Dress anxiety less than 4 months out :(

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
2126 posts
Buzzing bee

The 3300 is a sunk cost. For 1000 you can get the dress altered to be just right, or you can find another dress within that price range. I’m not going to advise you on which to do, because that’s your decision. But remember why you love this dress, and why you chose it. I know you’re looking at lots of faults in it now, but if it weren’t so dark would you still feel the same? 

My understanding is that there isn’t much of a market for wedding dresses.Super small or super big dresses make that even harder. 

If I were in your shoes, I would get the alterations done and stick with my original dress. 

Post # 3
6560 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I’d never be able to forgive myself if my grandmother had spent $3300 on my dress and I didn’t wear it. I think you have psyched yourself out about the dress, but as the PP said, remember why you bought it in the first place. It is likely that anyone who sees you in it will think it is gorgeous.

Post # 4
3010 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I found the original thread and your dress seriously looks amazing on you. Perfectly figure flattering and the shade of ivory compliments your blonde hair and deep tan and doesn’t look champagne at all. Calm down and don’t mess with your beautiful dress.

Post # 5
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think Isabelle is totally right. Your dress doesnt look yellow at all to me. The lace really pops and all the rest is said above me. Dont worry!! 

Post # 6
1279 posts
Bumble bee

is_a_belle :  agree. 

Bee, your dress is very flattering to your figure. It’s a pleasing color. It was an expensive dress to start. Don’t have your seamstress rip it apart. 

Post # 7
940 posts
Busy bee

Can we see a picture of you wearing your dress? Honestly though, in a photograher’s picture, your dress will probably look more white and plain than it does in real life, unless you’re looking at a close up shot.  I would try not to worry.  i went back to look at your previous post, and your dress is so amazingly stunning!

Post # 8
386 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Google “sunk cost fallacy.” And then pay the $1k for the alterations. No brand new $1000 dress will come close to a customized $3300+ gown.

Post # 9
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I looked at the dress and honestly snap out of it ITS PERFECT and you look amazing. Everyone will see how pretty you look they sure as heck won’t see any yellow and say omg her dress wasn’t stark white ! Come on home stretch here !!

Post # 10
1741 posts
Bumble bee

I’m very picky about yellowy dresses and it doesn’t look yellow on you. I think you’re overthinking it. Since I don’t want my dress to come across yellowy, I’m planning to get a tan so it looks more white. Maybe you could try that.

Post # 11
3971 posts
Honey bee

I’m joining the chorous of people telling you that you are over thinking this one.

Post # 12
626 posts
Busy bee

I looked at your old post and the dress looks beautiful and perfect on you.

I understand how easy it is to get sucked into wedding planning and become fixated on everything being exactly perfect. I don’t blame you for that, but I do think that’s where you are now.

I honestly think you’ll be happier if you donate $500 to charity, wear the beautiful dress as it is, and move on.

Post # 13
3874 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

It’s gorgeous. I had a champagne dress and from what I can see in the photographer’s sneak peek it looks white. 

Post # 15
942 posts
Busy bee

Whether it will sell quickly or not depends on the style of the dress. If it’s very generic design with a generic brand, it’ll take longer. I’m a size 0 as well 🙂 it’s pretty hard tbh to find a preowned dress that I don’t have to size down.


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