- 3 years ago
So this is my first post! I went dress shopping for the first time with my mom and sister yesterday. I had done a lot of research prior to dress shopping and had it in my head that I wanted a lace a-line type dress with lace/illusion sleeves. However, upon showing up at the bridal salon, I tried on a couple strapless a-line/ballgown style dresses and we decided it just didn’t look right on me. I have a curvy hourglass shape and we decided to try on some more fitted dresses. Upon trying on a couple trumpet/fit and flare type dresses, we decided that this shape definitely looked best on me. So we found a dress that’s in between a trumpet/fit and flare style and when she put it on, I was watching as she laced up the corset and I loved it. I loved the shape it gave me and I just felt really pretty in it. My sister also loved it and my mom did too, although my mom thought she may have liked a previous dress better. I tried on the previous dress again and instantly knew that no, the second dress was way better. So after staring at myself in the big mirrors for several minutes and discussing options, I hesitated. Everyone said it was okay if I decided to wait, which I considered. But then I looked at myself again and decided no, there’s nothing I would change about this dress and I love the way it looks on me, so I ended up buying it.
The problem now is that I am not sure if I am having buyer’s remorse. The style that I got (trumpet/fit and flare) is my least favorite style and looking at dresses of that style online, I don’t like them at all. I had no intention of buying that style and I’m still drawn to more of the a-line styles. However, I also know that trying on that style looked way better on me and my fiance will also appreciate seeing more of my curves. Everyone said I have the perfect body type for the dress. But I just can’t get over the fact that I hate that style of dress, except when it was on? I don’t even know if that makes sense! I just keep thinking about the previous a-line style I for sure thought I wanted, and I have seen a couple of dresses online that I wish I could try on and keep thinking what if I liked one of those better?
The other concern is that I’m in the process of losing weight, which I started before my engagement, so it’s not just for my wedding. I’ve already lost 23 pounds since July and plan to ideally lose another 40-50 in the next year. I bought the dress in my current size and kind of got talked out of ordering 1 size down. The problem is that I KNOW I will lose at least 1 dress size down. I was told that they can take it in up to 3 sizes, but IF I do lose 40-50 pounds, can they take it in enough? I am regretting not getting it 1 size smaller as that way I could basically have a dress 4 sizes smaller if needed. My wedding is still 10.5 months away.
I know there are a lot of posts about wedding dress regret, so that at least helps me feel like this is normal. I feel so guilty because my mom bought my dress and it was more expensive than I planned. I’m really close to her but don’t even want to mention my anxiety because I don’t want to hurt her feelings or have her feel like she just spent a lot of money on something I’m unsure of. I’m pretty sure that I do love the dress and I will be beautiful and my fiance will LOVE my curves, but I just can’t get past the idea that I hated this style and I am drawn to other styles. How do you pick just ONE dress out of thousands?! I guess I am just looking for moral support and to know that these feelings are normal. How do you guys get past them?