(Closed) Dress anxiety: When to Stop Looking and say YES???

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

When is your wedding?

I had to finally say yes to get the dress in time.  I loved shopping though!

I’ve already had my first fitting, and I’m still not sure it’s THE ONE, but it is the one I’ll be getting married in at this point!!

What’s wrong with the one you posted?

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Cherry Orchard

Did you feel wonderful in the Jasmine dress? The only advice I have is that if you feel gorgeous and confident, GO FOR IT–and then STOP looking at dresses. Completely. While i was waiting for my dress, i kept looking at dress posts and it made me doubt my decision so hard. When i finally got my dress and put it on, the feelings of confidence immediately rushed back and i knew it was the one.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Hated shopping. I found a couple dresses on an online sample sale and bought what I liked best. Do I love it and feel special? No. Its pretty though. I’m just happy to be under budget and be done with dress shopping!!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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elliecee:  I’m glad I’m not the only one. I like dresses, love fancy dresses but can’t get my mind spending so much on a dress I will wear once! I’m a cynic but so many had huge price tags but looked cheap to me. The value didn’t match. I would rather get a less expensive dress and a nice laptop (mine died two weeks ago). To me, that’s practical. But for the ladies who find the dream dress, who get so excited- more power to ya! Wish I wasn’t such a cynic. 

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Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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elliecee:  Is there one particular dress that you don’t want to take off? Is there a dress that no matter how many dresses you try on you keep coming back to? If you can answer yes to both of these questions than that is the dress you should say yes too.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Cherry Orchard

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elliecee:  That seems like a great plan! I did have my sister with me as well (we live about 8 hours from our family) and it made a difference. She knew it was my dress before i did!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Ever After Banquet Hall

If you say yes to that dress, will you lose sleep wondering what else is out there? When you see yourself in it, are you thinking, “this is a pretty dress,” or “OMG I’m getting married!” When you visualize yourself walking down the aisle, what are you wearing? That dress or is it still vague?

Instinctively, you will know when you have the right one, but overthinking it can always get in the way. I say this knowing full well that, yes, I say this to brides all the time (I work in a bridal shop) and yet I did the exact same thing. I had tried my dress on several times at work, but felt I had to shop. The day I did go shopping, I was getting super frustrated at other stores. Even when I went back to my store and tried it on for my sister and friend, I was still overthinking it. I made a coworker help me out by doing a visualization exercise we like to do, but we all do it a little differently. If you can jsut stop, close your eyes, put yourself on your wedding day, walking down the aisle, focusing on all the little details around you (flowers, candles, friends and family, etc…), you will automatically picture yourself in the gown of your dreams. Don’t try to force a certain dress on yourself….just let the picture in your mind unfold on it’s own.

Hope this helps! Good luck!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Magnolia House

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elliecee:  I absolutely hate dress shopping so I dreaded it like the plague. I had looked online and was absolutely sure it was between 2 a-lines that I picked out. Went in to try it on and hated them! I ended up with a ballgown. I did not cry or even get emotional at all. I just liked how I felt in it. I felt like a princess bride and was like yep I like this lets go. BUT I have had to stop looking at them or I start questioning myself. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I was in your boat a couple of months ago. I dreaded dress shopping, because I know what I like and what I don’t. I felt like I was just nixing every single dress that I tried on. Like you I didn’t want strapless and as you know the majority of wedding dresses are strapless. I am also very petite and it was hard to visualize how the gown would look on me when everything was so big. It can sometimes help to stop dress shopping for awhile to clear your head and pinpoint what it is that you’re really looking for. That’s what I did and I found my dress after trying on 50+ dresses over several months. After I found the one I stopped searching for other dresses because if you keep looking you’ll always find something. Good luck with you dress search! I actually ended with a dress similar to the one you’re considering!

 

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Magnolia House

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elliecee:  Actually it was the 2nd! She put me in a mermaid first! LOL I about died but after I got it on it wasn’t so bad, then she brought the ballgown as I was like no way! But I tried it on and I really liked it, then she brought me the a-lines I wanted and a trumpet – ya no on that one! I like the ballgown best so she brought me 4 of them to try on. I decided since I’m top heavy no strapless and that narrowed it down to 2, price helped me pick the winner!   

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