Dress alterations not going well–need help figuring out what to ask for!

posted 2 months ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

Couple questions – what undergarments are you wearing? Does the dress have a lot of structure (e.g. boning) or not?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

So I see two issues.

The first is that the cups are too big (yellow arrow). They need to be replaced and darts likely need to be added to bring in the fabric underneath your cups. The store needs to pay to outsource this work to someone who can handle it. I would not let their seamstress do it since she already admitted she cannot handle it.

The second issue is where the blue arrow is pointing. She did a poor job of taking the dress in and caused it to pucker out (unevenly) at your hips. I would not let her fix this either. She obviously is not very good.

I would also try it on next time with a long line strapless bra, not just a regular strapless bra. 

Finally, a little trick my seamstress taught me. Have the bottom most layers taken in an inch shorter than the outer layers so you don’t trip over your dress. Removable straps might also be a nice thing to have for dancing – you can decide later if you want to use them.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Did she remove fabric from the skirt at the hips level? Because that’s the main issue for me. And yes, the cups are too big

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

You need a good strapless bra and you need to have it on when you are doing alterations.  That will make a big difference.  

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I would talk to a few seamstresses/tailors well versed in wedding dresses and see what they say. Then we can help you draft an argument to the shop. 

It does not matter that you ordered the dress a size bigger. You did it on their recommendation. And the alterations you need are not out of the ordinary. Hell, I lost over 40 pounds, and my shop’s seamstress was able to alter it to fit me perfectly. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I don’t have much experience with alterations, but my one regret about my dress was that I let the seamstress and my mom talk me into more bra padding than I felt comfortable with, so do stand your ground and keep insisting on what you want.

Other than that, I just wanted to say – I think this is a beautiful dress and you look really lovely in it! I love the lace, and the belt is just the right touch of bling. I hope you find a tailor that can make it fit to your body the way you want, but if I went to your wedding and you wore the dress the way it looks now, I’d think you were gorgeous 🙂

 

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Find a new seamstress now. The current seamstress is incompetent, and I wouldn’t trust the store to find someone else for you. Do a Google search for bridal alterations specialists in your area (don’t go to an ordinary tailor who just does jackets and pants) and read their reviews on Yelp.

When you find someone with good reviews, take your dress to them and say you want the bra cups removed and replaced with smaller ones. This is an easy fix, and it will make you look a million times better in your dress. They’ll probably have to take the bust in before sewing in the new cups.

If you still feel like the neckline is hanging too low, you can always have straps added to pull up the dress a little. Good luck!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I would find a new seamstress. Have you paid the $600 yet? If so, did you pay with a credit card?

Also, I would reach out to the dress designer via social media. They might be able to help you put pressure on the dress shop. They won’t be happy to be misrepresented this way by one of their distributors.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I would also modify your argument a bit.

Tell them that changing the cup size is a normal, standard alteration. Yet they pushed you to order up a size and sign an alterations contract for $600 knowing that their seamstress could not handle the alteration. Then their seamstress also botched the waist and hips.

It is a subtle difference but a more effective argument.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2020

Everyone has terrific ideas!! I hope you keep us posted on the rest of the process.

IMO you look fantastic! What you notice, I can barely tell. But I am just like you with obsessing over the details! It seems like with a little extra work and money, you can have it all 🙂 

best of luck!!

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