find out what a consultation rate is for your area and pay her that and be done with her. I am a seamstress and those are not difficult alterations. 

Bust–it looks like it does fit in the pictures but if you want it to fit differently there is always a way to accomplish it. 

Hem & Train–can absolutely be shortened. Wear the shoes you will wear that day or ones the same height. The skirt will be pinned, excess cut off or turned under depending on how much, and stitched/serged/merrowed, depending on what was originally done. 

Bustle–there are many options for this. its a matter of what you want the bustle to look like, placing buttons & loops/ribbons on inside of skirts to be tied together to create a bustle, there are tons of options. If you don’t know what you want, google it so you have some ideas for your next seamstress.

Straps–can be covered on inside with soft, nude mesh so they are more comfortable for you. 

I get so sad, frustrated and mad when I hear stories like this. There are experienced, accomplished seamstresses that will do what is asked of them and the ones like this lady give the rest of us/them a bad name. If you can leave a review anywhere, please let others know that she wasn’t very helpful. Look for reviews online, check with friends/neighbors/coworkers who have recently got married for seamstress recommendations, then check for reviews. You should also be able to call and speak to them or email them about what you want done, to get a sense of what they are able to do. Dont be afraid to ask for references, brides they have worked with that you can call, and/ pictures of their work. 

Good luck bee! Beautiful dress!

Post # 8
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My dress was very itchy. My seamstress had added a clear -bra like straps to pad around arms and it’s perfect. Dress sits more comfortbaly and it’s not visible !

Post # 9
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I second (third? fourth?) the idea to get another opinion.  I do agree with her opinion that cups would help with the bust.

Post # 10
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

any my dress was itchy to the point of rubbing off some of my skin! It can be done !

Post # 12
9416 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

Yep, what PPs have said.  

Never work with someone who makes you feel dumb–that’s unnecessary and says all sorts of bad things about the person.

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