(Closed) Dress Anxiety

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

yes I feel the SAME way.  I think we need to stop looking at all of the other dresses out there ๐Ÿ˜‰    They are all so gorgeous.

I do really really like my dress- but sometimes i think, what about that one…….but in the end I know I picked a beautiful dress, that fits me great, looks great on, and was within budget.  

Lets make a deal not to overthink it.  Oh but its hard not to


Post # 4
3 posts
  • Wedding: July 2006

i totally understand where you are coming from!  i bought a dress and kept looking at othe ones online. 

and one night, i saw one and thought THIS IS THE ONE.

my Bridesmaid or Best Man had great advice that i should try the new one on just to be sure.  lo and behold, i LOVED it.

so now i have two dresses and need to sell one.

good luck!

Post # 5
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

It’s ok, I think it’s totally natural. I felt the same way after I bought my dress too. It lasted about a month, and I’d have to go to my moms and open it up and look at it…just to feel a little better.

I think when you have it in your little mitts you’ll feel much better.

 PS – dress is beautiful and oddly enough looks a little like one I’m selling…LOL!


Post # 6
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

I haven’t purchased my dress yet, but I understand your anxiety! I have already been to 10+ bridal stores and tried on 50+ dresses because I am so scared that if I don’t see and/or try on everything in my area (both in South Carolina where I live and in Michigan where I’m getting married) I will have regrets!

 The truth is I found my dress already… I know it… but I am still going to 5 more stores (2 in Georgia, 3 in North Carolina) before I will let myself purchase it! And I’m having my mom fly down from Michigan to see it, just to make sure!

My advice is to be happy in knowing how much you LOVE your dress! And you said it yourself, you came back to this one! That was definitely for a reason ๐Ÿ™‚ Plus, your dress is gorgeous, elegant and timeless. You’ll look back at your wedding photos and think only about how much you LOVED that dress and that amazing day and not think for a second about any other dresses. Just remember, you trusted your instincts for a reason ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Luckily my weeks and weeks of tearing photos from magazines and printing photos from websites resulted in the end in a stack of 8 photos that were essentially of the same dress – same style, just a little different interpretation.  And then we actually found my favorite, and it looked exactly like I thought it would.  It was only in the second store we went to, but we ordered it on the spot and I cancelled the rest of my appointments in relief. 

Post # 8
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I totally know how you feel.  I’m naturally an indecisive person and this is such a big purchase. I bought the dress in November and loved it,  but about a month afterwards I’ve had so many second thoughts. I’m sure I’m just going crazy, I loved the dress when I bought it.  It hasn’t come in yet, but when it does I’ll be in ASAP to try it on ๐Ÿ™‚

 It doesn’t help that there is a picture of my dress in one of the wedding magazines, and I keep looking at it. The dress does not suit the model,  she looks like she has broad shoulders or something and her hair is all messy, and she’s kind of bent in a weird pose. Its just not that flattering on her. I should really throw out the magazine because every time I look at it, it makes me think that I’m going to look like that. 

 Lately I’ve been second guessing the color.  My dress is Ivory, but I think maybe I should have got White.. I worry that the Ivory is too yellowish.  I don’t know,  it’s just silly and I know that the dress is beautiful and well, its not in the budget to get a new one.  I think everyone has dress anxiety at some point.  

Post # 9
383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

yes!!!!  which is why i have three…

i want to wear a different dress for our honeymoon – ok no i dont – but i think we always like looking at all the gorgeous dresses!!

Post # 10
306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Wow! Nice to know I’m not in this alone. I didn’t buy my dress yet but I too have tried on quite a few. I’m having attacks b/c I have to order a dress within the next 2wks in order to get it on time AND THEN have it altered b/c I’m so frickin’ short! I’m torn between two dresses at the moment but I keep thinkin’ I have to try on more at other shops just in case there’s some more out there that might look nice on me.

 There’s one that I liked that looked gorgeous on one of the girls at the bridal store. I made an appointment for the next wk to try on the same dress. I loved it on me as much as I loved it on her. It has a corset top with an A-line skirt. And of course a lil bit of deco on it. Not too much. But then a week ago I tried on an "ugly" dress. Yes, I said ugly b/c when I pulled it off the rack I thought "eww" I should try this on.. Yes I’m wierd. I believe every dress should be given a chance in the lime light. When I put it on it was gorgeous. Granted it was three times my size but when they use that clip on you it just held in all the right places. It had just enough stones on the front and a lil applique by the waist. It’s actually a trumpet style dress ( one I never thought I would ever try on ) but was a style that’s recommended if you’re petite (I’m 5-01) It’s also your basic white wedding dress. I don’t want you guys to think I picked some lime green or orange dress. Ha Ha..

When I came home that day I pulled up the photo of the dress from the designer’s website. No wonder I never noticed it. It looked so horrible on the model! I have pictures of me in the dress but every time I flip to the model I keep thinking I do not want to look like that! I don’t know what to do. My Boyfriend or Best Friend obviously knows me best and what flatters my built. But she doesn’t want to decide for me. Which is fine.
Well, I think I rambled enough. Thanks for listening girls!

Post # 11
153 posts
Blushing bee

BIS- I love your dress!!  IT’s very pretty!  I do understand what you are going through though.   I am really small and went for a memaid style dress… The dress gave me a great shape and was really flattering, and i seemed lost in those ball gown dresses.  But now i am wondering if i should have gone with the whole ‘princess vibe’  since you can only do it once…

Post # 13
22 posts
  • Wedding: October 2008

That dress is gorgeous!!!  You will look lovely!

 I went through the same thing.  I was going back and forth between two completely different dresses: one that was lace and beads and really had the "vintage" vibe I wanted, and one that was simpler but cut more beautifully.  I went with the simpler one because it was more of what I wanted all along, and it was so much more comfortable!!  I spent the night after I purchased tossing and turning; dreaming that I wouldn’t have the wedding I wanted without that other dress.  By the light of day I realized that both dresses were gorgeous, and that comfort winss out in the end.  It is, afterall, a glorified party dress!

 So relax, that dress looks perfect.  And remember: it’s the bride who makes the dress… not the other way around!

Post # 14
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

the same thing happened to me. i had been searching for what seemed like forever & had tried on a LOT of dresses. i just couldnt find "the one" within my budget and i probably should have tried to find a seamstress to make it. But finally i found one i really really liked & ordered it that day, but the next day was looking at dresses again online & almost called the store to see if i could cancel. it didnt help that i ended up with a poufier dress than my fi generally likes, more beading and pickups than i really wanted, and it’s light gold so my dad was wondering why i didnt get a white dress.  oh, and it has a serious train which i didnt want either, and it’s not as flattering in the boob area (aka doesnt make them look huge) like a corset style would. sounds to  me like, why the hell did i buy this?! BUT of all the dozens and dozens of dresses i tried on, this was the one i liked, and everyone with me liked, the best. another girl saw me in it & wanted to try it on. everyone who saw me in it, loved it. it’s a gorgeous dress, and isnt what i wanted at all, or thought i’d like, but i do love it!! i cant wait until april when it comes in.

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