- 9 years ago
- Wedding: November 2009
I just have to vent. I am getting married in November. I have tried on about 40 dresses over the course of the past three months. I have found a total of 3 dresses that I could imagine myself wearing. The first one, by Demetrios, was in a sample store (I didn’t know there was such a thing) and 2 sizes too small and was from a collection 4 years ago. Needless to say, I could not order it in my size because it’s discontinued. (I discovered this AFTER I was told by the salesperson that all their dresses could be ordered. She forgot to mention that if there was a sale tag on it, it couldn’t.) Unable to find it online new or used. On with my search.
I go to "I Do, I Do" in Phoenix. I find a Maggie Sottero "Gatsby" dress. Fall in love. Only the dress is about 4 sizes too small and when I try it on, I can’t even get a grasp of an idea of what it would look like on me. I can’t order a dress that I have no idea what it will look like on me. I call every local boutique that carries Maggie Sottero. Not one has the "Gatsby" as a sample. On with my search.
Yesterday, a local boutique calls me to tell me they have a new sample of something I might like. (I’ve explained ALL I’ve gone through, all the disappointments, to her…she’s very in tune with what I want and my anxiety as my time to order keeps ticking by the second. I like her very much. She’s been very helpful in my search.) I go in to try it on and it’s not really right for me. While in the dressing room, her assistants bring me several dresses they say are comparable to a particular dress I have been asking about, but that they don’t have in stock as a sample. The dresses they bring in are all Paloma and Jasmine dresses. All the Palomas are about $600 – $1,000 above my $1,000 budget. They are all one to two sizes too small for me but they say "Try them anyway…you’lll get an idea and we can order it if you like it." They’re right. I try them on and despite the fact that it is a size 12 and two sizes too small, I find one that I **love** the instant I put it on. This is MY dress. This is THE ONE. It’s a Paloma Blanca Style 3659. It makes me look slender (I’m a size 14 street, so I need a 16 wedding gown.) I don’t blink an eye. This is MY dress. I look at the price tag. $1,600. I swallow. I call my Fiance. I tell him I found it, but it’s way over my budget. I tell him the price and he says "This is it, right?" and I say "Yes" and he says "Go for it then". I set another appointment for Saturday to show my mother, race home to go online to find the dress (and see if I can find it for cheaper). Nobody is selling it in my size used. I’ve found it smaller, but not my size or bigger. I call another local boutique that carries Paloma to find out if they offer a better price. Come to find out, it’s DISCONTINUED! DISCONTINUED! (I’m feeling like a Bridezilla at this moment because my blood is boiling as I type this.)
Knowing all that I have been going through, they send a dress TWO SIZES TO SMALL into the dressing room with me off their discontinued rack. (And, yes, they have a separate discontinued rack.) A dress I CANNOT order. A dress that is TWO SIZES TOO SMALL for me. I am soooooo FRUSTRATED. That’s the THIRD dress I’ve found that I cannot have. Not because I don’t want to pay the enormously outrageous price, but because it’s simply NOT AVAILABLE for me to order.
I call the store today and point this all out and they tell me that the seamstress is wonderful (which I do not doubt…I’ve met her and seen her work), and that she can make the Size 12 gown fit my size 14 body despite the fact that I would typically need a size 16 in a wedding dress. HOW are they going to do this without changing the structure of the original dress? HOW? Where are they going to get the material? How are they going to hide the stitch marks? So I am to throw down $1,600 for a dress that may not even turn out to fit me properly?
I am soooooo tired of the trouble I’m having finding a dress. I’m SICK of it!