(Closed) dress as a guest question– again, too much white or fine?!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Too much white as a guest, or totally cute & wearable??
    No, too much white. don't do it. : (42 votes)
    28 %
    Yes, its fine, do it! : (108 votes)
    72 %
  • Post # 3
    196 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think it’d be absolutely fine, unless the bride is planning to wear a bold polka dot dress. 🙂

    Post # 4
    1810 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I love that dress and I agree with the PP, unless the bride is planning on wearing bold polka dots on her dress, I think you’ll be fine!

    Post # 5
    341 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    That dress would never bother me!  Its very very cute!  If you have any doubts though I would maybe ask the bride or someone close to the bride.  You never know how someone else wil react.

    Post # 7
    631 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    It’s great. I might pull in more black accessories- necklace, earrings, purse.

    Post # 9
    631 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Oh I thought it was black. What about white jewelry as in the picture and red cardi, shoes, purse. I think too much red might look like a flag!!!!!

    Post # 10
    901 posts
    Busy bee

    I think it’s fine, especially with a red cardigan and red accessories.

    Post # 11
    915 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m going to take the minority position and say too much white. 

    I think if you have to ask — don’t wear it. It doesn’t matter if you wouldn’t care at your wedding, why risk offending the bride, especially when you have literally every other color of dress to choose from?

    Post # 12
    1548 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    That dress is adorable! I really think the whole “don’t wear white to a wedding” concept is pretty outdated. Unless you plan on wearing a white lace gown, or something similar, most brides wouldn’t care or notice. No one is going to mistake a guest in white for the bride. 

    Post # 13
    59 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think it should be fine, especially since the dress is clearly not a super fancy beautiful ultra white to the floor, etc etc. It’s has huge polkadots on it, which pretty much negates the white. And obviously, if you are really concerned, ask someone who is close with the bride, or if you know the bride personally and don’t think she would mind if you asked, just ask her. I feel like it would only be a problem if your dress was pure white, only white, etc.

     I do think, that some brides would complain about shocking accessories (I didn’t, though I’m considered unconventional) Such as the red accessories you spoke of.

    But as always, I see nothing wrong with asking!

    If you are really concerned, you could cover up with the yellow cardigan instead.

    And of course, if you’ve received any hints from other guests, the bride herself, or have the invitation that decribes what to wear.. always pay special attention to that!

    The setting is important too, like you described, and I don’t think you bold polka dot dress is going to stand out on a beach, where the bride will be stunning in white, and you’ll be in the crowd, in a polka dotted dress.


    Haha! 🙂 Good luck!

    Post # 15
    868 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    great dress! I would go with the cardigan fir the majority of the day for an extra level of this-is-not-white.

    Post # 16
    814 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Looks fine. The whole white thing is totally overblown IMO and really… the bride wont be polkadotted. Cute dress 🙂

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